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Things other people do that irrationally annoy you

501 replies

HuzzahIndeed · 18/10/2022 10:21

What do other people do that makes you really mad even though it really doesn't matter. My mum has made me so cross this morning over something that is meaningless. Logically I know it doesn't matter but I'm fuming. 🤣

The crime? She said that my youngest brother has been with his fiancé longer than I've been with my husband. I started dating my husband before he started school and got married just as he started secondary school so it isn't like she's slightly out. See, doesn't matter and yet grrrr.

Also middle brother announced his engagement at oldest brothers engagement party. Oldest brother and his wife are the most chilled people you have ever met (unlike me clearly) so didn't seem to mind but I was furious as it's such bad form.

Also the cat is a dick. She has several water bowls and fountains but won't use them. Put a mug of water down someone and her head is straight in there. We've taken to leaving water mugs in various places (which inevitable end up getting spilled) and drinking out of lidded travels cups.

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ilovearainyday · 27/10/2022 08:14

I have a list! 😂

  1. Noises other people make that I deem to have no purpose. So for example, I can handle hammering because that has a purpose, someone's making/hanging something. Drumming your fingers on a table though? No purpose, therefore irritating! Same with whistling, clicking a pen and anything else that my haughty self does not deem 'purposeful'. 😂
  1. Middle lane drivers. Even worse when you overtake and see they're fiddling with their phone!
  1. People who stop suddenly in supermarkets, nearly causing a trolley pile up. Like it's not hard to quickly look around you before doing an emergency stop in the middle of the cheese aisle
  1. Grief-jackers. People who make others' grief and misfortune all about them and their feelings, E.g 'my friend's sister died today and I'm utterly heartbroken. I'm crying so much and I can't eat etc etc...'

Ok, I'll stop now!!

HMSSophia · 27/10/2022 08:18

Live and breathe

EightyEighty · 27/10/2022 08:22

Self monologue.

Don't realise the petrol pump hose generally reaches to the opposite side of the car.

People who don't put the check out separator thingy on the check out belt when they've finished loading their shopping.

hellywelly3 · 27/10/2022 08:24

People who say “sorry if that upset you/ sorry you feel that” rather than “sorry for upsetting you”. It’s taking the blame off themselves for their shit behaviour. We all make mistakes and can be dicks sometimes, just be accountable and apologise. Arghhhh

ilovearainyday · 27/10/2022 08:27

@WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps "his elbow was poking me (I hope it was his elbow!)"
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This had me laughing out loud!*😂😂

HunterAngel · 27/10/2022 08:31

People who walk just inside the shop door and stop dead. Why?? Just move to one side, stop blocking the door.

Also people who seem to think they’re the only person in the world and charge headlong across the aisle/footpath whatever without looking. I nearly ran over some woman yesterday because she stepped out in front of me without looking. I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve been rammed by a supermarket trolley because the dope pushing didn’t think anyone would be walking nearby

AlexDrake1981 · 27/10/2022 08:38

Noisy eaters.

People who call dogs ‘puppers,’ or ‘doggos’.

People who take plugs out of electricity sockets, and don’t switch the sockets off.

People (especially my husband) who can’t sneeze without screaming it out.

People (also my husband) who faff about before doing anything.

People who don’t indicate at roundabouts.

Disclaimer: I am well aware I’m not perfect 😁

FortheBeautyoftheEarth · 27/10/2022 08:45

I'm a bit ashamed of how ageist this is but here goes - when retired people who have a lot more free time during the week decide to go to the supermarket and make everything even more chockablock and crowded and be completely oblivious to their surroundings, when some of us only have a small window in which to do our weekly shop due to working hours and young families. I get that it's their free choice to do so and some may rely on others to take them (completely get that!), but as for the rest, it baffles me!

BreatheAndFocus · 27/10/2022 09:25

People who eat crisps with their mouth open! The noise - I hate it!
People who stop to chat in the middle of the pavement instead of stepping to one side.
People who won’t reverse on single track lanes and just keep driving at you as if their car is suddenly going to grow wings and fly over the top of yours.
People who don’t indicate - idiots!
People who talk to you on trains when you’re obviously trying to read a book.

DangerousAlchemy · 27/10/2022 09:25

*DH walking round the kitchen cleaning his teeth loudly while I'm still eating breakfast. Ugh! I don't need to listen/watch. I've told him hundreds of times I don't like it (he over-brushes too) but he never seems to remember/care.
*Cyclists in general (sorry) but they're holding up traffic & some look absolutely ridiculous in their outfits. Find a designated cycle path/trail. Roads are SO dangerous where I live (SE England) - it surely can't be that enjoyable for them with all the fumes & lorries thundering past!
*Motorists who don't let people turn right out of a junction before they turn in. Common courtesy. I do it all the time especially if there's a queue of people trying to turn right. So selfish.
*Other motorists in general.
*Most people
*Mornings. just why?

withaspongeandarustyspanner · 27/10/2022 09:27

I've thought of some more.

People asking me what I'm doing about childcare. I'm not the only parent. They did this when I was married to their dad too. 'Oh, you're applying for a job - what about childcare? Have you thought of that?' Grrrr.

Actually Ex-H still uses me as a kind of hired help in the holidays. I am a mere convenience.

Also, people in my household have different dietary requirements (allergies, preferences). When I ask what they want to eat they say 'I don't mind'. Well, clearly you do becaus if I cooked meat/dairy you wouldn't eat it, so you do very much mind.

FookinMamsnet · 27/10/2022 09:29

1.When people refer to breasts as ‘boobs’ or ‘boobies. They are breasts.

2 When people refer to the vulva as a Willy or any other word

  1. Men, in general
  1. Americanisms
  1. My sisters materialism
  1. Really irrational one. When people call them selves experts. No. You are very knowledgable but it’s impossible to know absolutely everything about one subject but you can be very knowledgable. It’s arrogant.
Asher33 · 27/10/2022 09:32

When theres plenty of Sears and someone sits next to you.

Obki · 27/10/2022 09:36

1.When people refer to breasts as ‘boobs’ or ‘boobies. They are breasts.

Agreed. Tits is worse.

Igglepiggleslittletoe · 27/10/2022 09:40

@FookinMamsnet

2 When people refer to the vulva as a Willy or any other word

I have never in my life heard anyone refer to the vulva as a willy. Not ever. The penis yes but that is it.

HistrionicNeurotic · 27/10/2022 09:47

The culprit is my Mother. She has had two children but still calls it a Willy. She’s the only person I know as well. I just can’t.

Edithdrix80 · 27/10/2022 10:12

People making big announcements in front of friends group to show off or make jeleous. Its just cringe.
People who say oh yes I know when in fact they didn't know at all so why say I know (totally irrational but annoys the he'll out of me)

Pheefifofuckthisshit · 27/10/2022 10:14

If my eldest pauses a programme, when he presses play he says "and we're back". It makes me internally murderous.

My mum takes words or phrases I use and uses them lots but in the wrong way.

Examples: she takes words I use regarding autism such as shut down, meltdown, etc and uses them when she's mildly tired or upset. When I was an ofsted registered childminder she'd offer to childmind my child.

My ex comes in with the kids at handovers and reads my calendar, any letters left out etc. I've been in his house maybe three times and he's clearly not wanted me in each time.

People blocking aisles in shops while they chat.

None of these matter in the grand scheme of things but all make me furious.

Plingston · 27/10/2022 10:16

I think most of these are quite rational. I have an irrational one.

I get really, really annoyed when I've had the same car behind me for quite a while. I don't even mean drivers who are driving up my arse and trying to force me to speed - just normal drivers who happen to need to go the same way as me. It really winds me up. I feel under pressure for some reason. I also feel that I revert back to being a teenager annoyed that somebody is copying me. I have been known to tut and sigh and occasionally mutter under my breath.

Obki · 27/10/2022 10:16

@Pheefifofuckthisshit those are all very annoying.

Why does ex come on on handover? Can you meet him at the door so he can’t come in or do the kids have a key?

Anonymous177 · 27/10/2022 10:22

FortheBeautyoftheEarth · 27/10/2022 08:45

I'm a bit ashamed of how ageist this is but here goes - when retired people who have a lot more free time during the week decide to go to the supermarket and make everything even more chockablock and crowded and be completely oblivious to their surroundings, when some of us only have a small window in which to do our weekly shop due to working hours and young families. I get that it's their free choice to do so and some may rely on others to take them (completely get that!), but as for the rest, it baffles me!

Yes. There should be a public education campaign about it. When I went to Bletchley Park there was a wartime poster up in the cafe (the worst food I’ve had this century, by the way) telling housewives to get their shopping done by three o’clock to leave trains and buses free for the workers.

1HappyTraveller · 27/10/2022 11:00

When you move out of someone’s way or hold a door open and they don’t say thank you! It absolutely boils my piss.

Also noisy eating. And people who shove food in their mouth before swallowing the previous mouthful. Just piling it in. Even worse if they’re chewing with their mouth open or talking at the same time. It’s too much. Just. Stop.

1HappyTraveller · 27/10/2022 11:04

HuzzahIndeed · 18/10/2022 12:42

People who don't say please and thank you when asking for/collecting things you've offered on facebook/freecycle.

I'm currently waiting in for someone to collect something I've offered. His reply to my post was literally "I'll have this. Where are you? I'll come tomorrow". He made me so cross but I need it gone and no one else wants it so I have to let him have it. I'm fuming with myself over it. But I know I'll smile and say thank you when he comes. Then I'll be even more cross with myself.

I wouldn’t let him have it the CF. I guess that’s one benefit of being a hoarder - you never need to get rid of ANYTHING!

AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 27/10/2022 11:11

My in laws referring to shops by their slogans instead of the actual name. B&Q it, Asda Price, Finger Licking, Every Little Helps etc etc it drives me up the wall!

Anonymous177 · 27/10/2022 11:22

News reports referring to official government business happening on Halloween. People referring to Halloween as a holiday.
No. I don’t think Halloween is American.