Ex Fiancé Wants to Go On Family Days Out With a Woman He’s Just Met

[withlovefromlou]

My ex fiancé and I broke up at the end of July, after 20-years together. We have an adult daughter and a 9-year old son. Our daughter is currently at uni, so hasn’t seen much of her dad since the split, but he’s always taken our son to see their favourite football team on a Saturday afternoon and a Tuesday evening (when it’s a home game), and thankfully this has continued.

My ex then started seeing someone new a couple of weeks ago, and has told our son he will start taking him to the away games as well. His exact words to him were “Me, you, and new girlfriends name will be going to all the away games together from now on. It’ll be a family day out and loads of fun”. Our son came home really upset and said he didn’t want to go as he’s never met his dads new girlfriend.

I called my ex and explained the situation, and he thinks I’m being unreasonable as I said I’m with our son on this one and think it’s too early to be going out playing happy families with someone he’s known a fortnight, and who hasn’t even met our children yet.

Football is something he and his dad have enjoyed together for years (without me and our daughter present), and since that’s the only time he seems to want to see him ATM, I think it’s a bit off that he would want his new GF to tag along too.

I’m now being accused of being jealous and wanting him back. And he’s going round telling people that I’m preventing him from seeing our son (none of these things are true. I would never stop him seeing the kids, and I definitely don’t want him back).

So I’m hanging it over to you guys: AIBU? I’m really starting to doubt myself.

Happy to add in any relevant info if you think I’ve missed anything important.

Thank you :)

The immature part of me wants you to reply to her..
'Thankyou! I've been wanting a new kettle for ages'

🤣🤣🤣

I really want to send that now lol

Either she’s completely mad, or it’s a fake account set up by your ex/your ex messaged you using her account.

Or they’ve been together for months and your ex told her you broke up months before it actually happened…

There’s always that possibility. But if he was seeing her I wish he’d told me as it took me years of unhappiness to pluck up the courage to leave him

I have a family member who was told something similar, the new partner couldn’t bare sharing the children with their biological parent.
I was left thinking wtf that can’t be true! I just think it’s them trying to control you and put the blame on you, it’s pathetic, I hope you can keep your head held up high knowing you are doing what is best for your children by putting their needs first and letting their voices be heard.