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AIBU baby's first Christmas

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USaYwHatNow · 29/10/2022 22:49

Would IBU to not buy my baby (who will be 4 months old) any Xmas presents, specifically? I was planning on putting him in some cute new Xmas pj's, maybe getting a 1st Xmas bauble for the tree but aside from that...? 1st baby so not sure if I'm being a meanie 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Mumdiva99 · 29/10/2022 22:51

Of course you aren't. This year you have bought all the new stuff you need for a baby. Baby will no nothing about Xmas. Just enjoy your day together.

Cantthinkofadifferentname · 29/10/2022 22:51

We didn't buy eldest first Christmas presents, was also 4 months. Had lots from family and friends, so decided would be overwhelmed enough

RosesAndHellebores · 29/10/2022 22:51

I think that's fine. The baby will neither know nor care. Keep the money for later and to buy age appropriate toys as he develops.

Cw112 · 29/10/2022 22:53

Ours will be 4 weeks. We will probably buy them something we would have been getting anyways within the first few months. They're too little at that stage to notice much so I wouldn't put yourself under pressure.

summerlovingvibes · 29/10/2022 22:54

I didn't get anything for my baby's first Christmas and for her second she basically got stuff I was going to buy her anyway and just wrapped up (a book box / books etc). She still got given stuff by family / grandparents etc. My mum always went overboard and it got ridiculous and she's never been able reign it in. So I'm determined not to get into that!

Anotherdayanotherdollar · 29/10/2022 22:55

I think my dc got some clothes that were needed, and some plastic bowls and spoons for when we were starting to wean. And some books.

Ineedsleepandcoffee · 29/10/2022 22:56

Yanbu. They don't understand so just get a couple of momentos of babies first Christmas and that's fine. Save your money for when they need things.

HeartshapedFox · 29/10/2022 22:57

You are not BU! There’s a lot of pressure for “baby’s first Christmas” to be magical and perfect - try to ignore it! My DS was around the same age for his first Christmas, slept badly, I was exhausted… just do what suits you this year when the baby doesn’t know any different. It gets WAY more fun when they’re a bit bigger, sleep more and get excited about Santa coming. Then it really is wonderful.

modgepodge · 29/10/2022 23:01

I didn’t buy mine a big present. I did however do a stocking, as they were a big tradition in my house (photos with contents taken each year and I loved looking back on them!) and I wanted to continue that! Just lots of little bits, including plenty of practical bits she needed anyway, eg teething toy, cute washcloth, PJs and so on with a few small cheap toys.

TheChosenTwo · 29/10/2022 23:08

Of course it’s not unreasonable! They won’t know a thing!
we did our first one a stocking for her first Christmas and a few bits under the tree (she was 6 months) - because we were celebrating with others including small kids - it was things we would have been buying anyway as she was weaning, so some character bowls and spoons, possibly some new age appropriate toys that we would have bought for her if it hadn’t been Christmas, and maybe some bibs or something. My little sister was 5 at the time and I still have some adorable photos of her giving her baby niece her presents from under the tree and of her proudly helping her open them!
so while we did get baby dd presents and wrap them etc, it wasn’t for her benefit, it was mainly for the benefit of my little sister 😂

Banana7 · 29/10/2022 23:12

USaYwHatNow · 29/10/2022 22:49

Would IBU to not buy my baby (who will be 4 months old) any Xmas presents, specifically? I was planning on putting him in some cute new Xmas pj's, maybe getting a 1st Xmas bauble for the tree but aside from that...? 1st baby so not sure if I'm being a meanie 🤷🏻‍♀️

Oh no, you're not unreasonable at all! Baby won't care at all, and will most likely enjoy playing with all the paper instead!

Jalepenojello · 29/10/2022 23:15

It’s sensible. I wrapped a couple of bits like teething toys I’d have bought anyway. That’s it.

Omgwhatthehell · 29/10/2022 23:15

My DS will be 5 months old at Christmas and we haven’t got him much.
I’ve bought him a Christmassy sleepsuit which I couldn’t resist, a bowl and spoons for weaning, a cute teething toy, and we’ll also wrap up another baby toy I’d already bought and put away for later as it’s supposed to be suitable from approx 6 months.
I might buy a nice Christmassy pop up book, which we can then get out every year.

I figured he won’t know what’s going on so it’s pointless going nuts. Family are likely to buy him more presents than he needs anyway.

bellabasset · 29/10/2022 23:16

I think I might buy a lovely tree decoration each year and take a family photo with baby as he grows and the decorated tree.

Tangled123 · 29/10/2022 23:19

I planned not to get anything for my daughter for her first Christmas but I ended up getting a few cheap small toys for her to grow into. By the time Christmas came, I wished I hadn’t got as much as she got plenty of gifts from family and a lot of them have barely been used.
This year, I will probably get her one or two things to open on Christmas Day, but her main gift will be money in an account for when she’s older.

TheBirdintheCave · 29/10/2022 23:24

My son was four weeks old during his first Christmas. We didn't buy him a thing. Babies have no concept of Christmas, I wouldn't worry about it :)

RobertaFirmino · 29/10/2022 23:26

Goodness no, yanbu. All your baby will care about is Mummy, milk and a clean nappy. Just make sure to get some photos in a cute Christmas outfit that you can show to future girl/boyfriends and embarrass the hell out of him in 20 years time!

BlackeyedGruesome · 29/10/2022 23:28

One present take photo. You can then show the kid when they ask.

User359472111111 · 29/10/2022 23:32

Absolutely fine. The world is full of stuff destined for landfill. You are respectful of your DCs future by not buying crap you don’t need.

pippanda · 29/10/2022 23:34

Not at all! It's my baby's first Christmas too and I said exactly the same. Instead I'm going to really decorate the house with lots of sensory stuff for her like twinkling lights etc as she loves stuff like that... and I may have bought us all matching pjs haha. Hope you have a great first Christmas 🎅🏻❤️

suzyscat · 29/10/2022 23:36

I bought stuff for my second even though he was tiny because I wanted my eldest to get used to seeing two piles of kids presents under the tree. (Though a lot of it was practical.) Stuff doesn't = love. Just have a lovely time with your baby!

LadybirdsAreNeverHappy · 29/10/2022 23:36

My dd was the same age on her first xmas and we bought her a few toys, teethers, outfit, sleep suit, blanket and some other stuff. She didn’t have many toys at that point and I just felt like doing presents.
You should do whatever you feel like/ can afford.

Rosebel · 29/10/2022 23:41

Your baby won't care. For our DCs first Christmas we did stocking but filled with things they would need like wipes and feeding spoons. No big presents and probably just as well as they got loads from the rest of the family.
Agree with others just save your money at this stage. It won't be long before they can tell you exactly what they'd like.

2pinkginsplease · 29/10/2022 23:44

I would still buy something small,

ds was 21 days old at his first Christmas . Santa brought him a play gym and some books.

the rest of the family weren’t as reserved and we ended up having to do 2 car journeys with all his gifts. He was the first boy born in both sides of the family for many years and Christmas was the first chance a lot of the family got to see him and the amount of presents was ridiculous!

CoffeeHungry · 29/10/2022 23:55

My LO will be a week away from 6 months at Christmas so I've brought a load of weaning stuff for his stocking like pouches, baby snacks and spoons. I've also got a 2 year old so bath toys and a play kitchen I'm labeling as a shared present but my 2 year old will open. I've got some blocks also which I'm labeling for my littlest but I'm sure my 2 year old would also play with them. I'm asking family for chlothes or a gift voucher for the same store as I want to get a new highchair as my 2 year old is still using his highchair now and it has seen much better days (the plastic seams have all come apart and it's stained all over)

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