I agree that people should take responsibility for caring for their family, but only if they want to. My father (thankfully now dead) was a horrible, horrible man and I would not have provided care for him. I didn't even go to his funeral (in fact, I'm not even sure whether he was buried or cremated). Being forced to provide care for him would have been in neither his nor my best interests. Conversely, I have taken annual leave to tie in with family members needing care (eg post-op or during chemo). I appreciate not everyone can do that.
I disagree with the poster who said carers should be seen as equal to nurses but I do think they need to be better-trained and they should be regulated by some professional body. I think it's currently too easy for a bad carer to leave one job and walk into another within the care industry.
I do agree that social care should be state run and that homes should be purpose-built buildings. Too many homes are in lovely old houses with narrow corridors and sharps corners. Carers are often trained in-house meaning that bad habits just get passed down. It's not the fault of the carers who are trained in poor manual handling techniques for instance. For someone who said that the old system of SEN and SRN should be brought back, it sort of has, to an extent. Nursing associates have been employed on England for the last few years (I'm not sure about Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland).
I think if we did have a state run social care service, care homes should not have the ability to firstly have direct referrals from patients likely to be admitted there (eg elderly people choosing to move in to a care home self-funded because they are lonely at home but have no actual care needs) or have the ability to decline referrals from hospitals or social workers who have deemed the home a match for a person's needs. I have seen this at work (admittedly a few years ago when I was a ward nurse), we would have 'difficult patients' who would be reviewed by several care home managers who would deem them unsuitable. These patients would get difficult to place and would be in a hospital bed unnecessarily.
Social care needs better funding. Of course the NHS is underfunded but diverting money to social care would help the NHS, patients could be discharged to an appropriate placement if needed or have carers in place freeing up NHS beds, hopefully getting patients out of A&E and out of the back of ambulances quicker.
Building retirement complexes would help with home carers. People could have their own place but have support nearby (wardens) and companionship in shared spaces, but community services such as carers or visiting healthcare professionals (district nurses, podiatry etc) would be able to do several calls at one visit.
Finally, I think that all care homes should employ nurses. My sister currently works in a care home. She seems dedicated (she goes in fairly often on her days off to take her dogs to visit and has gone in again on her days off to take residents to weddings or hospital appointments) but some of what she tells me about isn't right. People also aren't moved on appropriately to nursing homes. If there were nurses employed, residents could be appropriately assessed for whether the home can meet their needs, and people with more complex needs could stay in the place they have hopefully come to view as their home.