I recently went back to work after mat leave and am sat here wondering how on earth this is worth it ?! after paying all my bills of food, rent, electricity, water, internet, netflix, phone, commute and childcare etc i'm only left with £200 a month to save? i'm not a big spender either, all my income goes on the mentioned above plus £100 spending allowance for myself.
I'm not trying to rant, but i'd like to understand how other working mums do it? is this a reasonable amount to save per month or is there something very wrong in my finances? I live with my DH and we split all bills / expenses if anyone is wondering
AIBU?
to think the amount of money im left with by the end of the month is ridiculous?
yellowcheesepie · 15/10/2022 13:36
Am I being unreasonable?
1265 votes. Final results.
POLLNursemumma92 · 17/10/2022 11:47
@berksandbeyond no one has said its shit life Olympics. I would have chosen not to read the thread had it not been entitled 'To think the money that I'm left with at the end of the month is ridiculous'
We've all come on here to empathise expecting her to say she's got £0 left over once all bills and expenses are accounted for but she's moaning its not worth working for an extra £300 a month.
£300 doesn't go far these days I know, but to have that as disposable income EACH MONTH is far more than the majority of the population, particularly having just returned from maternity leave with a baby in full time childcare.
There will always be someone worse off than you but when the country is in a cost of living crisis, it doesn't hurt to put people into perspective so they can be grateful for what they have. It is AIBU after all, and as the majority of posters have said- yes she is.
Nursemumma92 · 17/10/2022 13:07
@berksandbeyond you really don't get it do you. It's called reading the room... clearly you, OP, a handful of others are in the same boat and cannot see any other point of view.
It's good to be sensitive to the feelings of others... you are right you can always offend someone but giving the example of not posting about your kids because it's insensitive to those who can't have kids... on MUMSNET... that's taking the point too far. I am obviously sympathetic to those people and they are more than welcome on here but the clue is in the name. You are clutching at straws.
berksandbeyond · 17/10/2022 13:10
I'm really not, you're all being ridiculous. It's £300, she's not shitting gold!
Nursemumma92 · 17/10/2022 13:07
@berksandbeyond you really don't get it do you. It's called reading the room... clearly you, OP, a handful of others are in the same boat and cannot see any other point of view.
It's good to be sensitive to the feelings of others... you are right you can always offend someone but giving the example of not posting about your kids because it's insensitive to those who can't have kids... on MUMSNET... that's taking the point too far. I am obviously sympathetic to those people and they are more than welcome on here but the clue is in the name. You are clutching at straws.
1000N · 16/10/2022 21:21
Wish i had that, if im left with a positive balance of £1 at the end of the month that’s really good!
i have a good job and i have ZERO personal expenses- example the last time i went to have my hair cut was July 2021, been doing it at home since ( looks awful)!
Mrsmch123 · 16/10/2022 21:53
@usernamealreadytaken yeh IF her husband has the same left over then that's a good amount. However if he has none then it is indeed shite. £300 isn't a lot for "all other things" particularly if you have children.....a trip to soft play for example £7/8 entry £4/5 a meal x 2 kids soon adds up.....
Mrsmch123 · 17/10/2022 12:32
working and having £300 left to show for it is shite no matter if others are worse off! Yes you are "better off" than others but you don't know how much time/effort the job takes and at what cost to the OPS family expense. It's not a race to the bottom!
Ɍachel · 17/10/2022 13:26
Realistically, if you have no personal expenses and no money left at the end of the month, you don't have a good job.
1000N · 16/10/2022 21:21
Wish i had that, if im left with a positive balance of £1 at the end of the month that’s really good!
i have a good job and i have ZERO personal expenses- example the last time i went to have my hair cut was July 2021, been doing it at home since ( looks awful)!
berksandbeyond · 17/10/2022 09:50
It's not a race to the bottom. So because your life is shit you think everyone should struggle? Nice
23Elfie · 16/10/2022 21:48
🤣🤣 try not having a pot to piss in and maxing out the overdraft on things that keep you alive, then come back and moan! Joker!
Solonge · 17/10/2022 17:14
wow....you truly are a sweet heart arent you.....'just because your life is shit' you really said that....FFS try to understand that millions in the UK have been plunged into proverty....is it beyond your understanding to not be so fecking unpleasant...?
berksandbeyond · 17/10/2022 09:50
It's not a race to the bottom. So because your life is shit you think everyone should struggle? Nice
23Elfie · 16/10/2022 21:48
🤣🤣 try not having a pot to piss in and maxing out the overdraft on things that keep you alive, then come back and moan! Joker!
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Solonge · 17/10/2022 17:08
Who said anything about race to the bottom? the idea of going to work is to make it possible to buy or rent a home, provide heating, food and clothing for your family. Holidays possibly....Christmas hopefully....what are you saying? you expect a thousand quid a month left over at the end of paying out? if thats what you mean, then clearly its a case of getting a much better paid job....though maybe if you do that, you will give up the time with your kid and husband, face long commutes or time away with your job. Some are lucky enough to have that choice, the majority dont...and making ends meet is frankly, good enough....and not to be looked down on.
Mrsmch123 · 17/10/2022 12:32
working and having £300 left to show for it is shite no matter if others are worse off! Yes you are "better off" than others but you don't know how much time/effort the job takes and at what cost to the OPS family expense. It's not a race to the bottom!
Eudaimonia5 · 15/10/2022 13:48
I'm £200 into my overdraft every month (through no fault of my own) so consider yourself very fortunate to have money spare that you can save. I'd love to be able to save a tenner each month!
berksandbeyond · 17/10/2022 12:13
Well Mumsnet is going to very dull isn't it?
Can't post about your DH because you should be sensitive to those who haven't met anyone
Can't post about your kids because insensitive to those who can't have kids
Can't post about your new shoes you bought because some people don't have legs and that would be insensitive
Can't post about about diet because some people are starving and that would be insensitive
Nursemumma92 · 17/10/2022 11:47
@berksandbeyond no one has said its shit life Olympics. I would have chosen not to read the thread had it not been entitled 'To think the money that I'm left with at the end of the month is ridiculous'
We've all come on here to empathise expecting her to say she's got £0 left over once all bills and expenses are accounted for but she's moaning its not worth working for an extra £300 a month.
£300 doesn't go far these days I know, but to have that as disposable income EACH MONTH is far more than the majority of the population, particularly having just returned from maternity leave with a baby in full time childcare.
There will always be someone worse off than you but when the country is in a cost of living crisis, it doesn't hurt to put people into perspective so they can be grateful for what they have. It is AIBU after all, and as the majority of posters have said- yes she is.
Ɍachel · 17/10/2022 13:26
Realistically, if you have no personal expenses and no money left at the end of the month, you don't have a good job.
1000N · 16/10/2022 21:21
Wish i had that, if im left with a positive balance of £1 at the end of the month that’s really good!
i have a good job and i have ZERO personal expenses- example the last time i went to have my hair cut was July 2021, been doing it at home since ( looks awful)!
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Solonge · 17/10/2022 17:14
wow....you truly are a sweet heart arent you.....'just because your life is shit' you really said that....FFS try to understand that millions in the UK have been plunged into proverty....is it beyond your understanding to not be so fecking unpleasant...?
berksandbeyond · 17/10/2022 09:50
It's not a race to the bottom. So because your life is shit you think everyone should struggle? Nice
23Elfie · 16/10/2022 21:48
🤣🤣 try not having a pot to piss in and maxing out the overdraft on things that keep you alive, then come back and moan! Joker!
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