to want to be ill in bed ?

[fourleafcloversandgreenfields]

I don't mean seriously ill, just ill with fever/chills/aches which lasts for a few days. I could sleep all day under my warm duvet. I would sleep/sweat off the aches and chill and not have to do any of the daily responsibilities/chores for a few days. This includes: getting DC up and ready for school and dropping at school, unloading and reloading the dishwasher, tidying kitchen from anything left over from the night before, working a 12 hour day, coming home late eve to tidy up (DH will have done dinners) and make my own dinner, hang out uniforms, wash out school water bottles, make beds, bath 1 of the DC (who cant bath himself as disabled) then go to bed myself.

Not really. OP sounds exhausted. I am a lone parent and when one of my friends was in hospital (when the children were tiny) I was jealous. How awful is that? That's how much people need downtime sometimes.

@Northernsoullover

The op isn't a sole parent.

I am at the minute with a UTI also fever and a headache so no joys.

The problem with sick days is being too ill to enjoy them.

I would love to be able to spend the day in bed doing absolutely nothing.

However, it will never happen unless I was literally so ill I couldn’t physically get out of bed. Pretty sure in that case I would be too ill to ‘enjoy’ it. If I felt anything it would probably be terror, exhaustion, discomfort, and pain.

If everyone would cope with you having a day ill in bed then everyone will cope with you having a day off. Have a day off.

I know exactly how you feel OP, not weird at all. You feel too guilty not to do all the stuff when you’re well, but if you’re ill you can switch off guilt-free and let them all get on with it.

I’m currently off work with a covid-like illness that isn’t testing positive. I have to confess to slightly wishing it would test positive so I am forced to stay home and can legitimately opt out of family life. As a single mum of teens I have been able to spend the days lolling about watching Netflix and the older one has even made us all dinner one evening, which is unheard of.

Normally I’d be at work all day, then come home and cook, tidy, clean etc, take someone somewhere, give a driving lesson to another one. The only way to get a decent chunk of time off is to be ill. Obvs I don’t really want to be properly ill, but just low level contagious so I can convince myself I’m best off home alone.

FWIW I often fantasise about going to prison for this reason*

*disclaimer I know it would be awful and not at all like my dream of a cross between an AI hotel and uni halls of residence.

Honestly, I’d kill for this right now. I already have flu but I have to still look after my 3yo daughter. Looking after consists of chucking bluey on the tv.

I'd really love a couple of months in prison. Just to have the time off work, no responsibilities, down time. It would be amazing.
I wonder what crime I could commit that would get me sent down for a short while. I reckon it would have to be quite bad as I have no record or anything.

It's not going to happen. I remember having really bad tonsillitis when the DC were young. I could barely stand upright but I still had to carry on. I took DC to school, went back to bed, set the alarm for 2pm to give me time to crawl out of bed for the school run again. Then carry on until DH got home to help. I went to GP after 3 days to ask for antibiotics to be told "you'll get better in your own in time". I told him I didn't have "time" that with a disabled child I needed to be able to function.
The DCs were cared for by me or DH - everything else was still waiting for me when I recovered!

Being ill doesn't mean you get to rest though as a parent. I had Covid and still had to soldier on.

I've been wiped out by a headache, achy limbs and constant nausea for 4 days now. Negative LFT. DH works long hours and was away on business at the start of the week so I've still had to get the kids up and ready for school, do all the school runs, do all the cooking and clearing up plus look after them from 3pm-7pm. I feel so rough. I just want my duvet!

I get it, OP!

When my daughter was a baby she was extremely restless and challenging - wouldn't sleep by night or day and we had no help since our families lived hundreds of miles away. It was relentless! Also, as a first-time mum I caught bug after bug (stomach upsets, fluey colds etc) and just had to keep going.

I read in an Anita Brookner novel (can't remember which) where are woman got a migraine and went to bed in a darkened room for 2 days. I re-read that page as if it was pornography. She described this quiet, dark, cosy room and the woman had no-one to consider but herself...absolute bliss, despite the migraine!!!

I understand.. I've actually fantasised about having a car accident so I get a break in hospital. My husband is very useless so the only way I'd get a break is to be not home.

This is the one. Let's do this.

God, I don't had covid and couldn't think for 3 months. I want to stay well and do stuff.