When you compare your upbringing to the way you’re bringing up your Dc/Dc’s

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How does it differ?

Beeb thinking about it a lot recently and even spoke to mum who is equally baffled about some of the things she didn’t do/did and the way we parent now (and the way she says she would now)

I was an 80’s child and 90’s teen (born late 70’s)
Parents rarely showed affection, no I love you, hugs, a kiss goodnight/goodbye perhaps.
I vividly remember going on a Brownies trip away for the first time and when my mum came to pick me up, there was no hug or kiss…I remember seeing other mums running to their girls, giving them big hugs and kisses.
Not talking to me about periods…at all. Just leaving a packet of pads in the bathroom cabinet and stocking up sometimes. No talk about boys, relationships, friendships, sex…nothing.
Parents basically having no knowledge about what I got up to..drinking, smoking, drugs, clubbing at a v young age
I was hit by a car at 17 (luckily was ok, but obviously not a nice incident!) my boyfriend phoned my mum from the hospital, she didn’t come to get me and I ended up staying at boyfriends house for 3 days being looked after by him and his mum.

Brought up in a fairly middle class, nice area. Group of friends all fairly similar experiences

Cant imagine it being *Anything like this with my Dd as she grows up

Did you also have a basic lack of care?! Where was the parental involvement and care 🤷🏻‍♀️

My DS doesn't have a psychopath trying to kill him most days! Anything after that is a bonus really.

born late 80s

I can’t remember my childhood. Have a few flashes of memories, some things from about the age of 12, and then actual memories and more of a narrative from about 16/17.
I have no idea why that is but am frankly terrified about it - as in, why?

my parents were emotionally neglectful/ abusive. My grandmother really tried to compensate but it doesn’t work like that.

I can’t ever even imagine to look at my son with the same contempt my mother would look at me. NC for about 5 years now and v happy about it.

Omg 😱

So many terrible parents of posters on here. I didn't know it was so common to have such horrible/neglectful parents. None of my friends had any extraordinarily bad parents.

I recognise a lot of this - my parents were very similar. I tell DC I love them often and will keep on hugging them as long as they let me.

I think my parents weren't particularly good at being parents, they didn't really know what to do and didn't hang round with people that parented differently to them. Now we have the internet and can see different examples of parenting. I like to think my parents would have been more caring if they'd had access to the same resources.