Love 2 men

[Lovestruckagain]

I'm probably going to get slammed for this.
I spent 30 years with my previous partner and at times he would really wind me up and stress me out with certain aspects of his behavior. I split with him after meeting somebody else who has been really easy going kind and caring opposite of ex although I can't say ex was all bad.
I still care for my ex and we spend time together as friends my current partner knows about this and is okay about it.
My problem is I love them both and can't be without either of them in my life.
What you guys think I've been with current partner 7 years. We are all getting on 45 plus

I think stop seeing both of them and get some counselling

it is not all about you

So you got with your ex when you were 8?

I still care for my ex and we spend time together as friends my current partner knows about this and is okay about it.

So what's the problem?

I'm 52

Oh, well spotted! 😂

We are all getting on 45 plus

Errrrm what?

Ex 59 current partner 45

Anyway, so what's the problem if your current partner is ok with the friendship?

I have guilt I guess

This is like pulling teeth.

Why are you guilty about continuing a friendship that your DP is fine with?

BagOfBollocks I don't know guilt at leaving ex I do suffer from emotional episodes.

@Lovestruckagain

if they are happy and you are happy no problem.

ignore the ethical BSers on here.

Istheworldreallydonefor
Thanks I can't cut ex off as we was together 30 years.

Do you mean guilt about cheating on him?

If that's what you mean then so you should.

You'll just have to live with it without trying to organise a pity party.

Ex could be an opinionated bully

Bagofbollocks
No not like that I met new partner afterwards

So why would you want to be his friend?

I still don't get your actual problem here.

Has anyone asked you to cut contact with him? If so, you haven't mentioned it?

Nobody has asked me to cut contact with him. One reason I stayed United was because of son.

I also don’t see the issue.

But you can cut your ex off. You don’t want to. But you could.

everyone seems fine with the situation.

If you mean you want to shagging both of them, just tell your boyfriend you want an open relationship. If he says no and you simply can’t revisit shagging you ex, end the relationship with your boyfriend and find someone who will be happy with you also being with your ex

So again, what are you actually asking?

You said My problem is I love them both and can't be without either of them in my life.

But you've got them both in your life and your DP is fine with that.

So what exactly is the problem?

Ekátn
No no definitely not intimate with both hell no

So what’s the problem?

Sounds like you want there to drama over this when there is non.

I'm confused and not sure what I wanted from posting here

Just as a warning, mumsnet is generally a terrible place to come for advice re infidelity. People are very judgemental and 'you deserve all the worst' etc. Good therapy is what you need.