To hate jokes about my height from DP's family?

[Maryfast]

I'm short and I know it - 4'11 yet why does his family constantly have to make jokes e.g.
Saying hello to my boyfriend then following with "oh sorry didn't see you there as I was.looking way over your head"

Or when I met his uncle and his uncle said"imagine your nurse being that small" and laughing.

His family are all naturally quite tall and it kind of makes me feel upset and quite insecure and I find it rather rude. Am I being oversensitive?

They wouldn’t say that if you were fat, would they? And it’s not like being short is a lifestyle choice. Get your OH to stick up for you, or tell them yourself you don’t like it. They sound juvenile.

They sound awful OP, sorry you have to put up with their rude behaviour.

I’m just over 5ft and female but I love being small, I find it quite feminine so it doesn’t bother me. But I’m very open with that fact. Make it clear it bothers you and if they continue then have a word.

How annoying. Stop them then. Head up, shoulders back, voice firm 'you are being incredibly rude, piss off with your seriously unfunny jokes about my height'.

I was watching an interview with Richard Osmon where he was saying how many times a day he's told he's tall, as though he's never bloody noticed!

God I was about to write it’s annoying but let it go over your head… talk about terrible wording!
Seriously tho, yea it sounds annoying but it’s just one of those things really. I used to go with a guy who was 6’6 and it was always ‘how’s the weather up there?’ Etc. Boring AF but generally harmless.
Dry answers work best I think ‘never heard that one before’ that sort of thing. No sense in getting too worked up, they should(!) get the message they’re no funny without it being too uncomfortable.

They sound like a bunch of dicks. Blunt retort and hard stare needed.

They sound rude and condescending, you should tell them in no uncertain terms that jokes about someone's physicality are not funny and very unkind

Yes that's exactly it!! But it feels like all they see.me as is "short".

"Oh I was telling my friend Sandra how tiny and short you are"

"Oh gosh, she is small isn't she?" Giggle

It's really patronising but I'm not sure how to stop it without being rude! I just kind of laugh but it's getting really annoying now

Just say fuck off with a straight face every single time, before looking them dead in the eye and walking off. Every single time. They'll soon stop

Can you ask your BF to speak with his family? Or just avoid going round? Ask them are they always that rude!

My sister is the same height as you OP..she went through a stage where it bothered her too.

Go to their level and pick on something about their appearance or roll your eyes and tell them how boring they are?

I'm 4 foot 10!

“I am aware I’m short, are you aware you are rude?”

Telling your boyfriends family, repeatedly, to fuck off may be effective in stopping the ‘jokes’… but I expect it’ll also ruin your relationship with them forevermore… which may be a positive or a negative I suppose. Personally, it’s not a route I’d go down.

Very rude to comment on someone’s appearance. I would go no contact with them.

Do you feel the views have a root from discrimination? Are you from a lower 'class' than them? I'm not British, but have seen a definite class system in the UK.

There are people that see short stature as being related to poorer, malnourished people than the upper classes. Yes, this has been the case from a medical/historical perspective. Why do you think they are saying it- as a joke, to try to make conversation or to really be cruel?

@MarmiteCoriander you do realise the former Queen, her mother, her grandfather, her great grandmother were all short in stature I assume.

Call them giants. I’m a shade under 5 foot 3 and DH is 6ft. He commented on my height in the early days and I said something, can’t remember what now, that ended with - you’re a giant.

I’m 4’11” and get comments about my height, especially when I meet new people. XHs family were particularly bad for it. I have no idea why people feel it is so important to mention it, and usually as if it is a terrible thing. These days I usually just reply ‘yes, I am’ and move on. If people go on about it too much they get told in boring detail about the genetic condition that causes me to be short.

This, with a death stare and ask your Dh to tell them you’re honestly offended. They’re being dicks.

I was watching an interview with Richard Osmon where he was saying how many times a day he's told he's tall, as though he's never bloody noticed!

DH (6ft6) and DS2 (6ft3 and growing) have this all the time too, they both do the fake surprise thing 'omg really, I hadn't noticed that before', although generally people are taller these days so it's less than it was.

We also have a surname that is a constant source of amusement especially to teenagers. When my boys were at secondary school I taught them to stare disdainfully, roll their eyes and say 'like I haven't heard that before'. It worked for the most part.

Is this a new relationship? If they’re all tall, they could genuinely be intrigued but the comments are rude.

My tween is taller than 4’11”, much than me, for now. I find shortness genuinely fascinating (from afar!). I would never stare or comment though.

I'm really short too and it especially used to irk when DS friends used to tell me they're were taller than me or had bigger feet than me. I'm short not unobservant, I can see I'm shorter than a 10 year old!🙄
With new people I meet I often make a joke or self deprecating comment about my size almost as self protection so they don't get to make a joke about it at my expense, if that makes sense?

How irritating! I’d look them in the eye, give them a knowing smile and tell them that height doesn’t matter when you’re lying down.

That would get old very quickly. I'm 5 foot, DH is 6 foot 3. His family are all very tall, mine are all very small in laws have never commented on my height.