This is why British people don’t talk about money?

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I think the reason why we don’t talk about money is because people then use that as ammunition against us.

If your low earning and tell people your household earns X amount, people then question how you can afford to do xyz.

If your high earning and tell people how much you earn, people then question why you can’t do xyz and assume you must be debt or something.

So it’s easier just to not talk about it?

I don't think that is true at all. Also, 'class' is not just about money in the UK whereas it only about money in the USA.

This. It's nobody's business. Why would they need to know?

Colleagues not knowing what other colleagues earn is completely different to not knowing what your friends earn though.

Why would you care what friend's earn?

Of what relevance is it?

People saying that personal finances are personal are part of the problem. I think it’s vulgar to constantly talk about how much things cost but why be so secretive about salaries it’s such a date mindset and only benefits employers who don’t want to pay people their worth.

Say it ! They’re being rude to ask.

Oh look!! Another Brit bashing post!!

It's you're, not your.

I think the British also say things like 'I can't afford it' when they actually mean I do not want to spend my money on that specific item / activity.

This is why older British people don’t talk about money

Thankfully it’s something that’s become a lot less taboo throughout the generations.

People should discuss finances, I don’t know anyone who doesn’t.

People should discuss finances

Why & who with?

Agree that the taboo around it seems to be dying out now which is a really good thing.

If people don't discuss money then the younger generations won't be educated on money. They won't know what kind of salary to aim for, how much to pay for things, how to manage their finances for the medium to long term.

I absolutely love it when people are open about their finances. Even now it allows me to reevaluate my own and make changes if necessary.

I agree re the education point in some way.
I started buying few dividend stocks there and there after chat with friend about finances. We didn't talk income to penny etc, but we did talk about tiny income streams. He is loaded, I will take any advice he is willing to give😂

Re salries. Yes, while glassdoor can be handy, it's not always that helpful with wide ranges.

With their families, friends, co-workers

what many under 35 do anyway.

Id find it odd if a friend or family member was funny about finances and salary info

"Id find it odd if a friend or family member was funny about finances and salary info"

I must admit I would find it odd to be asked about finances and salary info - it's not anybody else's business!

Clue is no one asks

it comes up in conversation

Thankfully this is definitely something older people have more issue with, and the taboo is dying out

I talked about money with my bestfriends who i know we are in similar salary. We all are high earners. I’m not discussing my wage with other who more or less have similar salary and similar field.

I think it's a bit rude to ask someone what their salary is.
It's a bit like asking someone how often they have sex!!

You're.

I think that's the people you know. People I know are much less rude.

Thing is, I talk about both those things with my close friends and my sisters.
In some depth, honestly! :)

I wouldn't talk to a stranger about either subject but that's simply because I wouldn't care...

"We don't talk about dinero, no,no,no"

Do you not talk about how often you have sex with your friends?

I don't mind in the slightest and if the discussion comes up I'd happily join in. If it helps some one make an informed decision or not to get into my line of work then fine.

I have never been ashamed of my income no matter how low or high, but I will not make a point of rubbing it in if the person I'm speaking to is on a far lower salary.

Completely understand... I did this for years too...

Then I found out I was perpetuating salary inequalities....

I've lost count of the number of times women I know inadvertently discover the new often inexperienced (male) hire is on 15% more than them...

We can only sort this by being much more up front about our salaries.

This is an idea that's bonkers tbh.

People don't talk about money, but it's fairly obvious who has more and who has less.

People do talk about holidays, cars, what they bought this week at the shops, where they went out etc.

And if you go to someone's house you can get a fair idea.

Even if some buy a shed load on credit and others are more frugal, you generally can't hide it.

Salaries tend to raise jealousy or ultra defensiveness though which is kinda crazy when you put it into context.

Urg. DH always asks about money.
I HATE it!
It's so crass.
I'm getting annoyed just thinking about it.