Im sick and tired of only being seen for my breasts.

[Ericamills25]

Im 25 years old, have a big chest and quite frankly, it feels like thats all people seem to give a shit about. I am so sick and tired of men coming in my dms every time i post an outfit I’m proud of talking like “unga bunga give boobie”. Every man who wants to date me or has taken me on a date have one conversation topic in common, my boobs. “Can I see them?” “I wanna put my dick in em” etc. Every pic i post, every outfit I wear MUST be “for attention” or to “show off the tits” because of their size. Dont even get me started on knowing just how often I’m not looked in the eyes while speaking if you know what i mean. Its just enraging and make body image issues go brr

Once again, it's a case of women (in this case those with bigger boobs) having to modify their behaviour because most men are unable to behave decently. So sick of this shit. I've had this most of my life too and I still get it now and I'm mid-fifties. 🤬

I think you are talking to the wrong kind of men. They all sound 12.

Lock down your social media accounts so only friends can see pictures you post, and don't have your DMs open.

In the real world, try going to places frequented by actual grown ups?

I'm similar to you and as I'm only 5ft with a 38KK chest they're very obvious. I have looked into a reduction but on the NHS I'd have to half my size and even privately loose about 6 stone
That fact I can't comfortably exercise or afford more than 2 bras on the go is just something I expect. But yes, many men are pigs. The only solace I take from them is dogs and babies love cuddling up to them and I won't deny those cuddles!

Also, please don't get surgery just because of men like this. You shouldn't have to be ashamed of your body or hide it just because some people don't know how to behave. Only get breast reduction surgery if you personally want it. Do get measured for a properly supportive bra though.

Thank you for all of your comments. It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one who is bothered by this problem. You've all been so kind and considerate. Although your advice will not change the size of my breasts, it will help me to gain confidence and not be concerned about the size of my breasts affecting my image.

I also agree with some comments that as women, we tend to change our appearance or way we dress. Why do we as women always have to think about our clothes too tight, too short, or too revelling ? Why can't some guys just f* themselves?
Thanks for your sane advice.

I agree that breast reduction surgery is too drastic, though. I might see some physio as advised before. Thanks😊

@Ericamills25 absolutely avoid M&S for bra fittings. A good fitting bra can make a world of difference, Bravissimo is great. I had huge boobs on a tiny frame from the age of 16/17 so I understand the comments you’re getting. I used to get lots of “are they real?” on nights out, some disgusting comments from men.

Anyway, they’re not a problem now as I had them surgically reduced in my 30s and I can honestly say it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. It was expensive (6.5k) and recovery was brutal but I’d go through it all again in a heartbeat.

@ScreamingInfidelities I'm glad it's not a problem for you. Returning to the surgery issue, I cannot afford 6.5K at this time. I doubt the NHS would pay for it because it is more of a cosmetic issue than a medical one. Thank you for your help. I would try Bravissimo rather than M&S.

@unsync So much agree with you that as women, we tend to change our appearance or way we dress. Why do we as women always have to think about our clothes too tight, too short, or too revelling ? Why can't some guys just f* themselves?
Thanks for your sane advice.

@janeseymour78 Thanks for your message Jane, I got such great support from the community as always.😊

@babyjellyfish TThank you for your comment. I doubt I'd go under the knife. I believe I should shop around for a bra. As many ladies have suggested, I believe the next step would be Bravissimo.

Sadly yes you must OP.
You'll find a few iterations of "sod off, sex pest, my body is none of your business" will soon get you into the swing of it.

Oh wow, so it’s OP’s fault? Come on. Men have been making lecherous comments about breasts since time immemorial. They just have another channel to do it now.

It’s not nice to be branded a slag because your body is developing; it’s not nice to be targeted by men because of it; it’s not nice to be told that ultimately, it’s your fault, you’re inviting these comments by having the audacity to have large breasts and Facebook.

I just wanted to say if Erica Mills is your real name you might want to delete this thread and start again with a pseudo name.

Yes go and have a proper fitting either m and or bravissimo if you have one.

@CarefreeMe so true