DS has just started secondary I just think it is all too much and the focus is all wrong.
You have to ask to take your blazer or jumper off
warning about the 'wrong' type of PE shorts, etc
Not allowed to drink water in lessons
Cautions for forgotten kit
Detentions for homework not complete - even when its not clear who/how to hand it in
Meanwhile very little nurture or pastrol care; poor communication so children don't know what is always expected of them, but scared they will get a detention; hardly any SEN support; very little staff presence at break/lunch times or in corridors; problems with bullying. Schools can't do these basics but tell the kids off for wearing the 'wrong' grey trousers!!
MNHQ have commented on this thread
AIBU?
To think secondary school rules are harsh and missing the point
craxyrulebraker · 19/10/2022 22:19
Paperdove87 · 19/10/2022 22:27
Surely you should have checked what the rules were like before you chose the secondary school? You have presumably chosen the school so he needs to adhere to the rules. The behaviour policy especially in terms of uniform is generally on the school website.
Also I find that sometimes schools are stricter about the little things as then those are the boundaries teens are pushing rather than not bothering with the little things so then they rebel against more serious rules. But I do agree with you that not being allowed water to drink in class is not fair.
Paperdove87 · 19/10/2022 22:27
Surely you should have checked what the rules were like before you chose the secondary school? You have presumably chosen the school so he needs to adhere to the rules. The behaviour policy especially in terms of uniform is generally on the school website.
Also I find that sometimes schools are stricter about the little things as then those are the boundaries teens are pushing rather than not bothering with the little things so then they rebel against more serious rules. But I do agree with you that not being allowed water to drink in class is not fair.
MarshaMelrose · 19/10/2022 22:24
Why does she need to drink water during the class? She's not going to get dehydrated for 40 mins. Of course you get warned for forgetting your pe kit. And detentions if it's repeated. We didn't get detentions for undone homework straightaway but if it was a repeated problem we would.
Obviously bullying isn't acceptable but there are rules in secondary school or it would be chaos.
2DemisSVP · 19/10/2022 22:30
Yanbu. I’ve been amazed how stressful my bright resilient year 7 is finding it. So if they’re finding it tough , dread to think what others going through. Few things I’d change - no homework for first half term. No behaviour points for forgetting equipment , needs to be a different sanction. More time spent focusing on creating bonds and friendships between year 7 students in lessons for first half term. Getting the nice older students to act as buddies / role models. Less time banging on about standards and expectations. Terrified them all - in the first week it was all they heard about ….
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