To be pretty angry about this?

[Blondewithredlips]

Arranged to meet a friend at 10 today. Plan was for her to confirm she could make it this morning and come to pick me up for us to go for a coffee.

Get a text at 0925 saying she is early and parked in a 30 minute space. However I am not quite ready so rush to get ready sooner. Meantime she rings and I miss her call so call her back but no answer.

Get a message at 0950 saying she has driven off and we can meet another time. Then get a text saying she is sitting having a coffee where we were due to go this morning.

AIBU to think this is not reasonable? Surely if you are early you could wait in the 30 minute space then drive to pick me up?

I don't understand the OP stating, in the third person, that they are unpleasant, but anyway, OP you're not unreasonable to expect them to arrive when they said they would.

Totally not reasonable and l wouldn’t do this

Maybe a miscommunication and she thought you’re going to coffee shop for 10 so she’ll pick you up earlier to allow for the drive, finding a car parking space and short walk to it?

I don't drive it was her idea as she was shopping 3 minutes from where I live and going to the shop we were going to have coffee at anyway.

The arrangement was to meet at 10

We were meeting at 10. I was unable to text her straight away at 0925 as I was in the shower getting ready to meet at 10.
She got to the area 35 minutes earlier than arranged and let me know at 0925 so wanted to meet up 30 minutes earlier than arranged with 5 minutes notice.
As soon as I saw the 0925 text at 0945 I was trying to phone her but she did not answer as had already driven off 15 minutes before we were due to meet.

You said she drove off at 09.50?

That's not the same at 09.45.

These forensic details are crucial.

She was not picking up her phone when I was calling her between 0945 and 0950 so assume she was driving then but cannot be sure.
She texted from the coffee place we were due to go to saying she was there and in a long text conversation with someone...

No they are not

OP arranged to meet friend at 10am. Friends parking shenanigans pre 10am are of no concern to OP. She did not have to answer texts or engage with any of it. Friend arrived at 9,25, fucked off at 9,45, and was sitting in the cafe without OP at 10! She's off her fucking box.

She sounds nuts?

Any response from her OP?

I wouldn’t make plans with her again unless she apologises.

It is so weird how so many people are being dicks on this post.

of course the friend was unreasonable. Id be very angry at having plans cancelled on my day off in that way.

She would be excised from my life. She has behaved appallingly. Don't waste your time on second rate people.

Did she have something better planned?

Fcku her.

Loads of people would be ready to leave half hour early to an event so it’s not strange to think you may of been ready.

Its annoying but I couldn’t get worked up and be very angry over a missed coffee meet considering you were only fitting in with her shopping plans anyway.

Yanbu. Don’t bother getting into the semantics with chippy, nitpicking posters on here.
Yes she lacks basic respect for you. Very selfy.

Not surprised you’ve had no reply. People like this can’t bear being called out.

Recently I arrived at someone’s house 30 minutes earlier than arranged. I sent a text letting them know I was early and saying I’m more than happy to just wait in my car if they weren’t ready for me. Because I understood it’s not fair to impose myself on them if they aren’t ready yet just because of my incessant need to arrive places early

YANBU

The woman was giving her a lift at 10

She was supposed to be confirming she could make it and She did confirm, at 9.25, by letting you know she was parked up for 30mins. Maybe when she didn’t hear from you for 20 mins after that she assumed it wasn’t happening so drove off to start her shopping day with a coffee by herself.
If you got in the shower before 9.25 and hadn’t heard from her, and you we’re going to be in the shower for 20 mins would you have been ok with the date only getting confirmed a few mins ahead of time? Maybe she wasn’t. I would’ve texted before getting into shower to confirm or let her know you were not going to see any messages for a bit

Loads of people would be ready to leave half hour early to an event

To collect an OBE, yes. To be picked up for a coffee, no. Even if dressed you are probably doing something else even if that is drinking coffee and checking your texts. Extreme earliness is very rude. The OP isn't unreasonable and the friend is very strange indeed and the stuff about being in the coffee shop anyway and whatever in a goady way from her suggests to me there is some kind of psychological issue.

I'm baffled why some people are trying to say you should have been ready early, picked your phone up sooner etc. of course your friend is out of order. 10am is 10am...if you're early, you wait.

Key thing is they were confirming the arrangement this morning, and OP’s friend didn’t hear from her until 9.45 by which point she assumed it wasn’t happening.

I certainly wouldn't be rushing to make any more arrangements with her.

Did you ever hear from her again?