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to want (even just a little) revenge and want to hear your stories of revenge (sort of lighthearted)

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twentytwentythree · 17/11/2022 09:26

Someone did something really horrific to me years ago - told his wife that I'd tried to sleep with him when I didn't. It led to an awful shitshow with a huge fallout amongst friends and could have had serious consequences as he contacted my DH almost every day as it all played out over a couple of months and tried to persuade him he was telling the truth (DH didn't believe him) and in general I've moved on and don't think about it all that much.

However, a petty and vengeful part of myself really wants some form of payback - it irks me that he could just do that, get away with it and (for a short time) upend my life. I don't suppose there's anything I can do at this stage is there? Has anything like this happened anyone and have you managed any form of payback to the perpetrator? I mean this in a lighthearted way, although it still annoys me that he could disrupt my life like this just by lying.

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ZeroFuchsGiven · 17/11/2022 09:28

You and your DH are solid, got through it and moved on. That would be enough to piss him off. I would honestly leave it.

HunBabesSweetieVom · 17/11/2022 09:28

Do nothing except pity his poor wife

PicturesOfDogs · 17/11/2022 09:30

Honestly, the best revenge is living well.

He tried to break you up, for whatever reason, and failed. That will affect him more than anything else you do tbh

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 17/11/2022 09:31

Divorce the DH and left him free for the OW to marry. That was revenge enough.

SparklersandSausages · 17/11/2022 09:31

Be glad you aren’t involved with such lunancy (and maybe think a bit on what might happen if you get entangled with those people again)

Stay clear and be glad.

barbrahunter · 17/11/2022 09:32

I'm not sure if this counts but once when I was a child, my mum told me off (unfairly, in my opinion) so I took her toothbrush and washed the bathroom floor with it.

CruCru · 17/11/2022 09:40

You are going to get a lot of posters who say how bad revenge is and that you should rely on karma / living well.

Meh. Plot your revenge. Then decide if it is actually what you want to do.

However, if he finds out that it was you, he’ll tell everyone that you are fixated on him and it’ll resurrect the whole pile of crap.

Georgeskitchen · 17/11/2022 10:06

Sending dog excrement through the post is a good one 😉

Noshowlomo · 17/11/2022 10:21

@CruCru i never understood that, I love a good revenge story and quite honestly, some people deserve it!!

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twentytwentythree · 17/11/2022 10:25

CruCru · 17/11/2022 09:40

You are going to get a lot of posters who say how bad revenge is and that you should rely on karma / living well.

Meh. Plot your revenge. Then decide if it is actually what you want to do.

However, if he finds out that it was you, he’ll tell everyone that you are fixated on him and it’ll resurrect the whole pile of crap.

Ha…yes! Ofc living well etc is the best thing to do which has been my attitude to date but part of me would really really like some retribution but I’m not sure what! It was a long time ago so my dish of revenge is well cold now. He was / is such a fucker

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ThorsBedazzler · 17/11/2022 10:47

I once pissed on someone's toothbrush. She was a bully and a cunt.

I like just ignoring people who have Done Me Wrong. In personal life. Professionally I am very pleasant and make the effort to be reasonable so that the other person appears even more unreasonable.
It isn't really revenge, just makes life a bit easier. And if it makes the unreasonable person annoyed then who am I to complain.

JustFree · 17/11/2022 11:06

No point in plotting revenge. Think about how you contributed to the situation and learn from it so that you can avoid people like him in the future. Be glad your relationship is solid, I wouldn't waste any further thought on that loser.

JeanMarie · 17/11/2022 11:16

When I split from exh who was a nasty, manipulative bastard I used to lie in bed at night plotting revenge. God I thought of everything from dog shit through his letterbox to hiring a hit man! Then I read a quote (Confucious?) " before you embark on a journey of revenge , dig two graves". I realised I was twisting myself into knots while meanwhile exh couldn't give a shiny shit and more than likely never gave me a second thought . That stopped me but by God it was fun while it lasted....my revengeful ideas got more and more extreme and I ended up laughing at myself ....which ironically helped me far more than any actual revenge would have.

Mabelface · 17/11/2022 11:19

My way of dealing with things is to move forward, without looking back. Holding on to stuff like this just hurts you. It doesn't mean forgiveness, it means I don't want them taking up any more of my head space as they're really not worth it.

PicturesOfDogs · 17/11/2022 11:23

Mabelface · 17/11/2022 11:19

My way of dealing with things is to move forward, without looking back. Holding on to stuff like this just hurts you. It doesn't mean forgiveness, it means I don't want them taking up any more of my head space as they're really not worth it.

This. I think the best revenge is living well thing is more than just rising above it.
It is actually the thing that will piss the person off the most.
If they’ve tried to destroy your life, it will burn them that you’re happily getting in with life, and they’re just fucking irrelevant.
Ignoring people frustrates them the most
So you get to be happy and petty 🤣

Opaljewel · 17/11/2022 12:15

I saw this on a post on fb. I found it really funny. And it's anonymous and harmless if you know their address.

knickersniffer.co.uk/ basically it says the words knicker sniffer on the envelope. Might get a few looks from the post man and a few words from the wife. Yes I'm childish.

Opaljewel · 17/11/2022 12:16

Oh it sends actual knickers so the recipient look a bit pervy.

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twentytwentythree · 17/11/2022 13:17

Opaljewel · 17/11/2022 12:15

I saw this on a post on fb. I found it really funny. And it's anonymous and harmless if you know their address.

knickersniffer.co.uk/ basically it says the words knicker sniffer on the envelope. Might get a few looks from the post man and a few words from the wife. Yes I'm childish.

Funny...though he'd probably use it as proof to his wife that women were still trying to seduce him!

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Opaljewel · 17/11/2022 13:18

Haha probably 🤣

mackthepony · 17/11/2022 13:19

Bloody hell it's like the Quaker society on here today

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twentytwentythree · 17/11/2022 13:23

JustFree · 17/11/2022 11:06

No point in plotting revenge. Think about how you contributed to the situation and learn from it so that you can avoid people like him in the future. Be glad your relationship is solid, I wouldn't waste any further thought on that loser.

I know, I know but the unfairness still rankles....I'm not sure what I contributed to the situation, it completely came out of the blue (I do know he was forever asking his wife if they could have a threesome and have heard since that he had many many affairs). I always thought he was a creep so did try to avoid him I guess but I was very good friends with his wife and wider family. He was such a creep and hearing about all the women he flirted with and shagged since he made his accusations still makes me slightly upset for her even though she 'took his side' at the time. I never did tell her about his crazy emails to my DH.

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twentytwentythree · 17/11/2022 13:24

mackthepony · 17/11/2022 13:19

Bloody hell it's like the Quaker society on here today

Yes - I was hoping to get some good tips!

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isthismylifenow · 17/11/2022 13:42

Get his email address and subscribe him to lots of random shit.

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twentytwentythree · 17/11/2022 14:18

JeanMarie · 17/11/2022 11:16

When I split from exh who was a nasty, manipulative bastard I used to lie in bed at night plotting revenge. God I thought of everything from dog shit through his letterbox to hiring a hit man! Then I read a quote (Confucious?) " before you embark on a journey of revenge , dig two graves". I realised I was twisting myself into knots while meanwhile exh couldn't give a shiny shit and more than likely never gave me a second thought . That stopped me but by God it was fun while it lasted....my revengeful ideas got more and more extreme and I ended up laughing at myself ....which ironically helped me far more than any actual revenge would have.

Maybe that’s it…elaborate plans that amuse me…glad you got away from him!

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ItsaMetalBand · 17/11/2022 14:58

Meh, have fun plotting. The more outlandish the better. My commute consists of that right now because someone fucked me over badly a few months ago.
For solid reasons, I can't react to what was done to me because it will affect someone I love very much and who is in poor health so really doesn't need this on their plate.

So I fantasise my epic revenge. I know I'll never go though with it but it's helping process the sheer nastiness of what they did.