How many canapés?

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If it’s a canapé buffet instead of a meal at a wedding then how many canapés would you want? Wedding is at 7pm

thank you

I was at a party last weekend. Big canapés served, sliders (probably 1/3 size of normal burger), Fish & Chip cones (large fish goujon, size of a posh fish finger, and handful of chips). Everyone seemed to only eat 3 or 4 and so much food got wasted and taken back to kitchen. I had a big lunch but no time for dinner and me and DH were more than satisfied (and we’re not tiny people!). Check the size or your portions with the venue.

feed your guests properly or you’ll be forever remembered as the tight git couple

Yes, AKA a buffet

What is the reason for not providing a meal? Surely pie and peas would be just as cheap but a better option.

I hate those little chip cones and mini meals. They all seem so fiddled with

Also check the logistics - when you said canapes, I envisioned people circulating with them on trays and people picking up one item that you can eat one-handed at each pass.

This is going to be a buffet, where people will take a selection of what's on offer, then will need somewhere to sit down and eat it. Because with one hand holding a drink, you're not going to be able to deal with a cone of fish and chips, and unless you want people to be standing round the buffet all night, they'll need to carry several items away on a plate. Then need to put plate and/or glass down to be able to eat.

I'm not a fan of miniature foods like that at all but if I was starving I'd eat them. My DCs would want about 12 each

You'd be better off doing plates of sausages/pork baps with bowls of potatoes or chips and different salads. Probably cheaper too.

This thread shows exactly why you can never please everyone at a wedding. I asked how many canapés per person and I’ve got a lot of opinions on how to lay out the room, suggestions to serve something else etc etc etc
for those who answered the question - been so helpful so thank you so much.

we’ve been explicit about serving a light finger food selection so if, as a guest, you would still expect something more than that I have no idea why? And if you won’t want to come to celebrate a wedding due to not thinking it’s enough then you know that’s all It is from beginning so can absolutely just chose not to come.

either way, we are not planning on leaving people hungry, we will test the size and how full we get and order the number based on that. And then there’s also cake!

were doing it this way as we don’t want a formal meal, we enjoy this style of eating and our wedding is for us.

thanks all!

if, as a guest, you would still expect something more than that I have no idea why?

Because I'm there in the evening, having given up a reasonable portion of my early evening to get to your wedding - so I'm expecting my dinner!

oh I love a canape. They're my favourite meal type.

I think you're doing a buffet rather than canapes, which sounds fine to me tbh.

My friend catered her wedding in a similar way. It was lovely.

She also had a good selection of mini foods. I'd say a selection of around 10 and I had a couple of each at most. My husband helped himself to ore. Neither of us went hungry.

I find the sit down meal the worst part of a wedding - I much prefer what you've planned.

Have a lovely day 😊

Yeah. So were the canapés at the parties I mentioned above.

people were shagging strangers in the bushes.

@BIWI but the invite says it’s a light buffet so why you you think that was a lie?

I don’t think I’ve ever heard of canapés described as a light finger food selection before or a meal. But cones of fish and chips is not a canapé.

I didn't say you were lying!

It’s more that you would just be hungry, by the time you’d got ready, got there, watched the ceremony, been in the photos, all around dinner time. When do you think people can have their dinner? Tesco sandwich in the car on the way there?

I don't see what the problem is here.

The guests aren't going to die of starvation.

They have a whole day before the wedding to eat as much as they like. The way people are talking it's like the whole guest list is comprised of newborn babes that must be fed every two to three hours 🤦🏼‍♀️

I’m not quite sure why you’re being Arsey to people. You asked how many canapés people wanted in a canapé meal. Everyone apart from you seems to know what a canape Is.

Now apparently you used the wrong word, meant a light finger buffet and are serving fish and chips . And you’re being arsey that folks don’t apparently just know you were confused and wrote the wrong thing`?

Thank you!!

most people have said they are going to meet and for dinner at 6 or go out for a big lunch. It’s adults only wedding. I don’t understand

I don’t think I am being arsey? I have said the peoole who replied about quantity of Canapés has been super helpful.

People are going out for dinner and will be seated for your wedding at 7?

and yes the quote I quoted was arsey

Early dinner. 4/5pm. An hour to eat. If they dine locally they could easily be at the venue with time to spare.

People being flexible with schedule/earring requirements is not outside the realms of possibility.

Not every has to be so hard and rigidly set.

The guests are adults. I'm sure they'll work it out.

"most people have said they are going to meet and for dinner at 6"

How will they get to the wedding in time?

Leon, McDonald's, Burger King...or any of the other various fast food establishments available on 99.9% of high streets.

I don't think the purpose of this thread was the guests timetabling. It's been established that they have various options available to them to feed themselves prior to the wedding.

Many people used to have a registry office wedding followed by a sandwich buffet at home or a hall. A full meal for guests isn't essential, as long as there is some food available.

They're not being expected to attend a three day event without food or water. It's a few hours for goodness sake.

Within my friendship group, if we were meeting to eat privately, in advance of attending your wedding, we would be a) well oiled on arrival and b) suffering headaches at the non verbal, raised eyebrows expressions of surprise at the order of the day. At the start, none of us would ever say ‘fuck me, this is tight, unusual, dangerous and likely to see me home by 10pm with a curry on order’ but we would be thinking it and vocalising it as the night wore on. Especially if we’d gone for lunch (big lunches see me asleep by 5). Also, dinner at 6 would make me feel rushed for a 7pm wedding.

Hire a proper Fish & Chip van.