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If a car parks so close you can't get into your car, what do you do?

274 replies

heregoesnothin · 22/10/2022 14:30

Do you just open your car door onto the car and push yourself in if you can fit that way?

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LouLou789 · 22/10/2022 17:48

When this happened to me I could get in the passenger door but did not have the mobility to climb over the gear stick. Luckily the parking spaces were on a slight incline so I released the handbrake, rolled the car forward enough so I could open the driver’s door properly and got in the correct side. I left a note for the offending driver (not nasty but explaining the impact of what they’d done)

SmudgeButt · 22/10/2022 17:50

I've had to go in via the passenger door a few times and haul my butt over the gear stick. Going via the boot isn't an option as I cant crawl due to issues with my knees and wrists.

Sometimes when I've had a particularly rough car where another scratch/dent isn't going to matter I've been happy to open the driver's door and squeeze through with my door jammed right against the side of the offender's vehicle. If they have parked thoughtlessly it's their own fault if their car gets scratched. I don't swing the door hard into their car but just push it gently to give me as much room as possible. The problem of course though is that when I get into my car it will go down a bit with my weight that that's when their car will get scratched.

Frankly I was ever so pleased to be driving a car in Canada for the last 2 weeks where there's no problem with this unless you've got someone who's a massive idiot parking by you. Even in a crowded parking lot you normally have a good 1 - 2 feet free either side of the vehicle if you've parked evenly inside the lines. When it was super windy I was still able to simply fling my door open without any worries. Bigger country, bigger parking spots - but that's due to them also have much bigger cars!!

FirstnameSuesecondnamePerb · 22/10/2022 17:53

I can't climb over via the passenger side anymore due to back issues.

donttellmehesalive · 22/10/2022 17:54

I would never key a car. My friend had her car keyed the day after her husband died. The problem with lots of people is that if they make a mistake it's an honest mistake but if someone else makes a mistake they must be punished.

AlwaysLatte · 22/10/2022 17:55

I wouldn't do that for fear of scratches. Just get in the passenger side.

AlwaysLatte · 22/10/2022 17:57

I have got in through the boot before now. I'm not sure it was very ladylike but it got me into my seat with a sense of satisfaction!

NormalForNuneaton · 22/10/2022 17:58

This happened to me years ago when I was very heavily pregnant, so hopping across from the passenger side wasn't an option!

I had to go back in to work and find someone who could climb in and drive it out of the space for me

RomeoOscarXrayIndigoEcho · 22/10/2022 17:59

I've done two things in the past - climbed over from the passenger side and the other thing I've done is manage to release the hand break and push the car giving me space to get in.

Both options rely entirely on being fit/flexible/strong enough.

I couldn't do either right now.

I'd be looking for a super skinny person to help me.

MarvelMrs · 22/10/2022 18:00

I can’t believe people would key another person’s car because they have parked badly and too close. Sad times we live in.

You have no idea of their circumstances. They could be struggling, dealing with bereavement, mental health issues, just be upset and distracted or a new driver or in a new or different car so made a mistake.
Shocking how many heartless vindictive people are around.

elephantseal · 22/10/2022 18:01

HorribleHerstory · 22/10/2022 14:33

I don’t think a car can park close enough to all three sides I can get into, so it’s never been a problem.

Of course it could. Unless you're Flat Stanley.

Devoutspoken · 22/10/2022 18:01

People who worry about getting scratches on their cars are like people hating dirt on their white trainers, its ridiculous, both are made for outdoors wear and tear

Spectre8 · 22/10/2022 18:05

Some spaces are just too tight regardless so evidently this can happen. Just go through passenger or boot if you have to.

To deliberately key someone's car or bash their door is shameful. You wouldn't like it if it happened to your car. Unbelievable some people actually think that is okay and if you a parent of a child saying this then wow just wow - is that what you'd teach your kids.

smileandsing · 22/10/2022 18:05

It happened to me when I was 9 months pregnant, I felt so helpless. I couldn't squeeze in as I might have done had I not been pregnant, and I couldn't climb over from the passenger side, back or boot. When I think back on it I wish I'd got the supermarket to put a call out for the car owner to move it, would love to have seen their face!

cravattwat · 22/10/2022 18:23

I'll still get in if I can and it won't damage my car. Sometimes I'll give the other car a little nudge as I do.
Once I had to go and get someone out of a massage for them to move their Range Rover.
Another had parked so close I couldn't even get to the door so I left them a really shitty note.

MinervaTerrathorn · 22/10/2022 18:25

elephantseal · 22/10/2022 18:01

Of course it could. Unless you're Flat Stanley.

I have a small car, I can get in if I am dead in the middle of my spot with cars right on the line either side. If I'm not dead in the middle I can get in on the side with more space. I'm not Flat Stanley, I'm a normal sized person.

tandmoo · 22/10/2022 18:31

I saw some idiot in a Range Rover park it badly and then a car parked really close to the driver's door

Had to laugh when I saw the driver getting in via the passenger door and clambering around inside

AdobeWanKenobi · 22/10/2022 18:32

Devoutspoken · 22/10/2022 18:01

People who worry about getting scratches on their cars are like people hating dirt on their white trainers, its ridiculous, both are made for outdoors wear and tear

What a ridiculous analogy
my trainers cost £50. My car a fair bit more. People tend not to sell their trainers when they are done so mud and dirt don’t affect any resale value. On a car, it does.

AnybodyAnywhere · 22/10/2022 18:34

Several years ago we decided to have a day trip to France. Drove to Dover, parked, got ferry as foot passengers. Had a nice day and got a fairly late ferry back, we were tired but only had just over an hour’s drive home.

Arrived at the car to find both sides blocked, drivers side by a 4 x 4 and passenger side by a minibus. Less than 6 inches on each side, couldn’t get to front or rear doors and as it was a saloon there was no way through the boot.

Fortunately the 4 x 4 driver came back on the last ferry but we had to wait nearly 2 hours. Their basic attitude was ‘tough’, didn’t even apologise 🤷🏻‍♀️

elephantseal · 22/10/2022 18:34

But @MinervaTerrathorn, what if someone else parks badly beside you, in your space, so you can't get in? It is possible.

MinervaTerrathorn · 22/10/2022 18:38

elephantseal · 22/10/2022 18:34

But @MinervaTerrathorn, what if someone else parks badly beside you, in your space, so you can't get in? It is possible.

Only if they were actually over the line. I try to always park in the middle of my spot so I would need both cars either side to be over the line to stop me getting in. I have parked in a spot with both cars right on the line and put my car in the middle, on more than one occasion, as I know I can get in and out.

BEXY39 · 22/10/2022 18:44

CurlyhairedAssassin · 22/10/2022 16:23

I would not bat an eyelid at someone in your position parking in a parent and child space. Surely no-one would?

That’s assuming the parent & child spaces aren’t full of vans or cars with people who don’t have kids/have no reason to park there like my local supermarket….

I’m 37 weeks pregnant and can’t climb in from the passenger side. I can never get a parent & child space, so I’ve been putting a note in my window saying ‘heavily pregnant, please leave me room to get in’, in giant letters so it can’t be missed, but it’s had the opposite effect, I swear people are now parking too close on purpose!

Wiluli · 22/10/2022 18:48

I had this when 9 months pregnant! I mean it was so close to the door I couldn’t even open it 3 inches . I actually had to let a total stranger go in the car trough the passenger seat and pull the car forwards . I drew C**t with eye pencil on all his windows . He was getting back to the van as I was leaving and also flipped him the finger . Yes total hormonal move but I do not care and he deserves it ! No I would not suggest anyone doing the same

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 22/10/2022 18:51

A Ford Focus - hardly what most would consider an outlandishly massive road-hog - is 1825mm wide (without the mirrors) and the normal width of a parking space is 2400mm. In millimetres, that sounds like a high number of clearance, but if everybody drove a Focus and parked perfectly in the middle of their space, that still only allows a total door-opening space (i.e. the clearance across both spaces) of 57.5 cm or 22.5 inches.

Bearing in mind that many people do not park carefully in the exact middle of the space - and that there are lots of average family cars that are wider than a Focus (along with the larger vehicles such as 4x4s, MPVs, WAVs of all kinds, vans etc., of course), it's totally understandable why it's a common problem.

I think the issue is that, with the size of even the smaller modern vehicles being wider - and don't forget that this will at least partially be a result of improved safety standards since the cars of decades ago - the standard space is based on the expectation of a reasonable level of youth, health, able-bodied-ness and various other factors that simply are not the experience and privilege of many, many drivers and passengers.

Keeping the standard minimum allowable space at the same width, on the basis that 'quite a lot of people' can manage with it is as absurd as closing public toilets and replacing them with street urinals, with the 'justification' that 'a full 50%' of the public find that them practical for their use, so who gives a stuff about the rest.

notmyrealmoniker · 22/10/2022 18:54

Id get in via the hatchback, if the passenger side was also blocked.

JudithHarper · 22/10/2022 19:04

MarvelMrs · 22/10/2022 18:00

I can’t believe people would key another person’s car because they have parked badly and too close. Sad times we live in.

You have no idea of their circumstances. They could be struggling, dealing with bereavement, mental health issues, just be upset and distracted or a new driver or in a new or different car so made a mistake.
Shocking how many heartless vindictive people are around.

I can't believe people would park badly and too close to another persons car and not expect consequences if the innocent party cannot get into their own car. Selfish times we live in.

You have no idea of their circumstances. They could be struggling with shopping, have to get babies or toddlers in, need to pick up the older kids in 10 minutes, have limited mobility or just made the mistake of thinking that people should check if they have left enough room before walking off.

Shocking how many self-centered, entitled arsewipes are around.

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