To think people shouldn't complain when getting something for free?

[thenewduchessoflapland]

Just that really;if you're getting something for free you shouldn't complain right?

Over the last 24 hours I've emptied the contents of my shed/storage and posted it for free on a local Facebook page;a free cycle sort of thing;some of the items were expensive as new.

The level of entitlement,rudeness and cheekiness from people has been unbelievable.I've just had a message from someone telling me off because everything in my post (I posted a bundle of items) wasn't in her box to which I replied she only sent me a screenshot of one of the items in said bundle asking for that item and then told she didn't want what I've given her.

I've had multiple begging messages even though group rules ban those sort of messages.

I've had verbal accuse with swearing and disgusting insults because I didn't "pick them".

And one item which was large and heavy and I've specified a van is needed;they wanted to come in a car and cut said item up on my driveway and do multiple trips and I said no.

I've waited in this afternoon for someone who didn't turn up and then told me they were coming tomorrow instead to which I told them I'd be letting the item go to someone else as they've wasted my time which I felt was unreasonable.

About 85% of things I was getting rid of has gone and I'll be taking the rest to a charity shop because I can't be doing with dealing with these people.I won't ever be listing things on these free groups again either.

The one that burnt down in their first term i suspect

I just don't - it goes to the tip or sits in my scruffy 'Daisy and Onsloe' front garden until the scrap man/someone who wants it, takes it.

I have been pissed off at a free thing though - offered a pair of sofas by a friends work colleague, told they were in decent nick, pre the days of digital cameras and facebook so no piccies....

Borrowed a fucking van. Turned up to two sofas absolutely FILTHY, so dirty you couldn't see the floral pattern in some places, and absolutely stinking of cat piss and shredded areas. I was furious as I had dumped the old sofas on the way out, thinking these would be better, the old ones being third hand and fairly knackered before I got them. So now I had no choice but to take these or sit on the bastarding floor. I did let her know I was not remotely happy, but it was ultimately my fault for not seeing them before dumping the old sofas I guess!

I suspect she thought I was being ungrateful, but then I also suspect she thought I had lower standards than her because I lived in a council house and needed free sofas...

They went to the tip the next time we could get the van and by then I'd found a charity furniture warehouse, and got a pair of leather sofas in far far better condition than I'd EVER owned before, for £50 the pair.

This.

Dotdotdotdash

Care to explain what you mean about charm school.

Or are you one of the elite too?

AnchorWHAT

Rather that than patronise poor people and name drop some company as if we should all be impressed.

Very clever, by the way. Have a star for wit.

We live in a village which I think makes offering things for free on the local freebie Facebook group a little less awful.

Have had a few no-shows though which is annoying. These days I just put stuff out on the drive and upload a photo to the group. "Random free stuff. If you want it come and get it. Can't hold anything for anyone." Mostly it works.

Yikes. Block everyone in the group that does that and then you will only get genuine people. If you need something you need it and cant complain over something given away freely. Normally it is a very minute number of people who try spoil it for the rest. I've had some not collect but not had abuse given over items offered.

Okay @Autumnnewname , I'll bite.

I'll say it plainer... I thought your earlier comments to @RosesAndHellebores were rude and unpleasant. Class doesn't come into it!

We have a great Freecycle group.
But you still get some chancers.
I went to collect something twice and on the 2 Nd attempt I realized she never gave me the full address.

I let the moderator know,she put a post up.
And the messages I got,I sent them to the moderator and then that women was blocked

I'm not trying to be clever @Autumnnewname ; and I do have a point here. Whether or not this poster 'needs' me to stick up for her, occasionally on Mumsnet I am going to do just that. I will stick up for people because I like posting on Mumsnet, and I prefer it when I'm not verbally attacked needlessly, either deliberately by trolls, or by anyone else, such as yourself, who decides to needlessly direct sarcasm and vitriol towards another poster. And it would be nice to know if that does happens to me, that somebody would stick up for me and make that person think twice before being mean in future.

I really don't want to derail the thread so I'll just say that tilting heads "awww you meanie" type posts rarely have the intended effect.

I'll continue as I am, thanks all the same

Oh and I'll continue to respond to the grotesque snobbery posted about poor peasants

You derailed it already @Autumnnewname

Yes, this.

And its all very well saying they could've had it checked, but they're not going to have specialists to check it on the books, funding to hire one or the relevant insurance. By the time all that has been organised, with the admin and resources it would inevitably entail, there's no reason to imagine it's going to be a saving on Argos.

@dotdotdotdash
A poster that states "I remember that poor people can't compromise" does not need to be stuck up for, unless you also agree with the sentiment.

I found that post offensive and supercilious, like several others on this thread; and, actually irrelevant to the opening post.

It was definitely irrelevant to the opening post, given that the OP is about people actually trying to obtain a free item rather than a person or institution that never asked for one declining it.

I go in spates of offering bits on our local Acts of Kindness page which is supposed to be free for people who are struggling, but often stop because of all the time wasters and no shows. It gets very disheartening.
People place no value on things they get for free. They don't value your time.
If there's lots of people all wanting something I video an online picker and post that so they can see it was randomly selected.

The latest is selling decent clothes on Vinted. Mostly £1.99, £2.99 and get people offering a pound or 50p less. I'm like dude it's three quid. What's that about?

It honestly brings out the nut jobs or they do it on purpose to piss you off. We placed our TV stand on gumtree for free and a man expressed interest. He arranged to collect it one weekend, never turned up despite multiple texts. The deadline passed and we took it to a charity shop that accepts furniture. He then contacted us with loads of abuse and I blocked him. I never put free stuff on there now. I donate toys to our local playgroup, our school will take uniform still in good condition and clothes either go to a rotation of charity shops or I phone out local women's shelter to see what they are in need of.

Yanbu.

We have a fantastic local charity shop that raises money for local events that we take everything to. I've tried selling stuff before on FB and at one time it was quite good, but now there are so many time wasters that I'd rather give it away to charity than be sat around waiting to see if someone turned up.

This reminds me of the time I saw a young mum ask for free pink paint on fb

as it was,I’d just painted my sons room in a lovely soft pink and had a full tin left (he was going through his princess stage,Id bought way too much paint and b&q was a pain to get to and I couldn’t take it back as id lost the receipt)

anyway,I offered it to her via the group and she accepted

’fantastic!’ thinks I ‘I won’t have to take it to the tip’ (at the time the tip had a table that you could leave unwanted paint,paper,tools etc and others could take it-but I don’t drive and the tip was a bit of a trek)

she messaged me to arrange to pick it up,and asks if I’m related to insert random names and I am-turns out she’s shagging a cousin I didn’t even know I had (my dad fell out with his side I’d the family before I was born,so I knew uncles,aunties and cousins names but not the cousins offspring)

she also sent me a friend request as it would make things easier and ‘that we’re family’

whatever but I accept

’please meet me in town at 2pm’

as it was,I was in town that day,so on a boiling hot day,6 kids in tow and 5 litres of soft pink paint-off we go

shes a no show-we had to lug this paint round town and struggle with shopping on top as I was at work the next day and couldn’t go back then for the bits I needed

’im sorry,I forgot-please bring it round to the flat at 3pm,4 days later’

her flats not far so I do-I’m banging on the door-I can hear she’s in but ignoring me

the next day ‘I’m sorry-I forgot and didn’t hear you’

i messaged with ‘last chance-you come to me,or it’s going to the tip’ she answered for my address and a time to collect it

A prize to whoever guesses she doesn’t show up so I lugged it to the tip on my next day off

4 months later,having forgotten all about her,I put up a status about dementia (my dear grandad died of it when I was 14) and she leaps on this post,demanding to know which side of my family this was

before I had a chance,my mate commented (having known my grandad) and this lass goes mental-she’d never heard of him-her boyfriend has never mentioned him (maybe because my grandad died before this lad was born) and that I was a liar and ‘didn’t have a grandad’

I blocked her-and the next thing I know,she’s on my doorstep,kicking off about my non existent grandad,that I’m a liar and ‘where the fuck is my pink paint?’

she was starting to threaten me and tried to take a few swings but missed

The police got shot of her-so she went round sm,slagging me off (which didn’t get her very far,my friends handed her arse back to her on a plate)

she then came back to mine,at 3am (this is almost a year after the first message asking if she could have the paint) and threatened to put my windows through-the police where re-called and they took her away and I don’t know what they said but she’s left me alone since-apart from the odd slagging off on sm

all this over a tin of dulux paint-which was free!

never again-everything now goes to the charity shop

I'm still chuffed to bits that I got a free American Fridge Freezer a year ago! It's used, a bit banged up on the outside (it was kept in their garage) but it in full working order. Couldn't care about the dents on it! I've never been given anything like this at all! We're not all ungrateful x

Thank you, i shall wear it with pride

People are greedy gets. I put a hosepipe (pre-hosepipe ban) on Facebook for whatever amount with collection only. And someone asked if they could have it for slightly less. Yes of course! But then they messaged telling me I should be giving them it for free as they were having to come to collect it 😂