To feel sad as a grandparent

[marvik]

My daughter had her second baby a week ago it was not an easy birth at all but she was discharged from hospital and I messaged her saying I'd love a Zoom call before long as it would reassure me that she had survived! She lives some distance away and she had made it clear that visiting even after a few weeks - her husband was planning to be away then and we thought she might like some practical help - would be too soon. Her reply to the Zoom suggestion (made via WhatsApp) was that she didn't feel up to this but would get in touch. That was three days ago. There has been no recent or pas trouble in the sense of a quarrel etc. I just feel sad and also worried that she may be unwell

So she's had a difficult birth and has a toddler already and now a new baby to care for. Facilitating Zoom calls with young children around is a complete PITA. I did it with my then 2 year old to keep in touch over lockdown. It was lovely (we did stories, play doh, all sorts of things), but not an easy experience. I don't think you can blame her for not being up to it just now...can't you just ask her to call you for a chat when she's ready?

OP is sounds like she is just frazzled / getting to grips with having a newborn and another one. Those early days are really hard and days pass by unnoticed. I wouldn't fret but I would call her on the phone. Zoom calls are faffy.

Also, congratulations!