Advice please :(

[lookmumthefox]

Hi.

Can I please have some advice?

My 17 year old who is currently battling with anxiety and depression, has spent an absurd amount of money on Lego, I’m speaking in the region of near to £2000.

He was a Lego fan when he was much younger, but over the years he grew out of it. I asked him why he has spent so much, he said that it is taking his mind of things, and whilst he is building, his mind is clear.

Now, I don’t know whether I shouldn’t mention it again, after all it’s his money.

I don’t really feel as if he is in the right frame of mind at the moment, and I don’t want him to later regret it, and possibly question me on why I didn’t stop him/make him return it.

Do you think it would be unreasonable of me, as his mother to NOT step in and persuade him to return the majority?

on the other hand he has said it helps him

I just saw a video last night that said mindfulness doesn’t work for everyone but that active mindfulness, such as puzzles or playing with Lego, is really beneficial to some people.

Grown up lego sets are very expensive - I imagine it’s not hard to spend £2000 on them. I imagine it’s giving him a lot of comfort and I think a stimulating hobby should be encouraged if you have depression, it’s just unfortunate that it’s such an expensive one! I think obviously other issues need to be addressed as PP said. But if spending his savings is the initial concern can he buy smarter? Get second hand online and sell the sets he’s finished with?