MIL taking 2 year old out

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Ok so I get on really well with my MIL. We have a great relationship. She offers me lots of support with DS who is 2 years 4 months. She sees him 3 times a week and will take him out every week too. I do trust her but obviously any time he isn’t With me I worry (I have intrusive thoughts about him running off from her, being snatched, getting injured etc).

this is where I need opinions. I’m totally happy with her taking him to the park, local playgroups, local soft plays etc but she’s wanting to go further and further afield with him and it’s making me uncomfortable the thought of being 10+ miles away from him.

Im heavily pregnant SAHM so it’s nice for me to have a break but I’m struggling to relax whilst he’s out.

Am I being unreasonable to ask her to stay locally? I don’t want to come across ungrateful but what’s the point in having a break if I can’t relax. In my view he has his whole childhood to be going off far away and he’s only 2 and I want him close by. But I am open to the thought that I could be being overprotective too. I think my pregnancy hormones are making me anxious too.

Yabu - take the support and let your child have a variety of experiences

Yanbu - I wouldn’t be comfortable either

This is the wrong thread I think, @Confusion101

Omg how the hell did that happen?? I've never seen this thread before 😂😂 thanks

When we lived in London my MIL took DS to places like Brighton, Bognor, and Clacton in her car aged 2 to 3 and he totally loved it. You need to relax. Seriously.

Yabu. There are very very few situations where youd be able to make a tangible difference getting there in 15 min compared to 25 min for example

How refreshing to hear a positive MIL post. I'm assuming she is doing this for free because she loves her grandchild and you seem happy with the care she gives him.
I think you know YABU to expect her to stay within a 10 mole radius don't you? Look at it logically. Do you think at some stage your husband my want to go out with his child without you. Are you saying you and your husband can't be more than 10 miles apart. What if you get a job in a different town or invited to a wedding? Are you imagining by the time these things happen you'll be different? How is that going to happen? I mean what's your plan for tackling your debilitating anxiety?
Sit down with your husband when everything is calm and come up with a plan. Involve your MIL if you like. She may be happy to stay local whilst you have treatment even, or until after the baby is born.
You don't need to live this way OP.

My MIL lived more than 10 miles away, I don't see it as a big distance as my DCs would have been there with her whilst I was at home. Distance wouldn't cross my mind, where they were being taken would, eg a busy beach in July/August would make me nervous however day trip to London (about 80 miles away) I'd be fine with.

My parents often had my DCs as toddlers, DH and I went to New York when DS was 18 months and I was pregnant with DS2, he had a lovely time with nanny and grandad. I missed him but wasn't worried about him.