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To ask what nurses want??

39 replies

EmJay19 · 19/10/2022 11:17

Posting for traffic obvs. 😁

want to give something to the staff on threats after looking after DS.

chocs are the obvious choice…
if you work in a hospital is there something you’d prefer?

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EmJay19 · 19/10/2022 11:18

Typo…meant to say give something to the staff on the ward…

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Topgub · 19/10/2022 11:31

Safe staffing levels, a big pay rise and for the govt to sort out the elderly and social care crisis.

But if you cant manage that then a card /email to the management team praising the good care and anything edible

Crispyturtle · 19/10/2022 11:37

Please don’t threaten the nurses 😂

but seriously, a thank you card is always really lovely. Nurses have to evidence feedback to renew their registration so if there’s anyone in particular you could name them in the card so they can use it as evidence. And everyone is always thrilled with snacks of any kind!

Tomorrowisalatterday · 19/10/2022 11:40

Email to PALs at the hospital naming those who were especially great

Basket of tea/healthy snacks went down well

AnnaMagnani · 19/10/2022 11:41

Safe staffing, better shift patterns, a pay rise and the end to the public being aggressive and unreasonable towards them.

Failing that a card which mentions the whole team - nurses, cleaners, HCAs, ward clerk, doctors, pharmacists etc

Some of the above are crucial and never get a mention.

inigomontoyahwillcox · 19/10/2022 11:41

As above really - positive feedback is invaluable for nurses (any profession really).

I gave the nurses that looked after me a large box of various chocolate bars - a bit like this but bigger.

nameisnotimportant · 19/10/2022 11:44

Coffee vouchers !

20viona · 19/10/2022 11:46

Starbucks vouchers is a great idea, any coffee sachets, nice biscuits or snacks, crisps etc so people can grab a bag on the go. And always go to pals to praise the team.

Sneezesthrice · 19/10/2022 11:47

Positive feedback that comes via PALS so management see it is always nice tbh.
it’s good for management to see the feedback and have to pass it on, rather than a card that comes directly to us and they never know about. Of course I LOVE a card with a message in but I don’t go make my manager look at it coz that would be weird and boasty 😂

A patient bought me a really posh candle once and I thought of them whenever I used it, sometimes I’d light it after a shit shift to remind myself why I do the job (caring for people, making a difference)

I have every card I’ve ever received in a special box.

GG1986 · 19/10/2022 12:08

Don't give money/vouchers as usually staff have to declare it and sometimes lose it. Biscuits, chocs and a nice box of tea and coffee will be nice and a thank you card.

sausage767 · 19/10/2022 12:12

A bit passé now, but after my father passed away, we gave the nursing staff a big pile of the latest magazines for the tea room. They were so excited as the ones they had were months old and had been flicked through a thousand times. And 3 big boxes of chocolates - 1 for each shift. And a card with a thank you message of course.

Cuck00soup · 19/10/2022 12:15

A nice thank you card - honestly. Remember the other professionals & support workers too if you can as it really is about team work.

dottiedodah · 19/10/2022 12:26

What about a nice big tin of choccies ,Heroes,Celebrations or suchlike .They are appearing in shops round about now .Lots to go round!

dottiedodah · 19/10/2022 12:28

Sorry realised alternatives wanted! Maybe some herbal teas,nice small soaps and suchlike

Hobnobsandbroomstick · 19/10/2022 12:43

A new back would be great.

But it all seriousness, an email or letter to the hospital executive is always nice, it gets filtered down to us eventually and it's nice for management to see that we're not totally rubbish all the time and helps to balance out the complaints.

orbitalcrisis · 19/10/2022 12:44

Every nurse I know complains about all the chocolate around all the time and how that, coupled with shift work, has led to weight gain. Another vote for healthy snacks.

MatildaTheCat · 19/10/2022 12:46

Nice hand cream is a good alternative to food. Nurses hands really suffer from so much washing and anti baccing.

LeningradSymphony · 19/10/2022 12:58

A card with a handwritten note about what you appreciated about their care, and an e-mail to PALS to be forwarded to management naming and recognising the individual nurse/nurses and what you valued about their care.

The card will be really well received, but an e-mail to management is worth its weight in gold. A few times I've had a client ask for my manager's e-mail and sent positive feedback about me and it's truly the best possible gift.

OhFatty · 19/10/2022 13:09

Once we had a patient who owned the corner shop next to the hospital. A few weeks after she was discharged she came in with a huuuuge cardboard box full of packets of tights. We all had to wear them for work, so she thought they’d be well received. That was fantastic

Bellevu · 19/10/2022 13:09

Send an email to the ceo and director of nursing and copy pals.

Name names and job titles. This more than cake will make a huge difference.

A voucher for amazon so they can buy stuff for staff or patients they pay out of pocket or the coffee shop in the main reception. Then send the email.

Luredbyapomegranate · 19/10/2022 13:25

NOT chocolates or biscuits or crisps.

Combined with shift work it’s a recipe for weight gain - it drives all the nurses I know bonkers (am not a nurse but used to be a SW). A box of protein bars would be good though, or a fancy fruit basket or vouchers for the coffee shop downstairs.

But mainly a card, naming everyone you can

AliceS1994 · 19/10/2022 13:52

I agree as others have said- written good feedback as 1

  • we have to collect a number of prices of feedback to use it when we renew our nursing license, often you get lovely thank yous on person but we can't really use it unless written down.
-we can add it to a portfolio which helps the best nurses get into better jobs, which is win win for nurses and patients. -most importantly, because nursing in the NHS is soul destroying at the moment and it really goes a long way! It is awful when you work yourself to the bone only to feel like you've still let your patients down because you didnt have enough time for them that's it's important to hold onto the times you manage to get it right!

And/or, food!

FurryDandelionSeekingMissile · 19/10/2022 14:51

Crispyturtle · 19/10/2022 11:37

Please don’t threaten the nurses 😂

but seriously, a thank you card is always really lovely. Nurses have to evidence feedback to renew their registration so if there’s anyone in particular you could name them in the card so they can use it as evidence. And everyone is always thrilled with snacks of any kind!

This is absolutely not a criticism of the nurses themselves who are required to evidence positive feedback, and who may need to include in their folders any thank you cards etc. they may receive, or else look like they didn't get any positive patient feedback, but… I'm kind of slightly uncomfortable about the fact that this is something which is expected of healthcare workers when they do their revalidation/evaluation/renewal portfolio thingies.

To me it feels as though an expectation by the system that thank you cards should be utilised and presented to assessors as evidence of positive patient feedback turns something that, in the past, would have been valued just as a human-to-human expression of appreciation into something that also has a measurable external value, and giving it an instrumental value can change what it is, how it'll be received, and if the sender is aware of this practice, how they go about it. If the sender isn't aware of the fact it might be shared with others beyond the intended recipient(s) for purposes the sender didn't anticipate, it seems… somehow not right, to me — almost like pinning a card that was intended only for staff on one of those public noticeboards that some places have for pinning thank you cards (presumably with the giver's implicit or explicit consent).

Of course I would want staff whose work I appreciate, and who have helped me, to receive recognition of the fact that their hard work is appreciated by patients, and I try to find some kind of channel to communicate that (there's usually a "comments, compliments, complaints" link somewhere; I once managed to find one specifically for the phlebotomy service so I could praise a great phlebotomist).

It just feels odd somehow that someone might write a heartfelt note thinking they're communicating something for the recipient(s) personally to read (which might contain quite private info, though maybe this is redacted when used for evidential purposes), without realising that within the healthcare system their personal expression of gratitude is just another metric to be pulled out, shown around, and exploited in an evidentiary capacity.

Given that the system is how it is and that I know cards and notes may be used this way, and knowing that healthcare workers are under all kinds of ridiculous pressures to evidence this, that and the other, I am glad if any card or note I might give could be of benefit to the person I'm thanking during their revalidation or equivalent process. But although I know it's silly, there's something at the back of my mind saying that the expectation that thank you cards will be put in folders as evidence might have changed how people feel about receiving them, so rather than thinking something like "How lovely, it's nice to know they appreciated my hard work," they might care less about my appreciation per se than about its evidentiary value. And though the latter is actually more tangibly helpful for the person I'm grateful to, it could make the note/card feel almost like a payment in kind, rather than the human connection and expression of gratitude or appreciation that was intended.

So… yes. On the one hand, it's nice to feel there's a way I can give back practically. On the other, the practice does make me feel uncomfortable.

GingerPCatt · 19/10/2022 14:59

If you do bring food, please bring in something store bought so that people with allergies can check ingredients. Also, while I’m sure your kitchen is perfectly clean, you can never tell with homemade so they are often thrown
out.

BlackKittyMama · 19/10/2022 15:33

A thank you card is more than enough, and always appreciated! Chocolates or nice tea/coffee are always a winner as well, if you want to get something more 😁