I don't often moan about her. I have sweated blood over the last 14 years to build a 'good' relationship with her. I tell people she is OK, just a bit different and slightly odd ... but that we get on well and I have respect for her etc ...
But right now I hate her.
I need a moan to get it off my chest.
She isn't like some proper nightmare MILs ... she doesn't interfere with how DH and I bring up the children, she wasn't a pain when I was pregnant, she didn't comment on our choice of names etc etc ...
In fact her indifference has been remarkable. She has been financially generous (so she has us over a barrel really) so we can't complain but ...
I am fed up with having to go there and buy our own food for one thing. This year, on Christmas eve we had to go and buy everything from Christmas crackers to biscuits and nibbles for Christmas day - she invited us to come and stay and then didn't proved any food for our 6 day stay.
Then, I got it in the neck for not sending 'Thank you' cards quick enough after we came home. Despite the fact that she knew that I have had a tough week (my Dad isn't well). So avoiding the temptation to write "Thanks for not feeding us" in the card it was duly sent off. I resented having to thank her for making me feel totally unwelcome in her house, for making me feel in her way when trying to feed my own children. I had to ask EVERY single meal time if I could use the kitchen. She would say, "What, do they need to eat AGAIN?"
I am amazed DH and his sister made it to adulthood to be honest but it does not surprise me at all that DH is a foodie and spends many a weekend cooking up a storm - to make up for the cold meat and lettuce he grew up with before she sent him off to boarding school
What pisses me off is that she thinks she is a good mother and a good grandmother and we all have to congratulate her on that. FFS. She phoned today to ask how 'The Birthday Girl' was. I told her that DD was fine and looking forward to Sunday (her 4th birthday).
"Really? Sunday? Are you sure?"
Of course I am fucking sure you stupid old bat ... I gave birth to her didn't I?
"Yes, (ha ha ha, tinkle of 'you're so funny' laughter) it's on Sunday granny"
"Oh, why did I have it down for the 30th then"
I don't know, because you are a cold hearted mean old witch?
"I have no idea J-," (more tinkly indulgent laughter from me [grrr])
"Oh well, I'll phone back on Sunday then, bye"
No mention of my dad, or how he was, or how I was feeling about it all ...
I hate her sometimes