An old friend has a very busy social life. Always out with friends and on nights out etc. always attending lots of events and parties. These are usually with his DW's friends.
Friend always needs a lot of notice to meet up etc. my H and I have noticed that he seems to only make time for us when his DW and DD are out of town. We occasionally see the DW too, but usually we see the friend on his own.
My H doesn't like this and doesn't feel it's right. Would you continue to see this friend? Or should I bring it up and ask if DW has a problem with us ?
The other thing the friend and his DW do frequently is cancel plans with us and also ask us if we are available at short notice, where if we ever asked them ( which we have ) we always get to hear that they won't be free for a really long time. But they expect us to be free, say on a Monday - they'll ask if we are around on the same Saturday. We have asked them a couple of times to meet with a couple of weeks notice and it was all too short notice for them.
I don't know, I don't want to be petty, but my H is really unhappy about this and it really annoys him how they behave. I don't think it's great either, but if I cut off everyone who acts a bit like this, then I would never keep any friends. We don't see each other a lot and I have plenty of other friends that are a bit more respectful. My H is going to the level that he doesn't want the friend to even bother coming to see us, unless his DW and DD are also there. ( we also have kids )..,