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What careers sound good on paper nightmare in reality and what sounds nightmare on paper good in reality.

388 replies

Cupcakeicecream · 17/11/2022 16:05

On paper teaching sounds great, all those weeks off. Weekends off working in primary schools sounds fun secondary schools you can specialise in a subject you prefer. Reality grading lesson plans admin alot of work not enough pay.
Firefighters and police sounds fun reality dangerous.
In paper admin or reception jobs sounds boring and tedious paper work. But some have great hours and good work life balance.
In your opinion what jobs aren't worth the hype?

OP posts:
mam0918 · 18/11/2022 11:26

And the reason I left was they where putting down puppies because the owner paid for it, just for not meeting kennel club standards... yes I fully agree thats dodgy and horrific (and I HOPE most vets wouldn't but don't know) hense me leaving because I had a huge argument with the head vet and even offered to hand rear them myself but was told its the owners choice and they had been paid to do a job.

TheEponymousGrub · 18/11/2022 11:30

GP ... did all the med school training etc, qualified worked for two weeks and quit to run a post office.
OMG How did that pan out?! Maybe they didn't all have Horizon.

TheEponymousGrub · 18/11/2022 11:33

CherryRipe1 · 17/11/2022 17:27

GP according to my neighbour. She did all the med school training etc, qualified worked for two weeks and quit to run a post office. She said it was a dreadful profession.

OMG how did that pan out? - Thinking about the Horizon scandal.

(and now I know how to properly Quote PPs.)

CaptainMalcolmReynolds · 18/11/2022 11:47

Independent jeweller. On paper I thought I'd be playing with sparkly stones and shiny metal, creating beautiful things that would be worn by film stars and royalty.

In reality I'm permanently burning my hands, cutting myself and giving myself perma blisters from pliers and wire twisting. I'm competing with mass produced and copied tat from China that costs pennies whilst stopping my own designs from being ripped off. I think I've made about a tenner in profit over two years 🤣. It's a good job I never left my day job to pursue my dreams really.

BrioNotBiro · 18/11/2022 11:53

Local government; often wrongly perceived as time-serving, gold plated pension waitees (see previous poster's snidey comment).

In reality, a huge range of professional disciplines in which to be well trained, qualified and advanced in, with supportive colleagues. Great T&Cs and flexibility, good pension and comparative job security.

XelaM · 18/11/2022 11:54

Oysterbabe · 18/11/2022 10:26

Those of you who have escaped law, how did you do it and what do you do now? It's the only thing I'm qualified and experienced in but I hate it with the power of a thousand suns. When I'm walking to the office I fantasise about being hit by a car so I can have a nice stay in hospital instead. Anything else is going to involve a massive drop in salary which has been the main barrier. But I can't do this for another 25 years.

I really know what you mean! That's exactly how I felt at my old job. The way to escape law:

trainig rather than fee earning roles;
compliance roles;
HR (if you're an employment lawyer);
going in-house;
lecturing at university (although major pay cut, but can be done freelance in addition to another role).

All the above except lecturing can be extremely well-paid.

Lollygaggle · 18/11/2022 12:01

Can't agree enough about dentistry.

Incredibly stressful on mind and body , doing microsurgery on a conscious patient to an exacting timescale as well as running a business , mentoring training staff and colleagues etc .

Funny how everyone has or knows a dentist who runs a Porsche and works two days a week , when every dentist I know works their socks off to detriment of health for less and less each year.

Vulture legal firms and patients looking to make big bucks when you are trying your very best but the smallest mistake can cost you everything .

General Dental Council out to get you for slightest mistake , often taking years for a hearing during which time you can't work but won't publish how many dentists commit suicide during this time.

Patients moaning about costs of treatment saying "well that's paying for your next holiday" . No it's paying for dentists £80,000 of student debt , the thousands of pounds a year in registration , indemnity ,regulation , cpd etc.

The fact that you cannot afford to be sick , you cannot afford to get pregnant , you have to pay your practice for days off .

The fact that after many decades in dentistry , many qualifications , I have never paid above above standard rate tax , despite the last decade being mostly private.

The very real thrills of the job , getting someone nervous through a course of treatment happily, rebuilding a shattered mouth , learning and using a new technique is massively outweighed by the British public and government outright hostility to a medical profession that works hard,efficiently and ethically but is held to far higher standards than virtually any other profession .

You are more likely to be sued in the U.K. as a dentist than in any other place in the world , we are thirty times more regulated than any other place in the world . Is it any wonder that more than 90% of dentists would not recommend the career to their children?

I am one of the last in my dental school year still working . Ill health, stress , death, bankruptcy and finally covid has done for most everyone else. Dentists were at the highest risk for covid , we had virtually no support and in my practice all the dentists had to keep on working as we had no virtually financial help despite all of us being high risk because of age, medical conditions etc. I lived in a caravan on my drive for 12 months to protect my loved ones.

KimberleyClark · 18/11/2022 12:02

Onnabugeisha · 17/11/2022 17:53

Civil servant- everyone thinks it’s an easy job, boozy lunches, completely unsackable, low stress,

Reality- underpaid, high stress, politicians interfering, no private life, austerity/budget cuts mean rounds of sackings in which seniority matter more than performance for being kept on, a do more with less constant pressure until you shit diamonds. Scoffing food on the run (no lunches), lots of unpaid overtime and being on call. The feeling that the public hates you as incompetent and lazy when you’re neither.

Oh yes - everyone thinks you are a waste of public money if you are a civil servant.

Farmageddon · 18/11/2022 12:20

mam0918 · 17/11/2022 19:09

My first and only proper 'employed' job was at a vets... I loved animals and had visions of saving them all, in reality being a vet is mostly killing things (either leaving them to die in the death room, PTS, abortions or animals dying on the table from surgeries they shouldnt have been put through) mixed in with lots gross body fluids.

My job was infection control so I got to clean and sterilse all those lovely bodily leakages and cart all the bodies out to the incineration pick up point during lunch break.

I left because I got sick of the death, when they where putting down newborn puppies I had just had enough but if someone was paying they didn't care (and if someone wasn't paying the also didn't care hense the 'death room').

As awful as this sounds, I think you were just unlucky to work in a horrible place. I worked in a Vets a quite a few years ago as an animal care assistant, and it was nothing like this.
Yes there were PTS, but they were very respectfully done, usually with the owner in the room.
The Vets were stressed out, as they only had a short time for each consult, and sometimes owners could be demanding and reluctant to actually pay for the care their pet needed, or blamed the Vet for not having all the answers. I left with a huge amount of respect for the Vets, who all seemed to care about doing their best in a difficult situation.

IfOnlyOCould · 18/11/2022 12:23

I think it can depend with Civil Servant jobs. Some of my kids friends who are doing civil service graduate jobs seem to have it very easy compared with people in other graduate training jobs or similar. The pay can be good and the hours very reasonable compared with grad jobs in finance and engineering.

Obviously it varies massively though.

blueshoes · 18/11/2022 12:48

XelaM · 18/11/2022 11:54

I really know what you mean! That's exactly how I felt at my old job. The way to escape law:

trainig rather than fee earning roles;
compliance roles;
HR (if you're an employment lawyer);
going in-house;
lecturing at university (although major pay cut, but can be done freelance in addition to another role).

All the above except lecturing can be extremely well-paid.

Great list. Completely agree, as an ex-fee earner who has stayed in the law and managed not to take too much of a salary cut.

xogossipgirlxo · 18/11/2022 13:12

Wow, I am quite surprised how many of you find accounting jobs interesting. This was the worst choice to me.

TheKeatingFive · 18/11/2022 13:16

My DH worked for EY and did his chartered accountancy exams, but worked mostly in mergers and acquisitions and never did any actual accountancy work in his career. It's a broad umbrella.

xogossipgirlxo · 18/11/2022 13:21

TheKeatingFive · 18/11/2022 13:16

My DH worked for EY and did his chartered accountancy exams, but worked mostly in mergers and acquisitions and never did any actual accountancy work in his career. It's a broad umbrella.

I think the problem with me is that I always thought I am the kind of person who needs to know her schedule, so my day is pretty much planned. Turns out I don't cope that well with routine jobs (and where I work, which is typical accounting jobs) it's all about sticking to deadlines, doing the same sort of tasks all over again, with just name of the month being different and slightly different numbers on report. If I knew what I know now, when I was applying to uni, I would never choose this course. Not to mention, I am so sick of corporate culture and all these meaningless jobs. Unfortunately, parents play a big part in children's lives when it comes to choose your path.

Debsthegardener · 18/11/2022 13:33

Oysterbabe · 18/11/2022 10:26

Those of you who have escaped law, how did you do it and what do you do now? It's the only thing I'm qualified and experienced in but I hate it with the power of a thousand suns. When I'm walking to the office I fantasise about being hit by a car so I can have a nice stay in hospital instead. Anything else is going to involve a massive drop in salary which has been the main barrier. But I can't do this for another 25 years.

Oysterbabe - I quit law after 4 years and moved into legal headhunting - absolutely hated it but I earnt a lot of money (more than if I’d stayed as a lawyer). I saved everything and quit that 7 years ago and relocated to the Lakes. I retrained as a gardener and am now self-employed, I make £20 an hour which is far less than I used to earn but it covers my living expenses and I love what I do despite the rain! I used to think it was natural to hate your job 😉

TheKeatingFive · 18/11/2022 13:36

If I knew what I know now, when I was applying to uni, I would never choose this course.

I think it's almost impossible to know whether you'd like a job until you actually do it.

xogossipgirlxo · 18/11/2022 13:41

TheKeatingFive · 18/11/2022 13:36

If I knew what I know now, when I was applying to uni, I would never choose this course.

I think it's almost impossible to know whether you'd like a job until you actually do it.

You're right. I wanted to do different course though, but my mum thought it won't be right for me, and I listened to her. Now I know you can't keep your parents happy. I'm 100% sure she won't be happy with my next choice in life, when she finds out 😂

TheKeatingFive · 18/11/2022 13:49

What are you moving into?

WinterDeWinter · 18/11/2022 14:54

TheOrigRights · 18/11/2022 10:06

The major downside is dealing with doctors always moaning about how skint they are.

How crass.

I hope you mean that it's crass of the doctors to moan..?!

DuesToTheDirt · 18/11/2022 15:04

"Admittedly I've only heard this from librarians in the US, but I thought the public were quite keen on coming in to watch porn on the library computers."

I was in our local library a few years ago when a group of schoolboys came in to use the computers. I could see one of the screens with porn on it, so I complained to the librarian and she switched his computer off remotely. It was so funny, he couldn't understand why it had just gone "poof".

xogossipgirlxo · 18/11/2022 15:15

TheKeatingFive · 18/11/2022 13:49

What are you moving into?

I'm thinking of training to be vet nurse, but I need to wait a bit due to pay cut. My husband just started his postgraduate studies, so I am hoping for his salary to increase. I know my mum will take it hard, because she would think of it no different than cleaning up horse shit (which I think can be enjoyable as long as you want to do it). My parents always encouraged me to take "clean&warm office job". But hey ho, it's my life, I'm not hurting anyone. I would also not want to go full-time if we're lucky to have a baby.

Tinner01 · 18/11/2022 15:21

Fourfurryfeet · 17/11/2022 22:51

Psychologist - "oh it must be so interesting!"

Pros - can be interesting, very rewarding when people benefit, flexibility of nhs or private work

Cons - years and years of training, nhs is breaking down and private work has stress of self employment, pay not great considering length of training needed, and for some reason I never anticipated how draining it would be to listen to miserable, stressed people all the time.

Agreed, NHS work is interesting but pay is absolutely shit and conditions are often diabolical especially since Covid. Private work can earn hundreds an hour but it’s bloody boring!

Tinner01 · 18/11/2022 15:30

Omg did NOT mean boring meant draining! That’ll teach me not to post on Mumsnet before having my cuppa

JustDanceAddict · 18/11/2022 15:42

I work as an administrator and really like most aspects of the job , but it’s a small organisation and I hate PA type work that I have to do for one of the managers.
it’s frustrating cos I think by the time I’ve sent an email to X confirming Y and told you, it would’ve been quicker for you to email direct!!
The person needs their own PA but that’ll never happen!!
I enjoyed working for a charity too but the office politics were awful and I got made redundant. Pretty gutted as it was a good job.

Dixiechickonhols · 18/11/2022 17:14

Oysterbabe · 18/11/2022 10:26

Those of you who have escaped law, how did you do it and what do you do now? It's the only thing I'm qualified and experienced in but I hate it with the power of a thousand suns. When I'm walking to the office I fantasise about being hit by a car so I can have a nice stay in hospital instead. Anything else is going to involve a massive drop in salary which has been the main barrier. But I can't do this for another 25 years.

I swapped area of law after 20 years and now work for a local authority. Totally different to private practice. Much prefer it.

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