To not be happy how my DH greets other women

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So ....we are on a night out we see a couple we know and he greets her 'hello gorgeous' yes we know then well but ..I just didn't like it.

Interesting how it's 50/50 almost on the votes.
I'm not insecure but I really think these endearments shall we say should just be for me.
I've told him before that I don't like it but he must do it all the time cos he seems to forget.
Which kinda lessens the meaning for me really, makes me feel less special

“I’m not insecure”

“But I don’t feel special”

thats insecurity…

He's a condescending arsehole.

I think I said 'less special'

Non issue to me. I realise everything men do is meant to be offensive these days but it’s just a little feel good statement and nice to hear. Unless he’s saying it to specific women only

It’s still insecurity

Seems the issue here is you don’t understand what the word insecure means

Seeing other women through a lens of how they look like: ‘gorgeous’ ‘beautiful’ ‘sexy’ etc. may feel ‘harmless’ in the man’s mind but it does suggest he objectifies women generally in a way that ‘love’ and ‘sweetheart’ don’t. Personally, I wish they stop infantilising women with all the cutesy labels and just use our names… but then some women, as this thread suggests, crave shallow validation from males… so we’ve got a long way to go.

Why do people have to be so negative and argumentative on here?

Completly agree with this.

I've told him before that I don't like it but he must do it all the time cos he seems to forget.
Which kinda lessens the meaning for me really, makes me feel less special
Has he done this a long time or this a new thing with one woman? This sounds like it's how he talks to his friends.

What else is going on in your relationship where the way he greets some friends is enough to make you feel less special? If the relationship is lacking closeness and intimacy and shared interests then I can see why you might be feeling insecure because the relationship isn't fulfilling. If you're in a happy relationship but are always wanting to make sure he's reminding you how special you are then you're probably insecure, are incompatible and have different love languages.