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Taylor7000 · 16/11/2022 10:35

A family member who is 19 and is terrible with money, he spends like the money is burning a hole in his pocket buying take aways and unnecessary items, fair enough he’s a teenager, we are pretty close and last month he asked me to hold onto £500 for him and return it in December so that he could buy Xmas presents etc. he told me under no circumstances was i to give it back to him before December no matter what he said.

Well of course he has been asking for it back already and I have refused. I received a cheeky text from his mother this morning (who I am not so close to) calling me a thief and if I don’t return the money she’s calling the police. The money is here all accounted for in the envelope he gave me it in, I certainly did not steal anything.

my mind is saying give it back to him as I don’t need any drama when I was just fulfilling his request but my heart knows that come December he will be stressing out that he has no money for Christmas.

I guess my question is what should I do?

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Jedsnewstar · 16/11/2022 17:36

I would give him back and tell him to never ask you to do anything similar ever again.

SirGawain · 16/11/2022 17:36

Just give it back to him, if you don't he or his mum will make up some narrative in which they can characterise you as the bad guy. I also think I would scale back the friendship.

CPL593H · 16/11/2022 17:54

I would give it back to him and if he's stressing about presents later, tough. He's an adult.

RedHelenB · 16/11/2022 18:34

He's asked for it back , you reminded him of what he said bit he still wants the money so of course you should give it him back.

LavenderfortheBees · 16/11/2022 19:14

Yes I would give it back with a message about how hurtful you have found the whole thing. Not sure I'd be speaking to the mother for a good while.

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