I have 2 DCs 2 and 1, my DH is older, has been married before and has older children. Anyway, my point is, he is an established man, his job is quite stressful and full-on, but has some advantages, I had this idea that we would enjoy the fruits of his labour in some style and ease, he keeps assuring me that everything is under control work wise, but in fact something always crops up, it's rather stressful. He is also quite disorganised and we are always chasing our tails with money. Because of work we moved 3 times in 3 years, every time the place was a mess and I had to organise renovations, etc., lots of entertaining needed and reorganise family life, on top of giving birth twice.
Anyhoo, we moved again in the summer as he took semi retirement. Things went well and although he's not the type to relax and take a back seat, I could imagine a future when he would slow down, children a bit older and he could support me in my career and ambitions. As a treat I booked a dreamy island holiday on the other side of the world. It is really our belated honeymoon and we have both been looking forward to this well deserved time away from it all, just us.
I can hardly believe what I'm writing but no sooner were we settled in paradise island that his phone was literally frying off the hook with work demanding his attention, all hours of the day and night! I told him to just turn it off but just, no, no possible! To some extend I understand, things are hot at work right now, it would be stupid to ignore. But still. Once he agreed to have his phone 'off' for dinner and he spent half of the evening in the bloody loo, whilst I ate lobster on my own. Does he think I am stupid and can't work out that he was on the blower all this time? I was fuming. I am fuming actually, we can never have moments to ourselves because of work emergencies and it's becoming rather tiresome. I need him to adore me and he simply is not giving me what I need.
Things got so bad that we had a massive argument and cut short our holiday and flew back to Blighty post haste. He is now attending to a series of urgent and important work crises, and when he is at home, constantly on the phone or in meetings with pp.
I have been left to unpack, process the holiday fiasco and look after our DCs, I am literally at my wits end!!
I know we have a great future together but at the moment it's hard to see.
Great wisdom of Mumsnet, tell me if BU or NBU and what should I do?