To ask who's in the wrong here?

[fbrockel]

I'm going to remain anonymous so it's unbiased.

A&B are teenagers (one is 18, other is slightly younger), they're in a relationship. Today, they went to a house of relative for person A, other family members were there aswell including person A’s parents.

A&B were being touchy (as I suppose teenagers are), one of them then sat on the others lap, briefly.

Person C, told them to keep their hands to themselves and to stop being so touchy infront of everyone as no one wants to see that or know about their sex life. Person D (one of person A’s parents) thought person C was BU, and accused them of being homophobic as they thought person A&B weren't doing anything wrong, Person C didn't stand down and was adamant person A&B were in the wrong, and they weren't being homophobic.

Who was in the wrong?

No bias here. But C is correct. No one needs to be doing PDA like that at a family gathering.

Straight or gay, it's inappropriate. Why do they think anyone else wants to watch a couple slobbering all over each other?

A and B sound gross. C was right. D sounds like a pandering parent and a complete dick to boot.

Okay that level of PDA sounds too much.

Is it their first relationship or first same sex relationship? When you first come before your family with a partner, I think you try and show that you're serious about each other because you do that thing where you try and act like adults. Like "hi family, look at me, I'm a grown up now! Treat me like one as I now have a LOVER"

First same sex relationship might be ott to show how proud/not ashamed they are and to gauge family reactions to sus out homophobia.

However, this is where a close family member such as a parent should step in and say "keep it in your pants kids, you're acting like a pair of luv struck tweens". It makes them want to act more 'grown up'.

Perhaps C was trying to do this, but obviously D is protective of them. Social awareness does come with age, C might have been too harsh but their point seems valid.

I think person C didn't need to mention "sex life" unless A&B were explicitly discussing sex, otherwise they were right and everyone else was unreasonable. No one wants to be around a touchy freely couples in a family gathering.

A&B were holding hands, touching each other anywhere, and person A was cuddling into person B as they were tired. They were also kissing, and flirting calling each other cute etc.

A & B were behaving inappropriately, and Person D was wrong.

A, B and D were unreasonable. D also can't go around calling people homophobic because they don't want to watch PDA

A&B continued to touch each other, then they left not long after. They weren't at person C’s house, they were atperson C’s mums’.

OP I'm guessing you're person C - you weren't in the wrong.

Only one of the two is even an adult

Around family members in previous relationships it's best to be more professional rather than all kissing etc

OTT public displays of affection are nauseating for most people, regardless of the sexual preferences. In a family setting, and as a new introduction it’s inappropriate at best, rude at worse.

person C is in the right.

Come on @fbrockel the unwritten rule of these sorts of post is that eventually you tell everyone which anonymous person you are in the situation.
I'm guessing you are C, and your sibling or sibling-in-law is D. Either that or you're about to tell us you are actually the next door neighbour and heard all of this unfold while you were listening through a hedge in the garden.

A B & D

A, B & D we’re unreasonable. Nobody wants to see that regardless of sexual orientation.

A&B were completely inappropriate and childish.

A&B were being touchy (as I suppose teenagers are)
No, not around parents.

D is a total idiot jumping on the soap box.