Hi, I'm new here and a bit nervous!!
I'm a Mum to F25, M26, F30, SD16 & SS17.5
Step-Son 17.5 is a trouble child. For years he was physical & mentally abusive towards his sister. I put a stop to it when I came into their lives when he was 7. It didn't stop him. Fast forward to now and we live with a complete monster. He steals, lies, yells and swears at all of us.
This week I had his 14yo girlfriend's Mum come to our home and abuse me because SS17.5 wouldn't leave her alone. He has been told by the girls Mum to stay away as 14yo is way too young for SS17.5.
As a background I was never in support of this relationship - but nobody listened to me. SS has no respect for women and has, in the past, been a domineering partner and been dumped more times than my rubbish bin.
The Mother has gone to the police for = well you can imagine.
AIBU for now putting in strict rules for the house. Those being - no g/f or b/f to come to our home UNTIL we meet their parents and make sure they are on board with the relationship. SS17.5 is on his learner's license and as I have the only automatic car in the house - I have banned him from doing any lessons in my car. When he yelled at me to STFU you ft B**h why not - my response was very cool and calm - I said when you can learn to face the consequences of your actions and start acting like the adult that you think you are we'll re-think all of this.
SS17.5 says that I don't get a say to what rules he should be forced to live under and that my "job" in the house is to shut up do the cooking and cleaning.
AIBU for putting strict rules and punishments in this house? (SS17.5 only chore is to wash up every second night and unload a dishwasher every second day)