To be annoyed at my son's friend

[amigrumpy]

On Thursday night my son (age 21) planned to go out with a friend. Bear in mind I don't know the friend well, although he seems nice enough.

The friend came to my house straight from work to drop his bag off first.

I then heard him in the shower! I then find out, via my son, that he would be stopping the night.

I asked the friend not to use the family bathroom in the morning as it’s in use by three of the family who all leave at similar times (it is like a well oiled machine). I told him to use the ensuite in my son's room that he’s sleeping in.

So what happens? Yep, Friday morning I heard him in the shower again in the family bathroom again for AGES, just at the time everyone needs to be getting ready.

Nobody else could get in the loo or washed and were all late for work and school!

I then heard the front door open and shut and the friend just left without saying anything!

I won't be letting him stop again in a hurry!

semideponent · Today 07:27

Seems like the story of Mr Restricted, Mr Entitled and Mrs Rigid.

This 100%

Does turning your kitchen tap on affect the showers upstairs?

I really want @amigrumpy to return and confirm that she actually took her kids into school after the bell, because I call bullshit. I expect she means she dropped them off at 08:55 for 09:00 instead of a usual 08:45. 15 mins lost to the Shower Hogger, and 5 gained back by having quicker showers themselves. I simply don’t believe that people would take their kids in late for school because they won’t knock on a door and say, “hey, we need the shower.”

That's weird he didn't follow instructions... My only comment is maybe he didn't understand what "en-suite" means?

Might not… but I get her stopcock does.
Would have stopped this cock 😉

Who actually I think did nothing more wrong then forgetting which shower to use - but then I couldn’t make the joke.

Portia if no-one posted about what you consider to be minor annoyances, mumsnet wouldn't exist. I'm sure you get annoyed about stuff that others don't

Maybe he thought you had another, bigger bathroom somewhere else and that the bathroom he was using was your sons?

Who knows.

Yeah that’s the main issue, but the rude dickhead who goes to someone’s house and acts so inconsiderably after being told what to and not to do, yeah.

Gosh you sound so inhospitable. You should have spoken to your son to sort or woken him up or banged on the bathroom door.

I can't imagine my son having a friend over and me reading him some rules before he even got his foot in the door. Great way to make someone feel welcome.

I don't understand why you didn't just wake your son up to deal with it and ask him to hurry up in the shower. How long was he in the shower? Obv friend is a dick as you had specifically asked him not to use the family bathroom.

Why on earth didn’t you either

a) knock gently and say “please could you free up in the bathroom asap as there’s a queue to use!”
or
b) ask your son to say “get out of the bathroom and use mine!”

rather than start a thread on mumsnet complaining about it