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Neighbour’s vicious cat

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Firsttimetrier · 17/11/2022 17:58

Our neighbour bought a bengal cat which they started letting out this summer. It’s caused us and our other neighbours nothing but grief by attacking our cats resulting in vet visits due to bite wounds, coming into our houses, spraying urine everywhere in gardens and on back doors etc.

This afternoon, I had our backdoor ajar and our baby in the bouncer in the kitchen. Next thing I know, their cat comes flying into the kitchen trying to attack our cat right by our baby in the bouncer. I manage to break up the fight and their cat then goes towards the baby still in attack mode.

This has completely shaken me up and my husband has messaged the neighbour to discuss as their cat is starting to become nuisance.

We’ve offered them solutions in the past such as alternating days/times when each cat goes out, but they never hold their side.

Are we being unreasonable asking them to stick to a timetable?

Any tips welcome and greatly appreciated.

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Mumsnut · 18/11/2022 11:27

Maybe a sparkler, if you have any left over from Bonfire Night?

ryantubridysthumb · 18/11/2022 11:28

Just aim a good kick at it if it comes near and it'll stay away. Not very PC but life isn't PC.

ZealAndArdour · 18/11/2022 11:29

I’m surprised at all these outdoor Bengal’s. Don’t they get stolen/fed and misappropriated? Besides the point of the thread, jsut curious.

Do they end up being let outside as an easy option, because their owners don’t properly prepare themselves for the amount of interaction and stimulation they’re actually going to need as house cats?

Tessasanderson · 18/11/2022 11:29

Cancelledtwiceover · 18/11/2022 11:23

We had a cat for 21yrs. It once made the mistake of damaging a brand new stair carpet. It didnt enjoy the shower it took for a few minutes (I was covered in scratches). It never touched another carpet in its life and i inflicted zero pain on it.
What a shitty, cruel thing to do to an old cat.
Fucking hell, I'd have phoned the RSPCA if you'd told me you done that.
Angry just thinking about it. I sincerely hope you don't have any more pets. Poor cat.

Tell me the difference between that and a super soaker? I caught my cat, she was young at the time, damaging the carpet. I dealt with it without harming it and it never repeated it. Win Win Win. We were cuddled up on the couch a couple of hours later with her purring away.

However i suppose i could have talked to her, asked her not to do it again. Maybe go out and purchase some citrus spray or maybe spread some lion shit from the nearest zoo.

No i dealt with it, made sure i didnt have an ongoing issue and in the long run it meant my cat knew i would not put up with any shite. Oh and it also meant we got along really well and she lived a long and healthy life.

Stick your offence up your arse

UndisclosedBlackPudding · 18/11/2022 11:31

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YES! Ask the neighbours about their public liability insurance. Totally will pull the stupid irresponsible fuckers up.

This is not an ordinary domestic cat. This cat is a danger to your baby. You have to do something.

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 18/11/2022 11:31

We had this years ago, though not with a Bengal. Our own cat was nearly killed.

The vet's advice was to trap the vicious cat in an empty dustbin with a few inches of water in it. And then gently roll the dustbin along on its side. The aim is not to harm the cat in any way, but to give it an unpleasant experience that deters it from ever coming into the garden again. The water was only a very small amount, to annoy the cat - it was not in any danger. It wasn't easy to do, but it worked.

I didn't do this lightly - I am a cat-lover. But it was either that or see our own cat repeatedly injured and possibly killed.

ZealAndArdour · 18/11/2022 11:32

Miss03852 · 18/11/2022 10:58

This situation is actually imo WORSE than a dangerous dog situation as they are mostly on a lead and largely the owner’s problem.

Not sure about that one. One of my lovely colleagues cats was torn to shreds in her own private garden last week by a neighbours two dogs; a German shepherd and an Alsatian.

She never left her own safe garden but they got in and destroyed her. My colleague had to pick up her eviscerated little cat from her garden and wash away all her blood from the grass. When she went to tell the neighbour they just shrugged and said “well they’re trained to hunt small furry things”. Doesn’t bare thinking about if colleague had had her grandchild in her bouncer chair in the garden.

Quincythequince · 18/11/2022 11:35

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Completely agree!
What kind of an irresponsible lunatic thinks that a vicious animal, because it has t attacked your baby (yet), but routinely postures in your territory and tries to attack your cat, isn’t a problem.

Some people

MuraRocker · 18/11/2022 11:35

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Firsttimetrier · 18/11/2022 11:36

@ZealAndArdour I get the impression from them that it’s an easier life for them for him to be outside. He doesn’t use a litter tray indoors and gets very worked up if he’s kept inside a lot.

He has a tracker on his collar due to the risks of threat.

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Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 18/11/2022 11:42

So we now have the following suggestions..
Run the cat over
Hit it with a pool cue
Lock it in a shed (to starve to death?)
Throw it out of an upstairs window
Any number of vague death threats
Kick it on the face
Attack it with a sparkler.
Surprised nobody has suggested an acid bath or skinning alive yet?
When you get problems with your children engaging in violent behaviour - just remember they learnt it from you.
Or just maybe the violent suggestions are coming from tedious keyboard warrier fantasists who just like to pretend that they are big bad sadistic bastards?

Ihatecocomelon · 18/11/2022 11:42

Right claws out (pardon the pun) they haven't done what they said they would. Where's the end point? When your baby is seriously hurt? They sound like they didn't even really care when you told them what happened. If that had been a pet of mine I would be apologising profusely and wonder if I should rehome the animal to someone with experience. Doesn't matter how nice they are, they're being cheeky feckers. I'd say run the bastard over

Ihatecocomelon · 18/11/2022 11:44

Firsttimetrier · 18/11/2022 11:36

@ZealAndArdour I get the impression from them that it’s an easier life for them for him to be outside. He doesn’t use a litter tray indoors and gets very worked up if he’s kept inside a lot.

He has a tracker on his collar due to the risks of threat.

Well they shouldn't have the pet then. Report to rspca

Cancelledtwiceover · 18/11/2022 11:44

Tell me the difference between that and a super soaker? I caught my cat, she was young at the time, damaging the carpet. I dealt with it without harming it and it never repeated it. Win Win Win. We were cuddled up on the couch a couple of hours later with her purring away.

Training animals doesn't work that way. I doubt they associated the shower with your precious carpet, more with you being an inhumane twat.
Poor animal.

MuraRocker · 18/11/2022 11:46

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PurpleButterflyWings · 18/11/2022 11:49

PigLightingBastard · 17/11/2022 18:18

As another Bengal adjacent cat owner you have my sympathy. I've now got a supply of cat first aid stuff and cones of shame for the scratches. And a loaded, very large water pistol by the back door for when the arsehole squares up to me.

This. ^ Water pistol! Or some kind of squirty bottle full of water! Bengals are stunning cats. But they ARE vicious! You do sometimes get that with 'pedigree' animals. @Firsttimetrier Hope you get it sorted. Flowers

Miss03852 · 18/11/2022 11:50

Or just maybe the violent suggestions are coming from tedious keyboard warrier fantasists who just like to pretend that they are big bad sadistic bastards?

Did you miss the part about the cat terrorising and injuring the other poor cats?! You must be a sadistic bastard and enjoy the poor neighbourhood cats being hurt.

BooksAreSaferThanPeople · 18/11/2022 11:51

prettyLittlefool · 18/11/2022 11:13

Unlike dogs, cats are free spirits in law l, and I'm afraid the owner holds no responsibility for the cats actions.
It's up to you to prevent unwanted animals entering your home.

That's bollocks.

Cats are permitted to roam but owners still have legal responsibilities if the owners know that their cat is likely to be aggressive and cause damage or injury.

www.catbehaviourist.com/blog/cats-law-uk/

Meseekslookatme · 18/11/2022 11:51

WeebleGirl · 18/11/2022 06:46

@Firsttimetrier The amount of neighbours' cats who have waltzed into our homes over the years. They're chancers! Normal cat behaviour!

Also, vet bills for fighting injuries - normal. All of our cats have had antibiotics of some kind over the years. Some have been fighters, some passive.

Sorry but if a neighbour came to me with the same concerns as you I wouldn't do anything.

In my mind your solutions are:

  • Properly assert yourself when dealing with the Bengal. You're bigger and scarier. Make him know that. If you're panicking and fearful he will pick up on it. Don't be scared of being scratched. Be the fucking boss here.
  • Make your cat a house cat.
  • Get another cat.
  • Re-home your cat.

The "I wouldn't do anything" is fairly common among cat owners.
I wouldn't do anything to hold back if it was on my property, spraying and fighting.
You'd soon do something if your cat got injured I suspect.
If it's half as bad as the op says, I wouldn't be surprised if it doesn't come home one day.
Zero responsibility goes both ways.

MuraRocker · 18/11/2022 11:51

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Fleurdaisy · 18/11/2022 11:51

He won’t be scared of water until you soak him with it. I’m an animal lover but your baby could have been harmed ( and as someone who’s had cat scratch fever I don’t recommend it)
Get one of those kid’s soaker guns and blast the cat. And tell your neighbours if any of your family is harmed by their cat you will be employing a solicitor.

Quincythequince · 18/11/2022 11:52

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 18/11/2022 11:42

So we now have the following suggestions..
Run the cat over
Hit it with a pool cue
Lock it in a shed (to starve to death?)
Throw it out of an upstairs window
Any number of vague death threats
Kick it on the face
Attack it with a sparkler.
Surprised nobody has suggested an acid bath or skinning alive yet?
When you get problems with your children engaging in violent behaviour - just remember they learnt it from you.
Or just maybe the violent suggestions are coming from tedious keyboard warrier fantasists who just like to pretend that they are big bad sadistic bastards?

Any mixing animal that was a direct treat to my defenceless baby, could expect all of that, if I had to.

And you need to ask yourself what kind of a parent you were/are - if you wouldn’t go to similar lengths to prevent serious injury to your child.

Being swiped with a broom/pool cue is nothing.

It needs to be robustly, physically challenged - many of those are reasonable suggestions.

TortugaRumCakeQueen · 18/11/2022 11:53

If a dog bit your baby, it would get PTS. Why should this be any different?

Tessasanderson · 18/11/2022 11:53

Cancelledtwiceover · 18/11/2022 11:44

Tell me the difference between that and a super soaker? I caught my cat, she was young at the time, damaging the carpet. I dealt with it without harming it and it never repeated it. Win Win Win. We were cuddled up on the couch a couple of hours later with her purring away.

Training animals doesn't work that way. I doubt they associated the shower with your precious carpet, more with you being an inhumane twat.
Poor animal.

And yet it worked. She never touched the carpet ever again, she got a little wet and she always knew that if she stepped out of line she wouldnt get away with it.

But ok, your doubt and calling me a twat makes you correct. You didnt answer my question. Whats the difference between a shower and a super soaker. Or do you just want to single out my solution.

Quincythequince · 18/11/2022 11:53

And the disingenuity of comparing a cat to a human child.

Shove off!