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Hosting girls, one gluten free, one will only like chicken and one no spice

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qualitychat · 29/10/2022 15:41

So about 9 people. I don't want to go to a lot of trouble so either stuff I have made beforehand I can stick in the office or sandwiches, nachos and dip, maybe a spanish tortilla or gluten free quiche. Could also have potato salad and maybe gluten free pasta salad, but is gluten free pasta rubbish? Ideas much appreciated. Don't want to poison anyone.

OP posts:
CakeCrumbs44 · 29/10/2022 18:48

mikeyboo · 29/10/2022 15:44

If the gluten free individual is actually coeliac, chances are nothing made at home will be safe and your best bet is sealed pre-prepared dishes from a supermarket.

How do coeliac people eat then, they don't all eat pre packaged stuff every single day do they 🙄

Something like fajitas, with the option of gluten free wraps. Cook some separate chicken without the spice mix on. Toppings like guacamole, cheese, salsa etc are all gluten free.

Side dish of loaded GF corn tortilla chips with melted cheese, jalapenos etc on top. Or potato wedges. Or uncle Ben's mexican spicy rice (or make your own if you're feeling keen)

Namechangehereandnow · 29/10/2022 18:50

CakeCrumbs44 · 29/10/2022 18:48

How do coeliac people eat then, they don't all eat pre packaged stuff every single day do they 🙄

Something like fajitas, with the option of gluten free wraps. Cook some separate chicken without the spice mix on. Toppings like guacamole, cheese, salsa etc are all gluten free.

Side dish of loaded GF corn tortilla chips with melted cheese, jalapenos etc on top. Or potato wedges. Or uncle Ben's mexican spicy rice (or make your own if you're feeling keen)

I can’t believe the ignorance in your post crumbs 🙄

FurryDandelionSeekingMissile · 29/10/2022 18:54

CakeCrumbs44 · 29/10/2022 18:48

How do coeliac people eat then, they don't all eat pre packaged stuff every single day do they 🙄

Something like fajitas, with the option of gluten free wraps. Cook some separate chicken without the spice mix on. Toppings like guacamole, cheese, salsa etc are all gluten free.

Side dish of loaded GF corn tortilla chips with melted cheese, jalapenos etc on top. Or potato wedges. Or uncle Ben's mexican spicy rice (or make your own if you're feeling keen)

Our homes and kitchens are set up so we can prepare and eat food safely. The point wasn't "homemade food is unsafe", rather "it is extremely difficult to make gluten-free food in a kitchen that's regularly used to prepare gluten-containing foods". Which it is, unless you have a special area and equipment which is always kept gluten-free and which all users of the kitchen respect.

Assuming you're not a coeliac and you use gluten-containing foods at home, I bet if I went in your kitchen I could point out a dozen things inside one minute that could pose a risk of gluten cross-contamination.

MegGriffinshat · 29/10/2022 18:58

CakeCrumbs44 · 29/10/2022 18:48

How do coeliac people eat then, they don't all eat pre packaged stuff every single day do they 🙄

Something like fajitas, with the option of gluten free wraps. Cook some separate chicken without the spice mix on. Toppings like guacamole, cheese, salsa etc are all gluten free.

Side dish of loaded GF corn tortilla chips with melted cheese, jalapenos etc on top. Or potato wedges. Or uncle Ben's mexican spicy rice (or make your own if you're feeling keen)

I am really bloody careful.

My family eat foods containing gluten (we can’t afford gluten free bread and other food for everyone), but I have my own oven pans, chopping boards etc. My own butter.

Other people wouldn’t know to be so careful.

Namechangehereandnow · 29/10/2022 19:10

Namechangehereandnow · 29/10/2022 18:50

I can’t believe the ignorance in your post crumbs 🙄

Oh .. and uncle bens Mexican spicy rice likely contains gluten. Let’s hope no coeliacs dine at your house.

suzyscat · 29/10/2022 19:18

Ceased salad and chips - keep some chicken back plain for the fussy one and hold the croutons for the GF one. You could do some vegetable / slaw side dishes, shärr gluten free ciabatta rolls are nice.

Eton mess if you're doing a pudding or something moussey or ice cream.

FurryDandelionSeekingMissile · 29/10/2022 19:22

Namechangehereandnow · 29/10/2022 19:10

Oh .. and uncle bens Mexican spicy rice likely contains gluten. Let’s hope no coeliacs dine at your house.

Actually it's okay, funnily enough. No gluteny ingredients, no may contains, gets a smiley face on the Coeliac UK app.

HotCoffee22 · 29/10/2022 19:24

FurryDandelionSeekingMissile · 29/10/2022 19:22

Actually it's okay, funnily enough. No gluteny ingredients, no may contains, gets a smiley face on the Coeliac UK app.

Tastes like shit though.

TheChosenTwo · 29/10/2022 19:30

In all honestly I’d be looking to book a table out somewhere.
with the best will in the world you’re trying to do a nice thing and it’ll come back to bite you in the arse!
the health issues I could deal with and would manage it, but the fussiness of adults I couldn’t be arsed with to be honest. And we host a lot for a lot of people, will always cater to health issues as best we can.
If booking a table out somewhere isn’t possible for whatever reason, then just ask everyone to bring a plate (maybe specify what you will make so everyone else can plan accordingly).
I myself am what some would call a fussy eater - in the confines of my own home. But when I go out and about the only things I’d say a definite no to would be liver (and that’s not really something you’d expect to be served anywhere!) and anything with peanuts as I have a mild sensitivity to them. I’d at least be polite and have a go at anything else anyone had gone to the effort to cook me. It’s one fucking meal!!!

FirstnameSuesecondnamePerb · 29/10/2022 19:32

Jacket Spuds
Bowl of rice
Bowl of salad
Bowl of Chilli for those that do
Diet coke chicken or similar
Veggie Salsa type thing
Back up with spud fillers (Tuna, grated cheese and the like).
Covers the multitude of stuff people can't eat.

swishswashswoosh · 29/10/2022 19:34

mikeyboo · 29/10/2022 15:44

If the gluten free individual is actually coeliac, chances are nothing made at home will be safe and your best bet is sealed pre-prepared dishes from a supermarket.

This is complete rubbish! My sister is coeliac, it is absolutely possible to make food at home that is safe and there is tonnes you can do.

OP you just need to be careful about cross contamination. What about tarragon chicken with potatoes? Or chicken and mushroom stroganoff? Or stuffed chicken breast stuffed wrapped in Parma ham?

Bloody hell, by this standard you're suggesting anyone coeliac must eat out or by every scrap of food preprepared!

PaintByLetters · 29/10/2022 19:42

I think the important thing to take from this thread is that people need to ask any GF guest what works for them, rather than assuming that everyone is the same.

For me and my other family member with Coeliacs - low level cross contamination is not a massive deal, we can generally be ok with "may contain traces of" things, I regularly eat at friends houses who just check ingredients with me in advance.

For a colleague with Coeliacs - she can't even use the communal teabags at work as the person before her might have just eaten a sandwich and the cross contamination would leave her in agony for days.

HotCoffee22 · 29/10/2022 19:46

PaintByLetters · 29/10/2022 19:42

I think the important thing to take from this thread is that people need to ask any GF guest what works for them, rather than assuming that everyone is the same.

For me and my other family member with Coeliacs - low level cross contamination is not a massive deal, we can generally be ok with "may contain traces of" things, I regularly eat at friends houses who just check ingredients with me in advance.

For a colleague with Coeliacs - she can't even use the communal teabags at work as the person before her might have just eaten a sandwich and the cross contamination would leave her in agony for days.

Exactly. Low level cross contamination doesn’t concern me, but I understand for others it might.

kenadams86 · 29/10/2022 19:46

Fajitas with gluten free wraps

mikeyboo · 29/10/2022 19:49

Of course people with coeliac disease can eat home prepared food - the issue is that for some people it is going to be nigh on impossible to safely eat food that has come from a kitchen that isn’t gluten free, even if the host is trying their hardest to do something nice.

Unless OP knows both her guest’s level of sensitivity and comfort level with eating food that may have been accidentally cross-contaminated, the most reliable way to ensure her guest is fed and not put in an awkward position is to buy something that’s definitely safe.

pigsDOfly · 29/10/2022 19:56

swishswashswoosh · 29/10/2022 19:34

This is complete rubbish! My sister is coeliac, it is absolutely possible to make food at home that is safe and there is tonnes you can do.

OP you just need to be careful about cross contamination. What about tarragon chicken with potatoes? Or chicken and mushroom stroganoff? Or stuffed chicken breast stuffed wrapped in Parma ham?

Bloody hell, by this standard you're suggesting anyone coeliac must eat out or by every scrap of food preprepared!

It's not about not being able to make food at home. It's the fact that the person doing the catering in this instance - the OP - has no idea what they're doing in relation to catering for someone who is coeliac.

In those circumstances the likelihood of cross contamination is very high - one poster suggested cooking something in an air fryer, a complete no no if it's been used for anything containing gluten.

It would be very easy for someone who is unsure of the possibility of cross contamination to, for instance, forget and use the same spoon for stirring the regular food and then the gluten free food.

You also need to be sure about the ingredients you're using, to make sure everything is completely GF.

Of course cooking at home for someone who is coeliac is perfectly safe, if you know what you're doing, the OP doesn't and is also cooking for several other people at the same time.

Willbe2under2 · 29/10/2022 20:06

NeverDropYourMooncup · 29/10/2022 18:37

At least you said to check. Knorr cubes aren't gluten free - that's why they sell specifically labelled GF ones for a hugely increased price.

Really? I was sure it was the standard knorr stock pots I used to use when cooking for my friend who's ceoliac (I did always check ingredients before buying even if it was something I'd used before so I definitely wasn't giving her gluten) but it was a while ago so I might be misremembering and was buying more expensive gf ones.

HotCoffee22 · 29/10/2022 20:08

Willbe2under2 · 29/10/2022 20:06

Really? I was sure it was the standard knorr stock pots I used to use when cooking for my friend who's ceoliac (I did always check ingredients before buying even if it was something I'd used before so I definitely wasn't giving her gluten) but it was a while ago so I might be misremembering and was buying more expensive gf ones.

I’ve definitely used knorr before too.

Triffid1 · 29/10/2022 20:09

I never understand why on gluten free threads for a.once off meal, everyone suggests gluten free pasta or bread. Just do a meal with potatoes or rice as your carbohydrate.

With your restrictions I woukd do a chicken tray bake of some sort. If you cook veg with the chicken, just do new or mashed potatoes or do some.kind of veggies on side eg roasted veg or a gorgeous salad.

SpookyPanda · 29/10/2022 20:09

Triffid1 · 29/10/2022 20:09

I never understand why on gluten free threads for a.once off meal, everyone suggests gluten free pasta or bread. Just do a meal with potatoes or rice as your carbohydrate.

With your restrictions I woukd do a chicken tray bake of some sort. If you cook veg with the chicken, just do new or mashed potatoes or do some.kind of veggies on side eg roasted veg or a gorgeous salad.

That sounds lovely

Greenllama123 · 29/10/2022 20:14

As a coeliac here - you need to check everything before you put it in the risotto, make sure the stock is GF and any spices or anything like that. Also clean all equipment before you use it and make sure you’re not chopping chicken/vegetables with the same utensils used to cut bread etc if hasn’t been washed :)

Triffid1 · 29/10/2022 20:18

Rheres a huge difference between gluten free and coeliac surely? If a friend was coeliac and wanted to eat at my house I would expect them to be very clear with me. I the same way my peanut-allergy friend had a very detailed conversation with me before eating at my house. If someone tells me they are gluten free, I don't assume they therefore need me to cook with utensils that have never touched gluten.

Similarly, dd is lactose intolerant. I ask people not to give her dairy based foods. But an intolerance is v different to an allergy so I don't feel the need to check that they have disinfected their counters after they do ice cream for their children.

PineapplePear · 29/10/2022 20:39

Old El Paso do ‘street food’ tortillas which are made from corn in the traditional Mexican way and gluten free. So I would do tacos and a chilli and rice.

dontbringthatbirdinhere · 29/10/2022 20:55

Chicken and Mediterranean veg traybake with toasted smashed new potatoes and a side salad.

Naturally gluten free, chicken, no spice. Salad hater doesn't have to have any salad.