Am I being unfair?
We normally 'host' my family (my sis her kids and mum) for Christmas Dinner, and I use the word host very loosely.
We use my house as I have younger kids but really it is a team effort, sis and mum pitch, with all of it from buying food to clearing up.
We always extend an invite to PIL who only occasionally accept.
This time ILs want to accept but want us to host SIL and family as well.
Meaning a total of 15 people for dinner, 2 different dietary requirements. ILs aren't the sort to pitch in.
Am I being unfair to say No that 15 is too many people.
AIBU?
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Username4561 · 13/11/2022 20:00
Am I being unreasonable?
783 votes. Final results.
POLLStripeyDeckchair · 13/11/2022 20:40
Say yes on the condition that everyone takes on their allocated task and chios in
Eg SiL to bring starter for X adults & Y children to be served at whatever time no oven space available to use but 2 hobs free.
PIL to bring 2x red & 2x white wine + chocolates for adults for after dinner
And so on
Have rough costs for each in your mind so that all contributions are roughly equal.
If they don't like chipping in then they can't come - dinner for 15 (excluding starter & desert) is going to be min £100 - turkeys are sky high £ this year.
Username4561 · 13/11/2022 21:47
@Mixednuts574
Yes that's crossed my mind too my good dinner set has 8 settings, my everyday stuff is also 8 but that means they'd barely be a spare plate in the house.
The more I think about it the more my blood runs cold. I actually think its quite a cheeky thing to ask.
DH has obviously been thinking that it's a huge amount of stress too. He thinks we should say No too.
Username4561 · 13/11/2022 21:47
@Mixednuts574
Yes that's crossed my mind too my good dinner set has 8 settings, my everyday stuff is also 8 but that means they'd barely be a spare plate in the house.
The more I think about it the more my blood runs cold. I actually think its quite a cheeky thing to ask.
DH has obviously been thinking that it's a huge amount of stress too. He thinks we should say No too.
Holidayhomehell · 13/11/2022 21:59
I think its ok to say no. Don’t feel bad for hosting your mum and sister, they are on their own and chip in, so don’t feel like you have to change your plans.
We stopped asking my bil and sil. They came, sat on their backsides and didn’t help with anything…even the year where I had a 7 week old baby!! And they were rude enough to ask for pudding soon because they had to leave!!
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