To think people shouldn't complain when getting something for free?

[thenewduchessoflapland]

Just that really;if you're getting something for free you shouldn't complain right?

Over the last 24 hours I've emptied the contents of my shed/storage and posted it for free on a local Facebook page;a free cycle sort of thing;some of the items were expensive as new.

The level of entitlement,rudeness and cheekiness from people has been unbelievable.I've just had a message from someone telling me off because everything in my post (I posted a bundle of items) wasn't in her box to which I replied she only sent me a screenshot of one of the items in said bundle asking for that item and then told she didn't want what I've given her.

I've had multiple begging messages even though group rules ban those sort of messages.

I've had verbal accuse with swearing and disgusting insults because I didn't "pick them".

And one item which was large and heavy and I've specified a van is needed;they wanted to come in a car and cut said item up on my driveway and do multiple trips and I said no.

I've waited in this afternoon for someone who didn't turn up and then told me they were coming tomorrow instead to which I told them I'd be letting the item go to someone else as they've wasted my time which I felt was unreasonable.

About 85% of things I was getting rid of has gone and I'll be taking the rest to a charity shop because I can't be doing with dealing with these people.I won't ever be listing things on these free groups again either.

This.

Yeah it def makes you think twice. I recently gave a away a childs wardrobe with matching cot, mattress and fitted sheets also waterproof mattress protector. As well as toddler duvet and pillow all in great condition.

Got messed around with someone despite numerous messages, measurements and extra pics sent. I was doing all the chasing so I stopped messaging and passed on to next person. They then said they were coming to get it changed the time twice and messed me about a bit but did come the next day when they said they would. Think they sent a relative to get it as lady didn't seem to know much about what was being taken. No thanks from person collecting and no thank you message from the person that got it. It's just rude, it doesn't take much to say thank you.

My dh wanted to break it all up and take it to the tip but I didn't want it going to waste when it could easily be used again. Would make me think twice next time!

Most people always expect something for free.
They usually message when they're not supposed to and with a little beg in there too.

I was selling my sons brand new vans for £10 but paid £40. Someone asked me to take £5 and to deliver them 40 minutes away!

I said absolutely not they're cheap enough as it is and I'm not delivering to you!!

So far (touch wood) I've only had positive experiences with freecycle / trash nothing and olio.

I've gone to buy things with a low listing price and just been given them before. I've seen people advise that putting even a nominal price deters a mass of town wasters.

I think it’s hard to move baby stuff on, I didn’t manage to donate my pram anywhere and it went on the tip which was a shame as it still had life left in it. I passed some of my kids clothes on to a relative who was agreeable but then she sold them on which for some reason upset me so now I just donate them to charity or I’ll pop one or two things on vinted for a minimal price to encourage a sale, people have always been happy with things they’ve bought.

Don't be ridiculous.

My husband travels overseas regularly and and therefore drives to Heathrow a fair bit. He often puts something up on village fb site with his timings offering a free lift from village to airport.

Was once asked if he could leave 2 hours later as timings didn't suit this family of four and could we make a diversion to pick up their parents en route!
He said his car wasn't big enough for 7 people and timings were strict.

They kicked right off, saying he'd ruined there holiday before they left and how selfish he was.
He was going to agree to their request and just carry on as normal on his departure morning and text then from the airport saying he'd changed his mind due to their entitledness. I stupidly talked him out of that saying it was cruel....

What I do now when I want to give something away is put a token (minimal) price on it. This keeps away those who just want to scoop up anything that's free because either, they're grabby or they want to resell to make a few quid.

I'm perfectly happy to then tell the person collecting not to worry about payment. This way they're pleasantly surprised and you've cleared the space you wanted...win win!

On a much more serious note, you should ALWAYS do this (and not a token amount either) if you wish to rehome pets or a litter of puppies/kittens whatever. Even if you are happy to give them away to a good, loving home, ASK for money for them, even if you then give it back to the adopter 'for buying pet food' etc.

What about babies in second hand cars? Or can babies only be in new cars??
your friend was unlucky… second hand prams are great. How horrific if every pram was disposed of after use of one baby or sibling set

I tend to give stuff away to folk I know or charity shop stuff, my baby passed back to family as donated

Amazing the amount of people meant to collect stuff having a family emergency or taking their kid to A&E. One lady I was giving some free kids wellies to said she could no longer pick them up as she had broken her ankle, ‘Oh no’, I said, ‘where do you live I can drop them round?’ No reply 🤷🏻‍♀️

I tried this - I put a children's bed on ebay for £1 making clear it was in the hope it would go to a home where it was needed, local collection only.

It was bought by a lady from Cyprus who was very very cross with me that I wasn't going to pay to have it shipped 😆

I'd have told them to pay for a taxi or get the train;they were very rude however I'm glad you talked your DH round as not letting them know might have meant a couple of kids missed out on a holiday.

Bloody hell that's shocking!!

I've read so many stories like this. My only experience with free stuff on FB Marketplace I was the 'buyer'. A lady had a cot bed frame up for free, and dismantled down in her garage. I arranged a time, went and collected it when I said I would, including a text to say 'on route now see you in 30 mins'. Gave her €20 as the item new would be €€€ and said to enjoy an ice cream with her son as it was a hot day! Went on my merry way to re-paint what would have been a very costly cot.

There are hopefully a lot of good people out there too. Although I did have a bad experience as the seller on gumtree many years ago which was mostly comical.

I think you're better off putting stuff on for a minimal amount rather than absolutely free.

That is not true at all. Social Services provide a myriad of services and support to adults and families. Children in Care and child protection is just one part of the offer. The vast majority of child protection cases do not end with the child being placed in local authority care.
Child protection registers ended in 2008.
Anyway, back to the CF's on free sites.

Never, ever again. Been an absolute farce.
That was only smaller items too, small items of furniture or old PS2 games..

My sis & I wanted to give Mum's furniture to charity when she went into a home. The only ones who would come out were BHF, who took the (absolutely spotless) bed but declined the (unfashonable but solid, gc) dining table, display cabinet, tv cabinet & coffee table, as they were 'all veneer'.
We thought that was odd as Mum always bought decent stuff. BIL chopped it all up to go into a skip, and it WAS all solid wood.
I was fuming, would have LOVED it to go to, say, a DV victim setting up on her own.. but how to get to those people?

Which charm school did you go to @Autumnnewname ?

Olio is a great app for giving stuff away for free. There are set rules and protocols so it’s less rife with time wasters and piss-takers. Plus there’s a rating system so you can avoid people with low ratings who might not show up etc. i gave away a ton of stuff on there a while back and it was great. I even made some friends.

I've never had any real trouble from using freecycle. I did have one woman mess me around a bit for a roll of carpet. She kept delaying the collection time, while my hallway was blocked with a 4m carpet roll that I'd dragged to the front door after she was adamant she would be there this time. I put it back up, and it was gone less than 24 hours later to a lovely lady and her daughter, who couldn't have been more grateful.

I mostly find freecycle and giving away stuff for free on marketplace fine but I do get annoyed at people requesting me post them things for free.
I have mostly started selling things for £1 on Vinted though.

That's awful, I've been lucky collecting and donating stuff as everyone has been nice and grateful

I agree with the pps who advise making a small charge - which you can waive on collection if you wish (depending on whether they're nice or not!).

It's a sad fact that most people don't value what they get for free, and as pps have said, it filters out the worst people if you make a charge.

It's a bad sign already if anyone expects to get things for free.

What name is that @GeneratedRandomly ?