Husband can't return the right kids clothing to right child when putting washing away

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We have 4 kids. 18, 14, 10 and 8.

14 year old and 18 are the same size so ok maybe that's OK to get mixed up. But...

10 years old clothes go to the 14 year old who has SEN so he will happily wear 10-11 trousers that are 6 inches to short as he can get them on ( all the kids are very thin, except the 10 year old)

20 year old gets his sisters clothes that are unisex but she is tiny so some things are age 6.

Ten year old gets everyone's clothes.

8 year old only gets her things.

I get that I buy all the clothes so I know who everything belongs to, but dh sees the kids wearing these things, they have age labels, the kids are 4 years apart except the youngest.

Do I really need to use a dot system on the labels to help him? ( one dot for eldest, 2 dots for 2nd child etc)

Occasionally he gives me or him the 18 year olds clothes. Ds18 is eight stone, 5,8 with a 28" waist. Neiyher me and dh could dream of fitting into his clothes.

Is this just him?

Nor can mine.Never could. I gave up trying. Found my PJ bottoms in their drawers, they kept being given the wrong pants and tees.

He's good at lots of other things and shares the work but just can't seem to notice who wears what.

The dot system works if you reverse it. 1 dot for eldest, 4 dots for youngest. Add a dot every time an item gets handed down. Simples 😊

You need to get some real issues if this is all your complaining about

My DH did this as well as various other laundry crimes and this is why I do laundry. He does lots of other tasks that he is better at. Stopped a lot of frustration for me.

All of your children are old enough to pick up their own clothes. Why don’t you complain about them rather than your husband. Where did the 20 year old come from, is that a fifth child who also cannot pick up their own clothes?

Did you know you can have little problems and big problems at the same time, and sometimes little problems develop into big problems?

Dh does more than his share of housework and parenting but this really bugs me.

OP if it bugs you, you have to either let it go and make them find a system that works for you, or you change your laundry system. The dot one is good (we used it) as is coloured thread (when we all went through an only wearing black tights phase).

But your DCs are old enough to learn how to take their own laundry from the clean/folded/ironed pile. Or do their own . Or for them to develop a system that works for them and you butt out. Or you do it all. If your DH does his fair share of other things, for your own sake, you need to let it go.

That's not even remotely funny.

The 3 oldest kids should do their own laundry

She explains that on the second post down!

Laundry pen, just write their first initials in the tags. Doesn't need to be more complicated than that then.

I regularly put the wrong clothes in rooms…it’s not deliberate,I just cannot remember whose clothes re whose! Two sons and husband makes it hard to remember…why does it matter so much ?

They are old enough to sort it themselves.

I get confused though

Get one of those stampers, and stampers their names into their clothes.

Learned or deliberate incompetence.

DH is a whizz at it

Take the laundered clothes upstairs and then let your kids put their own clothes away? Let the older kids do their own washing?

Get the 2 older ones without special needs to do their own washing and you just do the rest.

Let the older kids do their own washing
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This is not a particularly good suggestion given the current fuel cost issue. Surely reducing the number of loads is a much better solution.

This… I did my own laundry at 14 years old🧐🧐

My DH is similar. I ended up with DD’s pants the other day - she is a skinny 11 year old, I am a size 12 on a good day. In almost every other respect he is perfect and I most definitely am not so I take this as not being his strong point and I mostly do the laundry.

My DH manages to mix up my pairs of socks with our 3yo's socks and sometimes I get one of his sports socks paired with his sports socks (same brand and colour). He's also colourblind. In general, he's ok with the laundry but socks are a nightmare in our house!

Wash them, fold them, put them on couch, call kids to put away. I can’t tell the difference sometimes.

Get them to do their own washing!! My girls have since they were 11 why are you washing their clothes??

Suggesting the kids do their own washing always comes up on these threads. How does this work, practically? I have 3 kids. The machine would never stop, and be 1/4full?!