I’d think it was a joke of a man came on to me now

[Turnthatcrapdown]

Anyone else feel like that?

I'm 44, couple of stone overweight, not horrendous, but definitely don’t turn heads anymore. It seems so long since any man glanced twice at me, not that I go out to places where they would etc, but still.
Not saying I want them to either, I’m married and have a young dd. It's just I would honestly be gobsmacked if someone did…I think I started feeling that at around 38/39.
Do you get looked at/chatted up around this age?

I got chatted up several times in the pandemic... make of that what you will.

@maplesaucewithbacon Where though? 😂

I was quite pretty/made best of myself in my 20/30's so always got lots of attention. Now my look screams frumpy housewife . I'm not bother as I don't need attention but I miss being a bit sexy.

I think I must have a face that tells all people in general to fuck off. Despite being slim and attractive and dressing very well (as told by my female friends and DH's friends) I am almost never chatted up. I think I can count the number of times on one hand that I have been. Generally though I'm not interested in that and I think it comes across when I 'blank' men and don't make eye contact. I'm generally quite socially anxious and awkward though. I struggle to make small talk with anyone - I even spent 12hrs in "The Queue" and despite trying to smile and join in with the conversation around me I didn't speak more than 5 words to anyone in the span of 12hrs standing next to the same group of people. 🫤

I'm 44 and I guess from a purely vain point of view it does. But I'm in a happy, settled relationship and have no interest in anyone else so apart from vanity it doesn't 🤣

Yeah same, but I just feel glad. It's nice not to be pestered.

I'm a couple of years older than you and got chatted up in a supermarket queue recently and was a bit taken back and embarrassed in a way. Once I had got over the shock I was flattered. I'm also a bit overweight. I'd made the effort with a little make up and a bit of scent. Can make all the difference.

I get more attention now (aged 48) than I did when I was younger. But I was overweight when I was younger, and now I'm not. So, perhaps weight is more of a factor than age?

I'm 41, a bit overweight, and even my own husband doesn't want me so certainly nobody else is going to. Sad really that I might as well sew my vadge shut for the rest of my life.

I'd also let my hair down (its usually up or in a ponytail). I look really different when I do that.

I bloody hope not....I'm about to turn 40 and very newly single.

No plans to find someone else right now but I hope someone will want to chat me up at some point

tbh I’ve always assumed it’s a joke or wind-up. I’ve never been chatted up just on the basis of my appearance, which isn’t great let’s face it. I guess I have a great personality so at least I’m not a complete car crash 😂 But yep, I’ve always assumed a piss-take

I'm 23 and don't get chatted up anymore

It's creepy, I got the most attention from men (older men) at ages 15-18

I always did think it was a joke. I never thought they were genuine w en when someone pointed out a guy was coming on to me. Totally oblivious. I do catch men looking but god knows what they are thinking. I'm 46 and still ok to look at. I think.

I've always been ugly, but now I'm fat, old and ugly. Mostly I don't think about it. Sometimes I think it would be nice to be noticed and considered attractive, but it's never going to happen.

treatyhe · Today 19:48
It's creepy, I got the most attention from men (older men) at ages 15-18

Rank. Basically a child 😢

If someone did chat me up, I'd assume they had some degree of mental illness. It just wouldn't be rational IYSWIM.

I suspect those who feel invisible are actually far more attractive than they think they are.

I am 50, and used to be very pretty (am less so now that I'm older, just because I'm older). However, I am chatted up just as much now as I was when I was younger. I'm not in the slightest bit interested in any man other than my partner, but my student children think it's hilarious that I manage to get chatted up whenever I go anywhere with them. They also think it's hilarious that I can get men to do all the crap stuff I don't want to do, just by being slim and blonde and smiley and well dressed. I'm also quick witted, which makes me a good and harmless flirt.

I felt quite invisible when my DC were all small, though, so I think being unencumbered plays a role.

I've spent most of my life feeling that way. It's only now i'm 41 that I realise the only thing stopping people chatting me up was my own low self-esteem.

I got 'chatted up' if you can call it that, up to about 60, by practically every tradesman who arrived at my door. No problem except that I was widowed at 51 & didn't want their damn attention.
The menopause struck & I look like a fat Methusaleh now.. ;-)

I do get men approach me, one winked at me just a couple of days ago. I am slim in my fifties and I have grey hair, its really silver, a shade that looks like it has been dyed I suppose. My mouth has naturally slightly upturned corners. People generally tend to talk to me. DH and DS are always amazed at how often people talk to me. My Mother was and one of my sisters is just the same.

I think we just have friendly faces.

I got complimented on my ear muffs by a man the other day, does that count 😂

Yeah I feel invisible
If I do meet someone I like then it all goes to shit anyway. The last one forgot to mention he was engaged, would have been nice if he told me before I spent 10 months with him
Now at the "I cannot be bothered" going through all that again

48 and still get chatted up. I'm an outrageous flirt though. Dh doesn't mind though.