Would like to get everyone’s opinion on this.
So me and my husband have been together 15 years, married 5 and living together for 10.
We both have a child to a previous relationship however until recent we all lived under the same roof with no issues.
Problem has came up. My son who is the oldest of the two kids (25) officially moved out 3 months ago and in with his girlfriend into their first flat. He has been staying 5 days out of 7 at hers for the last 2 years anyway but this new flat its officially theirs and he has moved all his belongings out.
My husband wants his girl who is 17 to now move into the bigger room (what was previously my sons room) as she currently has the small room to herself.
He appears to have agreed this without ever running it by me first and assumed there would be no issues. His argument is simply that my son moved out 3 months ago and the room is sitting empty so sees no issues in it. He did say that of course there is always a room/bed for my son should anything ever change however he thinks that should be the small room. On the odd occasion my son visits and decides to stay over he thinks it should be in the small room.
Im 100% against this. My son has only just moved out 3 months ago and although my fingers are crossed that everything works out fine for them what if it doesn’t and he has to move back in. I don’t want him feeling that his room is no longer there.
Am I being completely unreasonable as I don’t think I am however my husband seems really angry that this is even being discussed.
Help
AIBU?
Arguments over the spare room
Met82 · 02/11/2022 16:46
Am I being unreasonable?
3069 votes. Final results.
POLLTravis1 · 02/11/2022 19:37
MIL…..is that you? He’s not coming back and neither is BIL.🙄
fdgdfgdfgdfg · 02/11/2022 16:50
You're being completely unreasonable. Why on earth should your stepdaughter have to stay in the small room just on the off chance your son moves back to yours?
He's not even a kid, he's 25!
Met82 · 02/11/2022 21:13
Just to be clear there is no shrine. The room is empty.
Husband is angry as he doesn’t get why this is even a discussion. Says I have empty nest syndrome.
I have a great relationship with my SD I just feel like my son doesn’t have a room at his dads (my ex) so feel bad if he doesn’t have his room at mine should he need it.
SD room yes is small but very cosy and she can use the other room for studying whenever she needs too.
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