I’m really upset right now regarding MIL reaction. I don’t really want to discuss this with people in RL as it’s just awkward. I just spoke to my mum in the phone who told me I’m completely in the wrong and should apologise so I’m asking on here. That’s her usual reaction to anything in law related!
MIL off on holiday and her brother came over. We’re in the process of moving so she said to him “please help them when they move and hire some guys, don’t worry about payment we’ll pay you when we get back or you pay them”. I just absent mindly just said “no uncle, you don’t need to pay, just tell us their rate and we’ll pay on the day”.
Mil went bat shit crazy and screamed at me infront of everyone , I’m not gonna write word for word what she said but jist of it was I’m always like this and don’t see them as family and there’s no difference in the money. I replied back I said that as didn’t want them to feel I was taking advantage of them and in this country it’s polite to offer. She screamed more. I said to uncle : “I apologise if I offended you I didn’t mean to, I just didn’t want you feeling put out by us”.
im upstairs upset now. I’m avoiding her for a few mins whilst I calm down. I’m thinking I’ll go down and explain what I meant or just leave it.
BTW it’s all confusing for me as they have never made me feel part of the family. When we come to see her she’s so lovey dovey to her son and our kids but ignores me! She could have had the conversation with her son but no decided it was me she would tell this too. I can’t even contact the uncle as don’t have his number only DH does do I kind of think she had the conversation with me to goad me or something.
she doesn’t understand manners like for example if I make tea I’ll ask just out of politeness but she gets pissed off and says “didn’t you see? I just had one an hour ago, why u asking me again”. Rather than a simple “no thanks”.
I absolutely hate her. She from India just for context. I’m Indian too but born and raised in the uk.
DH just came upstairs and said “don’t you tucking know Indian mentality, the kids don’t pay you dumb xxxxx”