Was this parent U?

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Going to keep this anonymous for the first post, then I'll say which parent I am after I've got responses.

Parent 1 has a not long turned turned 18 year old DD, she's best friends with a 17 yo boy (parent 2’s child). 17 yo has ADHD which could make him vulnerable, he's allowed to drink a little at parties with his friends but not very often.

The two of them went out to a club, 17 yo was using parent 1’s elder sons ID. Parent 1 knew about this as told elder son how he could get in trouble with someone else using his ID but didn't tell parent 2. The boy told parent 2 he was at a party

Parent 2 found out and isn’t happy

Was parent 1 U?

He's 17. He's not an adult. He has an additional vulnerability. He is in a nightclub where he's not meant to be. Yes Parent 1 should have told Parent 2. They weren't obliged to as such, but IMO should have.

Is bonkers I think that (is this just Scotland?) That a 17 yo could be a married parent, employed in the military, driving person, but couldn't get into a nightclub or be described as not an adult!