I’d think it was a joke of a man came on to me now

[Turnthatcrapdown]

Anyone else feel like that?

I'm 44, couple of stone overweight, not horrendous, but definitely don’t turn heads anymore. It seems so long since any man glanced twice at me, not that I go out to places where they would etc, but still.
Not saying I want them to either, I’m married and have a young dd. It's just I would honestly be gobsmacked if someone did…I think I started feeling that at around 38/39.
Do you get looked at/chatted up around this age?

I’m large and not particularly attractive, and also barely notice my clothes (Eg jeans and polo). Honestly people flirt with me still. I find it harmless but have been besotted with my husband for 30 years so sometimes it irritates.

@CocoLux I honestly think it’s ok to come to terms with not receiving positive attention for being attractive, compared to extremely good looking people losing their looks and fighting the ageing process. To place so much value on yourself for being “attractive” and being constantly validated by other people’s appraisal of you becomes part of who you are - when all that attention stops with age it must be a total mind-fuck. Personally I can’t miss what I never had.

I like this feeling to be honest I assume it’s what being a man is like, you can walk around anonymously without getting eyed at

I did into my early 40s. Now I’m over 50, fat, and have a scarred face so no one looks at me ever 😂

I'm not sure I've been chatted up much at all. I just assume men are being friendly; like a pp I'm also quick witted and can have a bit of craic
I'm large but have grown out my hair and make more effort with my appearance. I do see guys checking me out but I always assume it's my size than anything special about me

I was married and invisible from late 29's until I got divorced. Too mortified to date now which I realise is counterproductive 😆

I was 45 when I met my bloke so it obviously didn’t apply to me.

On the negative side, I had to take a detour the other day because of unwanted attention from a man (I did not encourage this one). I didn't want him to see where I lived.

Yeah absolutely. At my best I was maybe a five out of ten, I'm now a three, it's not a great fall. If I'd had to rely on my looks I'd find losing them much harder. I'd just love to know how it feels to look nice.

I'm nearly 50 (but often get mistaken for younger) and used to get a lot of attention in my twenties and early thirties. Since mid thirties I've definitely become invisible. I'm not arsed though, married with kids. Rather not anymore.