Lesbians rushing relationships?

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Is this a thing?
I have 3 friends all dating less than 6 months
2 already moved in and engaged and the other saving for a mortgage.
Is this a thing?
I've never known people rush ahead so much

This made me laugh as a lovely female colleague has recently got engaged to a woman she's never met in real life. They also live in different countries. I gently enquired about the logistics and speed of it all.

"Don't worry Whirly, it's just how lesbians do things" was the reply.

She seems very happy so I left it there.

I moved in with DH after 3 weeks and married him not long after. It's not just lesbians that can move fast.

Married lesbian here, from my experience it's as varied as straight relationships. It is 100% seen as a 'thing' in the media though, I'm not entirely sure why or how!

But yes I would say from my experiences there are some couples (lesbians) who move fast. I'm sure some would argue it's because there are less lesbians than straight people so therefore chances of finding one you connect with are less so when you do it feels like WOW better get cats, better move in etc.

Heterosexual here.
Moved in after 4 weeks
Engaged after 16 weeks
Found out on the same day as engagement 16 weeks pregnant 🤣
Now happily Iving together in our own place with a beautiful 5 month old baby.

Some people just move faster than others. I've been in relationships for 5 years before where engagement wasn't even discussed.

Not your circus not your monkeys and certainly not behaviours solely reserved for lesbians.

Lesbian here. Lesbians have always had a reputation for moving in together on the second date and yes, sometimes it happens.

In my experience it tends to happen with younger women who don't own their own homes or have family responsibilities. If you're young and you've fallen in love and you don't have children to worry about then I think a lot of women just go for it. It can be cheaper to live together than both be paying rent.

In the early days of civil partnerships lesbians dissolved civil partnerships at a higher rate than gay men. I think there was a learning curve when a number of women raced into CPs and got badly financially burned as a result. I don't think as many lesbians rush into marriage or CPs now.

My partner and I have been together for more than 20 years and many of the women we know have been together for longer. I know women who have been in dedicated relationships for decades but have never lived together out of choice. Like all sections of the community, there's a wide range of behaviours.

Indeed!

My ex is bi, and after we split she had several failed relationship attempts with men who she threw herself at (one night stands that she tried to declare were relationships).

Then she got together with a woman, and they married 6 weeks after first meeting (I think that's pretty quick, considering you have to give 28 days notice beforehand). Ex told our kids (5 and 7 at the time) they were getting married, but didn't say when, and told the kids to keep it a secret. Then she proceeded to turn up at school pickup in her wedding dress afterwards. Social worker described their relationship as a 'toxic co dependency', and it went downhill from there.

They split up after 2 years (I was surprised they lasted that long). Then after a while my ex met another woman, and moved at lightning pace all over again (first introduced the kids when new woman was there staying for the weekend). Within a month my ex decided to get back together with her wife, and that overlapped with the new woman, before she bothered to tell her!

The 2nd attempt with the wife lasted about 3 months and ended with another spectacular bust up. Now my ex is in yet another new, fast moving relationship and throwing a hissy fit at my suggestion to not rush into introducing our kids to her new partner.

I don't care what my ex gets up to, I'm just trying to shield my kids from all this. Unfortunately, they're starting to consider it normal relationship behaviour.

So based on a sample size of one, lesbians rush relationships!

I’m straight and had a much more “rushed” relationship timeline than all my lesbian friends (I happen to have quite a few).

Not in real life but I've heard a female (gay) comedian make jokes about the speed at which lesbian relationships move. It's a stereotype I suppose but not terribly funny tbh.

I'm bi. All of my relationships with women took at least 6 months to get past the awkward eye contact, are we flirting, stage!

I suspect it’s just coincidence. I suspect the marry in haste, repent at leisure adage usually holds true.

both of my nephews married people too young and as expected split up..

I find it stranger when the het couples are together for literally years without commitment in terms of moving in/engagement etc tbh.