To make husband pay the fine out of his own money

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My husband is always forgetting to pay parking charges. As a result of this he has got clamped and fined three times this year from forgetting to pay the car park before boarding the train to work. He doesn't buy a weekly parking pass due to working from home odd days but I'm really frustrated now. With a week before pay day, Halloween expenses would I BU to make him pay the fine out of his own personal spending money and leave our joint account alone? Mistakes happen I get that but this is three times in a year.

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He has to pay for it out of his personal money because that way he suffers the consequences. If it comes out of family money there's no impact on him but there is on the rest of you. So he has no motivation to start getting better at remembering.

Depends if it rains and they get destroyed.

Costumes I can't buy a bit big as they'd swamp my poor DC! No one to hand them down to. Literally I just buy a top with a cat on it or something.

They cost money. At least £2 assuming you have bin bags already. Therefore they are halloween expenses. If you kid has a school disco then that is more.

I thought on MN money earned by any adult in the household earned was "family money".

Where not typical of MN because DH pays for his stuff and I pay for mine. I realise this is a super difficult concept for many, but it works for us. So yes, your DH should just pay the fine.

And are there really posters who aren't aware of Halloween products and trick or treating? It's like Christmas and Easter and many other celebrations worldwide when people chose to buy decorations and treats.

YANBU.
Off topic, I've spent about £25 on Halloween already and haven't bought any sweets or pumpkins yet. - I'm a very modest Halloween spender, compared to some friends.

So for arguments sake, if you are a SAHM and get a parking fine. What money does it come out of then?

An adult who forgets to pay for parking 3 times in quick succession needs to cough up out of personal funds. Because no family had that much to spare right now.

I feel there is more to this situation..

Seperately....Halloween spending is discretionary spending. All my generation got through a whole childhood with absolutely zero Halloween £. We are not all horribly damaged as a result. Having said that, it is more legitimate spending than avoidable parking fines. At least with Halloween you are #makingmemoriez 🤢

Just ignore the tribe with their piling on of "what on earth is halloween expenses" 🙄

But wtf is it, sweets? Costumes? What?

And of course family money is family money. But come on, if one adult was spaffing it all on drink, fags, or gambling, or parking fines that would not be OK would it? Silly point-scoring whataboutery is juvenile.

If he constantly parks where he shouldn't then he needs to pay.

Halloween expenses ??? What the hell is that?

No-one will tell us, which is kinda spooky in itself

My halloween expenses:

ds2 costume £12 sainsburys
ds1 costume £16 amazon
a tk maxx candle £14
Two buckets and some old tk maxx decorations saved over the years £0
Friend and I have a tradition to get our boys ready together at her house. I usually grab us all some nice M&S pizza, some red wine etc £40-£50
I have budgeted £80-100 for HALLOWEEN EXPENSES.

Money DH had given me to spend as I wished. It would be in my bank account and DH would
have no idea if I was spending it on Diptyque candles, giving it to the food bank, or paying parking fines.

He always suspected I was buying a vast amount of expensive candles, but realistically I was mostly parking fines.

For me Halloween expenses would include pumpkins, a few decorations from Poundland, a kids costumes (probably one a year) and sweets for trick or treaters. Maybe "spooky"
party type games if friends are coming for tea, and money for the school Halloween disco. The total cost would probably be the same as one parking fine.

To answer your earlier question, if I was a sahm and got a fine it would come out of our joint account, because any money earned by either of us goes in there.

We usually make Halloween costumes

You need a sharp knife to make the cut to exchange blood with the devil

Do they sell them in m and s?

Me too!!! I look forward to it year round. Last year I also made DD a new trick or treating bag, black fur on the outside and embroidered with face/attached ears so it looks like a black cat, lined with Halloween print fabric on the inside.

This year she is a ‘ghost dinosaur’ so using the Simplicity 1765 dino suit pattern in grey fleece with the hood & an overlay in white and grey gauze/chiffon to look all ghostly. Best part is the overlay is detachable like a cape, so when she wants to do ghost or superhero or other cape-wearing dress up later in the year she has that, and I’ll add some more colourful details to the Dino suit afterwards so she can also be a regular non-ghost dinosaur.

If you have "leisure money" than stupidity should come out of that .. be it speeding fines or parking fines.

Our Halloween spending this year has been £5 on 50 mini bags of haribo and £2 on Halloween disco at primary school. DD put together her own costume (9, quite crafty!). But last year the school had pumpkin carving competition so that was £3 each on a pumpkin. Plus costumes for school, but they raided the dressing up box. Like many things ... its as expensive as you make it.

That cotton wool stuff thats pretending to be web

Thanks everyone for the replies he paid it himself once I pointed out if he kept paying it out of the joint account then he'd never learn to remember to pay for parking.
As for Halloween expenses it's the treats and costumes that still have to be picked up not to mention the fact the kids are off school next week too so activities for that week but thankfully all sorted now and glad I wasn't BU about it 😁