to want to be ill in bed ?

[fourleafcloversandgreenfields]

I don't mean seriously ill, just ill with fever/chills/aches which lasts for a few days. I could sleep all day under my warm duvet. I would sleep/sweat off the aches and chill and not have to do any of the daily responsibilities/chores for a few days. This includes: getting DC up and ready for school and dropping at school, unloading and reloading the dishwasher, tidying kitchen from anything left over from the night before, working a 12 hour day, coming home late eve to tidy up (DH will have done dinners) and make my own dinner, hang out uniforms, wash out school water bottles, make beds, bath 1 of the DC (who cant bath himself as disabled) then go to bed myself.

So start licking random surfaces you'll soon get poorly. Not sure why you want to be poorly, surely you could just tell DH he needs to do more?

Unfortunately it sounds like even if you were ill you'd not be getting a day in bed. Such is the life of a Mum...

I've had the broken leg in hospital dream many a time. Sounds great to me today. Have hair appointment that might end in disaster at the weekend, but don't care if it means I get a few hours sat on my arse.

But would you just still have to do all that stuff and feel poorly?

I just had similar with a cough and godawful head cold and mouth ulcers but did I buggery get a day in bed! I didn’t even get a full night as DS was sick too. I just had to spend a fortune in Superdrug on whatever I could and crack on.

Think the best I can hope for if I want a rest is a minor non -life-changing injury that necessitates a short hospital stay.

We can dream 🤣

Yes me too. I look back on the time I had Covid (when you still had to self isolate for 10 days) with fond memories.

I think you’re overestimating how relaxing it is to be so ill you can’t get out of bed. I guarantee you going to work and parenting your children is easier than genuinely being so ill you are in bed all day.

Didn't you post about this the other day?

About loving being ill?

Its weird.

If you want a day off, take one. You dont need to be ill.

The idea that mums can never get a day off is a load of sexist pish.

Could you fake it???

Half term next week. Get out for a walk in the park/countryside, clear your head, don't think about your responsibilities.

Are you working too many hours?

Is your DH a good partner?

Even if you did have a illness such as that, you'd probably still have to get out of bed and get on with it.

Certainly in my house I'm not able to sleep off any temperature, chills, cold, cough... but then I am a single parent (no support.)

This is why I found the idea of being held captive in Joe's glass box full of books with regular food delivered a very appealing prospect! YOU on Netflix for those who haven't seen it. Bliss

I get what you mean.. I've just had my womb out and I'm off work, not doing school runs, ex has kids most of time.. I have been able to have a break from everything aprt from sleeping, eating, netflix and feeding the cats. There is no other way I'd have been able to do this without an op/illness! My brain is just empty.. it's bliss.

I feel you! I'm currently on maternity pay, and my partner works 12 hour shifts with a 3 hour round commute. He's been working overtime to ensure we can cover the bills so is never home. I'm on my own 98% of the time with a seven month old, and a 21 month old and have two dogs and a horse to look after.

If my baby slept through the night I'd be ok. But he's up atleast 3 or 4 times and by the time I get him settled his sister will be up for the day. I don't remember the last time I had a full nights sleep or more than 3 hours in a row.

I go back to work in January and I've no idea how I'm going to manage it all, I basically have to do all the childcare alone as my partner's always working, and I'm going to need to get everything done whilst working 4 days a week 😨....howwww do people do it!

Book a random day of A/L from work.
Dont tell anyone
Do school run then go to bed.
Tell DH when he gets home that you are ill
Stay in bed until the next day.

I know exactly what you mean, OP. I feel like that sometimes.

For what it's worth I've woken up vomiting my guts out from 4-6.30am. I still had to get the kids up and ready for school, still had to prep dinner to go in the slow cooker because I knew I'd be too tired to cook in the evening and while I'll have had a few hours of being mostly on the sofa watching crap TV interspersed with sleeping I'll still be on mum mode again from 3-9pm. I'm a single mum, though, with no family or friends to take care of me.

Confused
im just heading back to bed as I have this.

why do you want it? It’s boring. I have to breathe through my mouth and coughed all night.

if you want to catch it, you are welcome to come by and do the filing and invoicing I’ll get behind with.

weird.

I'm currently Ill and still mumming it. As a single parent, what choice?

This is me today, 22 weeks pregnant off work and in bed with a migraine. The idea is better than the reality. I've just woken up from being asleep and feel all sweaty and groggy and spaced out. Did watch TV for a few hours earlier which was nice but would rather not have the head pain.

I hear you OP, but unfortunately you would probably still have to do all that whilst ill. Certain people aren't "allowed" time off otherwise the entire world will implode. For you

What a very odd thread.

As a few others have said @fourleafcloversandgreenfields get your lazy-ass DH to do more! Why do so many women tolerate so many shitty, lazy excuses of a man? The more women tolerate it, the more these lazy feckers will take the piss.

I'm ill in bed right now and it's not fun at all.

My DC is away for a week on holiday. I took a week off from work. Most I've done is order pizza. It's bloody bliss.

Kids get older thankfully.