Really worried about BF - Help

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Hello all

I wondered if you could help me - I dont know if I am being silly or if I should be worried.

Me and my BF had words last night, it wasn't heated, but we exchanged a few messages. It was me mostly saying that I didn't believe him about something, and he said he was very upset by this. His last message to me, at 12:30am, was "I'm not sure what you are accusing me of, I have nothing to hide" and then he went offline - I replied within minutes, literally at 12:33am, and he is yet to read this message. He hasnt been online since his last message to me.

Now before everyone starts saying I am being over the top and shoudnt expect a reply all the time - this is highly unlikely. He is always up really early for work and always sends me a good morning text. We also texts quite alot during the day and in the evening. If we are both busy at work, there are sometimes a few hours here and there we dont text, but we are usually in constant contact. I've also called him twice and it is ringing out and going to voicemail.

He works from home and he can be pretty flexible with his hours - he also said he was going to the city today to buy some stuff in the afternoon. I feel like I am overreacting but this isnt like him at all, he would be in touch at some point.

I dont know what I should do. He lives over an hour away - do I drive to his house and check he is okay? Should I give him until tomorrow?

I cant ask his friends to check on him as they live much further away than I do. I have met his family but dont have their phone numbers - I dont want to reach out to them on social media (I am not friends with them on social media) and cause worry if there is no need.

What would you do?

Am I being over the top? I have a horrible gut feeling that something has happened :(

Hey, he may just feel a bit annoyed and have turned his phone off?... I would say if you haven't heard by the time you go to bed tonight then definitely try to call again.

Sounds like he is annoyed with you and is ignoring you. You could just send one message to say 'hey worried something may have happened to you so can you just send a quick reply before I drag myself over there through worry?'

Maybe he blocked you and that's why it looks like he hasn't been online?

I cant be blocked I am seeing his last online status and his picture still :(

Sounds like he's sulking probably? You've text & rung him, don't think there's much else you can do at the moment. I had an ex who was fond of the silent treatment, it's absolutely pathetic & designed to make you panic & feel guilty.

I'm thinking it might be that but he has never done this before. He doesnt like going to sleep during an argument - we werent having an argument, we were having words. He has never just ignored me during an argument, he likes to sort things out :( (

Calm down, he's alright, just having a sulk.

Whatsapp was down for some people this morning, so that might go someway towards some explanation if you were messaging on there?

Just message him saying you're worried and will be over tonight to see how he's doing and patch things up unless you hear otherwise.

I feel sick with worry :(

WhatsApp has been down a lot of today, but you know him, you know what his normal is. If you are worried then go and check on him, hopefully he is fine and it will put your mind at rest

He's just avoiding whatsapp and your message.

Give him some space?

Have you called him?

I would think he is purposely ignoring you, which is childish if he is, but as another poster suggested, send a message saying you'll be leaving in half an hour (or whatever time) to come to his house to check on him if he doesn't send a message just to say he's okay, as you're worried something has happened due to his lack of contact.

I wouldn't 'threaten' that you're coming over if you don't hear from him. That's just playing to his pity party. I'd leave it a bit longer before doing anything. At least until this evening. Then maybe send him another message asking if he's ok.

Leave him alone. He knows you'll worry. He's doing it on purpose.

You upset him by accusing him of something he is saying he didn’t do. Over text.

he's probably pissed off at you and doesn’t want to speak to you, maybe he’s figuring out what to say or how to deal with how he feels, maybe he just needs some space from you.

If he's never said anything before than indicates he's likely to hurt himself then I don't think you need to worry - he's just sulking.

I had an ex who would do this every time we fell out, he'd string it out for days.

You called him a liar, and if he wasn't, I can see where he's pissed off. I wouldn't talk to you, either, and I would probably end the relationship.

Easy way to keep you under control, isn't it? Completely ignore you for a day, and then you're going crazy with worry and won't pick up on his lying next time.

Always check in somehow if you're worried. I would anyway. Even if it means an hour drive, or calling 101 (if in the UK). Hope all is well in the end.

What exactly are you worried about?

If you think he may be in danger, had an accident/fallen ill can you contact one of his friends or family members?

It isn’t uncommon for someone to avoid going on WhatsApp or reading your messages when you’ve had a bit of a row.

What do you think he's lying about?

Borrow a friend's phone and ring him from that?