Ds was born five weeks prematurely in July, however due to IUGR he was the size of a thirty one weekend. He spent eighteen days in neonatal and I am so grateful that once I was discharged from maternity I was allowed to stay there. He was born by emergency c section and I lost a lot of blood and because of all this we were separated immediately.
When we came out of hospital my mother was staying and although well meaning she was very hard work and needed a lot of looking after.
Soon after Ds had unexplained hypoxia on the breast (I was still only part bring, I never established it properly despite pumping all the time in neonatal.) He was in hospital for three nights to try to find a cause.
Later he would be admitted again for bronchiolitis.
I have been in a mother baby psychiatric unit for severe perinatal OCD (a really positive experience but the admission and events leading to it were traumatic.)
We established bfing a bit more in the mbu but never totally, and we never had that babymoon time. I guess lots of people don't because of circumstances.
I'd just love to do it now, just me and him in a clean bed for a weekend really focusing on each other, no internet, or interruptions and trying to bf more. He's currently mix fed with lots more formula than bf. I know this time is a luxury and it's a lot to ask of dp but I think it would help undo some of the trauma. I also feel spoilt and demanding and a bit airy fairy asking for it though.