To want them to leave my food alone!

[fwoody]

Currently on a special diet, not for medical reasons but for fitness reasons. I was always quite fit and healthy prior to having my daughter 2 years ago and wanted to get back to the gym and into a bit of weight training like I was before, so am currently on a health programme so lots of high protein/ diet type foods ect.

My husband is slim and healthy but has always had a very fast metabolism so eats quite a lot of junk as well as normal foods. He isn't into the gym or anything like that really but has a busy job so keeps it off that way.

When I've been shopping recently I've been buying what we normally have and then things solely for me too like protein bars, lots of fruit (have fruit for everyone too but have been buying my own as well as I'm having it a lot more than normal), basically specific diet foods that cost a small fortune.

My AIBU is that my husband and stepson keep making their way through it! It's driving me mad. They are like locusts. My husband will try something and decide he likes it then come home from work and have 3 in one sitting.

It annoys me because he also eats the other food that I buy that I can't have so I end up with less of the stuff I can have and he gets to eat both.

AIBU to lose my shit now and tell him he and SS are not to touch 'my food'.

Everytime I get something out like a protein yoghurt for example he says 'oh that looks nice' and wants one himself. We have normal nice yoghurts in the fridge EAT THOSE FOR GOODNESS SAKE!

If he was also trying to get fitter I'd understand, but he isn't. He just likes the taste / look of certain things but will also eat the other normal stuff I buy that I can't have.

This is not on
if they want the high protein yogurts etc then they should buy them, not eat yours.

Put it all in boxes labelled for your use only. If it still gets eaten they will need to replace it that day. If they don't I'd stop buying the food and just hide what you need.

I don’t really understand why you can’t just buy the more nutritious stuff for everyone and buy less of the junk?

Or is it that your stuff is “nutritious treat” type stuff like graze bars etc? In which case, buy it gir all if you, but put your share in a box with your name on it.

OP said clearly, they want the normal stuff too.

Put a sticky note with your name on it.
Tell them that's what you will be doing and if they eat it then you will have to go without. Then if they eat it they're just mean.

Have you told them clearly that you're on a diet and won't be eating most of the regular food for now, so the special items are all you have? If not, losing your shit is probably unreasonable but yes, tell them clearly not to eat more than their share, not to eat the last of anything without replacing it, and if there's something they especially like tell you so you can buy extra. You may need to explain (or even label) which items are "diet" and which not, exspecially things like fruit which is also normal household fare.

If you have explained and they're still doing it then that's pretty inconsiderate. It's not unreasonable to ask them to leave your specially-bought items alone if they won't practice moderation out of consideration for your well-being.

Yeah the long-term solution might be to buy more of your stuff for everyone, but in the short term it's very selfish of them. They know you can only eat this stuff and once it's gone you have none left. They can eat anything, so they eat yours first and then eat theirs. Did you say "You've eaten all my ... which was supposed to last a week. What can I eat now, then? Oh, nothing - thanks."

I had a similar thing at a party when I was driving. I took some non-alcoholic drinks for me to have, nobody else had provided any. Someone had a taste, thought it was nice, offered everyone else a taste and they all had glasses full, then when there was none left they started on the alcohol, and I was on water until I drove them all home. Couldn't even have tea as they had no milk in. Utterly selfish. (Declined all future invites).

Yes, I realised that, which was why I was questioning the definition of “normal” in this regard.

I mean if OP is buying special diet chocolate bars and the family are eating all of those and then wolfing down a pack of 8 mars bars, that’s clearly not going to work. But if OP is having brown rice, broccoli and chicken then that could easily be increased for the rest of the family, even if they then follow it up with a frozen pizza.

Can everyone choose some snacks/ puddings for the shopping list? Then everyone has to I have which are theirs, and if someone wants some, it would be common courtesy to ask. At that point you can say ‘yep, no prob- there’s plenty left’ or ‘actually, that would mean I have nothing for breakfast, so I’d rather you didn’t. I can get you some next week?’

3 of anything in one sitting, and leaving none for anyone else is greedy and selfish.
So in yur shoes you could try saying he is to do his own shopping and you'll do yours?

@UserNameNameNameUser I think it's more the treat stuff from what she's said
So for example I love the protein pudding pots but even at Aldi they're about a quid

If someone else ate them all too it would mean the shopping went way up when they could just eat I dunno, a normal yoghurt which isn't £1 a pot

Yanbu this would really anger me. Have you actually sat him down to tell him how this is unreasonable or does he see it that you're being OTT about some yoghurts in the fridge?

Just buy a lock box, problem solved 😁 I hide all my treats as I buy everyone else there’s and then they eat them all within 2 days and cause I’m not as quick they also eat all mine 😂

Get one of these:

www.amazon.co.uk/stores/page/DE663EBD-8199-43EE-88C8-C6B8EA5ED4FE

It's the absolute greed and lack of consideration that's annoying/hurtful. Tell them that in no uncertain terms.

Just start buying double 'your' stuff. He can't have his cake and eat it 😂