To hang my bl**dy MIL...

[Lunar270]

.....for re-hanging my washing on the line.

It was a nice(ish) day for hanging out the washing so there I am, pegging it all out. MIL pops round, sees me finishing the last of the washing and precedes to unpeg and hang it out again.

Now, a question for MN. I honestly don't spend much time thinking about it. However, I tend to peg garments using the strongest part of the garment. So for a tee shirt I'll peg the seam at the arm/shoulder as this also minimises peg marks. But nope, MIL turn the tee upside down and pegs the bottom seam, which results in the tee drying out of shape as it then droops (plus peg marks 🙄).

So I call her out on her ludicrous behaviour. First why the hell she's re-hanging my washing and also that she's doing it incorrectly (for me). I should bite my lip but no-one can ever do anything right in her eyes.

"Oh I've been a housewife for over 30 years so know what I'm doing". I could've hung her out with the washing too. AIBU?

Fwiw. I always pegged trousers from the waist but tried it the other way.
The other way is actually better...
Life is too short to fret about these things though. As long as it ends up dry - that's a win!

DH does the cooking when IL are over now for similar reasons EadnothTheStaller as I found it stressful and upsetting though DH said I was oversensitive.

Recently as MIL attempts to get on better - which TBH is nice - means I get all the praise for cooking DH has done which DH notices and wonder if she making some sort of point.

No it really is not!

I was taught hand tops from the bottom, bottoms from the tops.
So long as it dry's does it really matter.

I started hanging MY tops by the side seams halfway down years ago as I realised the way DM had taught me meant all my tops were permanently out of shape within 2-3 washes. And I spend enough money on my clothes that I want to enjoy them fitting me for a long, long time.

MOST of my tops now stay fitting me relatively well for a long time now. But I am lucky that DH accepts my way for my clothes at least, mostly (I hang his and DD's that way too, but accept it when he hangs his and DD's by their waists as long as he does mine right). And neither DM nor DMIL are likely to ever deal with my laundry as they live too far away (DMIL doesn't visit, DM is a rare visit and usually focussed on other things).

Oh my god. I wish I could unread your last paragraph.

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Clearly your MIL is bonkers and rude to re-do what you've already done, but ...

Tops from the bottom; bottoms usually from the top, with exceptions; dresses usually from the top (depending on material); underwear on a separate octopus thing (with socks paired). And obviously matching pegs for each garment.

I think you should drop off all laundry at MIL's house and ask her when you can expect it, washed dried and folded. Just to avoid any miscommunication, ask if she is delivering it back to you or if you're meant to collect. Maybe if you're really lucky she can even come collect it in the first place? She clearly needs things to do with her time so you should totally help her!

She is controlling and interfering. This would annoy me too.

I'm with your Mil. Bottoms from the top and tops from the bottom but not sure I would reorganise someone's washing

She’s a cheeky fucker but you’re both wrong..see, I hang tee shirts and jumpers by the under arm seam, not the shoulder seam. The top third of the garment hangs over the line and is pegged at the armpit level.
No pegs marks visible.

Oh I didn't get any of that as I was a much better cook than her and she couldn't deny it! Clearly cake wasn't too sweet for her either, she just liked to try to assert control.

This. @3peassuit I think maybe I am a perfect MIL. Good to know!

Sorry ! It was a long time ago but the memory is still fresh!

SO ANNOYING!! yanbu. My ex used to do this kind of thing e.g. make a whole new pot of tea because he thought mine wasn’t right, without saying anything
grrrrrr!

Same!

Glasses go upside down so the drinking part doesn't get dust in it. Same for mugs. MIL is right .

I hang my washing same as others, tops hung at bottom, bottoms hung at top. Oh...and no gaps between each item like DH does. I go and rehang his attempts and I can fit another load on the line!

Reading this thread has shown me I have strong opinions on garment care. I'll keep them to myself. But bring you PA "A Game" back to her! Every critical comment can be met with the unchanging stock phrase:
"Thanks for your opinion, I'll give it all DUE RESPECT" *
(Which is * NONE by the way and carry on doing it your way).
Can you tell I've had my fair share of opinionated idiots in my life?

First of all, YADNBU!! Anybody who attempted to dictate how I do things in my own home would be told straight out that I don’t appreciate interference and to leave my things alone. Strangely enough, no one has ever tried to do so...

I hang tops with one third folded over the line, pegs in the armpit. Best way - they don’t sag and get misshapen, and no peg marks! Shirts/blouses go on hangers to keep the shoulders nice and to help minimise dresses as the weight helps them to drop out.

Reading this thread has shown me I have strong opinions on garment care. I'll keep them to myself.

@MenaiMna 😂😂😂

If you want to be P.A treat her like she’s a toddler and you’re the gentlest parent ever. ‘You ok MIL? I’ve just done that. Come on now, let’s pop those pegs down’ and when she angrily tells you she knows the right way ‘of course you do! I can see it’s very important to you. Let’s go and have a little sit down just for now though’

Always peg things at the part nearest the waist, so she’s right I’m afraid op.

Though to be honest I couldn’t care enough about someone else’s washing to re do it, so she’s also a bit odd.

FWIW I agree with MIL’s hanging method . BUT SO RUDE! I would have told her in no uncertain terms to back the feck off.

Regardless of which way is correct or incorrect, the behaviour shown by your MIL is so rude. If she’s so desperate to do laundry for your household, maybe you can send her your partner’s laundry, for her to do at her house, all of the time…