Is this rude?

[Awcw1234]

If you text a friend 48 hours ago and you had no reply, would you be annoyed?

Friend has been posting on social media constantly since I text her. She is glued to her phone. Literally on social media 24’7. We are trying to arrange meeting up within a few days. I need to make childcare/travel arrangements so the lack of reply is irritating me slightly.

AIBU?

She's not that into you?

Make new plans. She clearly can't be bothered, so don't be bothered with her. Do yourself a massive favour and mute her on your social media.

Yes, that thought has crossed my mind. We haven’t seen each other for a while. I’m trying to make the effort but I feel like she just doesn’t want to bother to be honest.

That is fine but it would be nice to know if we are meeting up or not as I’m wondering if I need to get a babysitter!

I’m terrible for that I’ll be honest. It’s usually when there’s a question like where do you want to meet / what time! It requires me to think and so I don’t reply immediately, then it slips my mind! Shit reason but I’m a good friend in other ways :)

Just give her a little prompt message x

Call her

She has constantly been on social media since I messaged her though… like constantly! She knows I need to sort out childcare. I always reply to people so I find it a little rude. It takes a minute to reply to a text. I text her Monday. Tomorrow is Thursday and we are supposed to be meeting on Saturday. Guessing she has changed her mind but I would like to know if that is the case. Will feel silly texting her again though.

Agree it's annoying she may have read the message, intended to reply later then forgot. If you need to know and really want to go id message for confirmation. Otherwise leave it and if you can't go it's tough.

To be honest, I don’t want to go unless it is a two way thing. The lack of response is making me feel like she can’t be bothered!
If she wasn’t on social media 24’7 posting stories, it wouldn’t annoy me so much but her phone is constantly in her hand…

Must admit I have a friend like this, and it's a bit annoying. I message her, and a day later she has not messaged back. I message again, and sometimes a third time before she answers.

It's not that she doesn't want to meet, as she is a good mate and we have known each other many years, and we have fun together. But she is really busy - works 45 hours a week, has 4 kids (all over 16 but all living at home,) and several extended family members she looks after.

She is always chasing her tail, so I don't take it personally. I mean I am busy too some weeks, but still manage to answer all my messages promptly, but I guess people are different.

Maybe she is very busy @Awcw1234 ? If this is not the case, just message her again, and then don't bother a third time.

She definitely isn’t busy. She has had time to post constant stories on Instagram and I mean constant!

This is me

Nope, you are right. If I don’t hear from her by tomorrow, I’ll assume we aren’t meeting!

I’d just text her again or ring her. Texts do get lost occasionally. I have had friends not receive a text, or I’ve not received one of their texts. Or we’ve seen it and said, right need to check my calendar so I can text back….and then minor mishap happens and they forget all about the text. But now it’s read, there’s no handy notification to remind you of it.

Just do a follow up text or ring her.

Message was sent via WhatsApp. She definitely received it as the app says she read it.

Not too keen on sending up a follow up message. Always feel like it is me making the effort.

Fucking ring her.. ive sent my mum two messages today and she's received neither

Just phone her and ask.

Just ring her!

It's annoying but you're overthinking it.

Sometimes it takes less energy to be on social media than to put thought & planning into sending a text to arrange a meet-up. Still a bit rude, but honestly just text her again. "Hey, I need to know if I need to book a babysitter, so please let me know if you're keen to meet up and where/when." (Or just come up with a plan yourself and give her the option to say no if it doesn't suit.)

She's leaving her options open

I can't be bothered with people who do this, yes it's rude and IMO shows they can't really be assed and aren't really bothered if they meet up or not.

Take the decision out of her hands and make other plans - if you do hear from her just tell her you've made other plans now seeing as she didn't get back to you.

This!
Posters will say oh she’s probably busy/it’s slipped her mind etc etc.
I think she’s just waiting to see if she gets a better offer, so just don’t give her any more time or headspace.

And this is why phones make calls, could have sorted is easily in 2 seconds!

Either she can't be bothered with you or she opened the message when it arrived, didn't have the time/headspace at that moment to reply properly and has now forgotten.

I'd send a polite nudge if you still want to go or leave it if you don't.

If you don't want to call her and don't want to be the one always taking the first step then just assume the meet up is off, don't worry about arranging a babysitter. If she gets back to you tell her it's too late to get a babysitter and you can't go.