To be intimidated by FIL turning up at door.

[Ray92]

My FIL turned up at the house today, knowing I'd be on my own with 6m DD. I'm only on my own two days a week and he knows this.
For context, we aren't speaking due to how he and MIL treat my DD and because he keeps asking DH (his stepson) for money.
He came to ask for money, in a roundabout way. Saying how poor they are and he can't get more work. How DH owes his a holiday and money.
I felt intimidated as we have next to no relationship and no one else was there. DH has FIL blocked.
Am I being unreasonable? Or was he trying to intimidate me?

You don’t need to call the Police unless he refuses to leave when you tell him to or becomes threatening

I think it's as sleazy as can be for adults (especially in only their 50s! They're not 90 and vulnerable) to be pestering their offspring for money. That's so low.

They're younger than me, and I work FT and run a side business. No reason they can't step up and hustle.

OP, well done for protecting your money.

Your gut is telling you that there is more going on.

Please be careful.
Life married to a liar is no life.

You have to find out the truth.

I would be telling your husband he has one chance to come clean, and if you find out he hasn't told you the truth, your marriage is over.

Infact I think your marriage could already be over.

Good men don't lie and take loans.

I certainly wouldn't ever trust him again, but I am a one strike person when it comes to lies and money.

They all sound like the dregs of society and his lying tells you that he is one of them.

Be very careful.

Protect yourself and your child.

I think they see you as a very easy mark.

Get a Ring doorbell and a chain on the door for starters. Obviously don’t let him in again.
Would a cease and desist letter from a Solicitor frighten him off.

Some kind of a person to gift money to their family and then demand it back because, in essence, they can't be arsed to work in their 50s 😧 As everyone else has said, just don't let him in next time. You owe him nothing.

I’d say intimidated is very much OTT

He is still a massive twat for turning up though

It seems you know why to so now @Ray92

Send him a text saying "please don't contact me or cinema to my door again" (that's your evidence you have told him not to contact you)

Don't answer door if you see it is him. Block him as your DH has blocked him. If you do answer door and it's him, say "I'm not interested in this, please leave" and shut the door.

If he persists , call 101 police with screenshot of evidence that you asked him to stop contacting you

Or come to my door

I'm so sorry. Yes, he was trying to intimidate and manipulate you.

Did you tell your DH? If not, do it now - he was part of the problem by secretly taking the loan. Dealing with this man is his duty, not yours. Tell him to step up and protect you and your DC, and to tell FIL not to come round again.

One of those video doorbells will tell you if it's FIL at the door.

You do not have to answer your door or invite anyone in if you don't want to.

@Ray92
Have you managed to take protective steps to resolve this now? I hope that whatever steps you have taken have made it safer for you and Dbaby girl. You don't need this level of stress and FIL knows he should not turn up at your door demanding money from you.

Yes, thank you. Ring doorbell and as a poster suggested- a straightforward message to FIL explaining if he came again I would have to phone to police.
Thanks for checking in though! X

Next time one of them suggests meeting, would you be brave enough to say something along the lines of “are you sure you’re going to turn up this time?”

Good for you OP.

Be careful OP.

Between your husband and his family, you are vulnerable.