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Original poster

To want them to leave my food alone!

40 replies

fwoody · 23/10/2022 19:59

Currently on a special diet, not for medical reasons but for fitness reasons. I was always quite fit and healthy prior to having my daughter 2 years ago and wanted to get back to the gym and into a bit of weight training like I was before, so am currently on a health programme so lots of high protein/ diet type foods ect.

My husband is slim and healthy but has always had a very fast metabolism so eats quite a lot of junk as well as normal foods. He isn't into the gym or anything like that really but has a busy job so keeps it off that way.

When I've been shopping recently I've been buying what we normally have and then things solely for me too like protein bars, lots of fruit (have fruit for everyone too but have been buying my own as well as I'm having it a lot more than normal), basically specific diet foods that cost a small fortune.

My AIBU is that my husband and stepson keep making their way through it! It's driving me mad. They are like locusts. My husband will try something and decide he likes it then come home from work and have 3 in one sitting.

It annoys me because he also eats the other food that I buy that I can't have so I end up with less of the stuff I can have and he gets to eat both.

AIBU to lose my shit now and tell him he and SS are not to touch 'my food'.

Everytime I get something out like a protein yoghurt for example he says 'oh that looks nice' and wants one himself. We have normal nice yoghurts in the fridge EAT THOSE FOR GOODNESS SAKE!

If he was also trying to get fitter I'd understand, but he isn't. He just likes the taste / look of certain things but will also eat the other normal stuff I buy that I can't have.

OP posts:
Wolfiefan · 23/10/2022 20:00

But why can’t you have the other food? Just buy non crap food you can all eat.

BattenburgDonkey · 23/10/2022 20:02

Is he paying for half the shopping? If so, buy more of what he’s eating. I can see why it’s annoying but he can eat what he wants (assuming it’s financially fair) so whoever does the shopping can just adapt the shopping accordingly.

EmmaDilemma5 · 23/10/2022 20:03

YANBU

Original poster
fwoody · 23/10/2022 20:06

Wolfiefan · 23/10/2022 20:00

But why can’t you have the other food? Just buy non crap food you can all eat.

I'd love to do this. I hate having the temptation in the house of other foods which I'm not supposed to be having but he also wants the normal stuff as well, so I get all the normal stuff and then get my own separate stuff and then he makes his way through both.

OP posts:
Obki · 23/10/2022 20:08

You shouldn’t have to but is there a space to put your stuff in a tupperware and label it as don’t touch?

Original poster
fwoody · 23/10/2022 20:08

I can see why it’s annoying but he can eat what he wants

Technically yes but when he's coming home and having 3 in one sitting of something expensive and which is supposed to be for a diet he isn't even on AND then the normal food too it's very annoying.

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Singingtherapy · 23/10/2022 20:09

I think YAB a bit U to be honest. If you were on a meal replacement diet and they were taking your Cambridge shakes then you'd have a point. But it sounds like your food and theirs is pretty much the same but yours is a bit better quality and more nutritious. Just buy it for everyone and save money by buying less crap.

Pumpkinpatchlookinggood · 23/10/2022 20:09

Anything I want kept stays in my car!

MyCatIsAFuckwit · 23/10/2022 20:09

My daughter used to raid the cupboards while the rest of the house was asleep. Packets left open, items gone bad, a bite taken and shoved back.
The boot of my car was my solution.
Petty, yes!
Money and stress levels reduced, yes 😊

EmeraldShamrock1 · 23/10/2022 20:11

I'd be pissed off too.

It sounds like they're both greedy.

ellieboolou · 23/10/2022 20:12

This would really annoy me too. I buy things specially for me and I have to hide them. Under the vegetables in the salad box usually!

ComeOnThenFanny · 23/10/2022 20:13

It's greed, pure and simple. My dp is also a locust, so some of the treats I buy, I get things I know he doesn't like, so he won't eat them all. And guess what... he still fucking eats them. It drives me insane.

ellieboolou · 23/10/2022 20:21

ComeOnThenFanny · 23/10/2022 20:13

It's greed, pure and simple. My dp is also a locust, so some of the treats I buy, I get things I know he doesn't like, so he won't eat them all. And guess what... he still fucking eats them. It drives me insane.

🤣🤣

annonymousse · 23/10/2022 20:23

I used to have this problem when trying to lose weight. All "my" food would get eaten first leaving me with no treats or snacks while they tucked into all their favourites that I had bought for them.

Therealjudgejudy · 23/10/2022 20:28

Sounds like pure greed on their parts

Blobblobblob · 23/10/2022 20:32

Lock box for the fridge
Everything else locked in your car

It's the only way. They don't respect you, pure and simple.

Obki · 23/10/2022 20:37

BattenburgDonkey · 23/10/2022 20:02

Is he paying for half the shopping? If so, buy more of what he’s eating. I can see why it’s annoying but he can eat what he wants (assuming it’s financially fair) so whoever does the shopping can just adapt the shopping accordingly.

No he can’t Confused He has the snacks he requests so he should stick to them and not steal Op’s.

OnTheBrinkOfChange · 23/10/2022 20:40

It's utter selfishness and greed. It's really horrible behaviour actually.

AnneLovesGilbert · 23/10/2022 20:40

Lose your shit. He should be supporting you in trying to improve your health not making your life harder.

AuditAngel · 23/10/2022 20:45

DH used to do this to my treats. Now I keep them hidden and never offer him any so he doesn’t know what I have

billy1966 · 23/10/2022 20:47

He's a selfish pig and you have chosen poorly.

YANBU.

Paq · 23/10/2022 20:48

You need to hide your special food.

Pixiedust1234 · 23/10/2022 20:48

AIBU to lose my shit now and tell him he and SS are not to touch 'my food'.

Loose it big time. If you do it right you will only need to do it once. Designate part of the fridge and part of a cupboard. If they take anything they replace it next day. Not next week but as soon as they wake up. They won't want to replace it before work or school. Good luck.

Chicheguevara · 23/10/2022 20:48

I feel your pain. If my partner steals my home made spiced pecan granola, one more time, there will be ructions. The recipe makes 8 portions at a time, 20 mins in the air fryer and it’s perfect, and I will get home and he will have eaten most of it. Same with my trail mix bars and I batch cook pancakes and freeze them for quick and easy breakfasts. Maybe a weeks worth at a time. I go to the freezer and he has scoffed them.
He eats meat and I am a pescatarian so I get quite annoyed when he eats all my food that I have prepped up for the week. He works away all week, so once I have re-batch cooked it’s fine again until Friday, but it’s really irritating.

You are not unreasonable, he is and he is also being unsupportive of your healthy eating.

megacat · 23/10/2022 20:50

People saying buy the stuff for everyone clearly don't realise how much more expensive protein yoghurts etc are!